I am almost 3 years out and very few people know. My work HR refused to even let me tell my boss. What I have found is judgement from people that think surgwry is the easy way out... which we all know is not true.. in order for it to truly work... you gotta eat right and move. There is so much negative stigma assosciated with the procedures. I say share with who you are comfortable with. The last thing you need is judgement for trying to live a healthier life. I have worked out and run religiously for almost 3 years to show how hard I have worked. Only now am I comfortable sharing my story because I want to be part of the movement that changes how people bariatric patients.. it has to start somewhere!
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I reiterate, we can still help others without telling everyone. Look at this forum, so many people helping out others and a lot aren't vocal about their decision in everyday life. Same with social media. I am not telling anyone but my husband. That doesn't make me untruthful. I just don't tell anyone my business. I keep everything in my life private. I do not overshare on social media with friends and family. I do not call and tell people anything about my life. I say we are good and I move on. With my last pregnancy, I didn't share with most people until late in the pregnancy, not because I was ashamed, but because it just wasn't anyone's business. And then I didn't let them know how far along I was or when I was due, because it really didn't matter. That time was for me and my husband, so it didn't matter if anyone was hurt or upset by it. I go to school and no one knows my major. Like I said, I am just a private person. Extremely private. If I lost weight In the past I'd keep that to myself. I would usually get negative feedback from family, so it wouldn't matter how I did it or how much was lost. If we want to avoid negativity, that is our choice. In the end, whether we decide to help others or not, that is also our choice. Yeah you choose to, but others may not. Just because we have surgery, does not mean that we sign up to be advocates. That does not make us untruthful. If someone walked up to me and asked how I lost weight, I would not say weight loss surgery, because that is private and no one's business but my own. If they assume, there is nothing I can do about that. If I share my workout or what I eat, that is also not being untruthful, because that is something I have to do to lose or maintain. But I am fine with asking and helping on here, because the anonymity doesn't require for someone to be up in my business.
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