MicheleK

Grats on your surgery date!!! I can hardly wait for mine...

You're right...tomorrow is my 35th Birthday...might as well give myself a gift and stop now. I hope I can do it. (I didn't take your post as mean, just honest, thanks, I needed a little kick in the ass)

Thanks for the response Gone :embaressed_smile: Yes, he knows I smoke. He requires I quit for 2 wks prior to surgery (should be a lot of fun). I'm trying to quit now on my own, as Chantrix gives me HORRIBLE nightmares. I've cut down a lot but I still haven't stopped completely.

Ok, I'm waiting on Aetna to approve my Lap Band, I've met their guidelines and I feel pretty confident I won't have many issues (we hope). Anyway, I went to see my surgeon yesterday and I asked him what pre-op tests he does. He told me the only major one they do (besides blood work and chest xray) is the upper GI (can't wait - har har). Well, I also had an appointment later that afternoon with my PCP so I told her I wanted my heart checked (I know...I'm over-reacting). To make me feel better she's doing an EKG and a ECG next week, lol. I'm really not all "that" worried about my heart but, I do have high BP and I just want to make sure my ticker is doing okay before I have surgery. So, she also orders a chest xray, I told her my surgeon was planning on doing one, and she said "Thats fine, I want to also" I guess because I've never had one. Ok, so now I'm scared....I smoke...omg I'm having visions of lung issues...I can't stop worrying about it. OMG...make it stop...... I know I'm acting like a child.....but I'm really kind of in a panic, because cancer runs in my family. (I know, my fault for smoking to begin with) Bleh...well I'm having it done tomorrow to just get it over with. I'm done being a big baby (for now).

LOL! Can't wait...

This post was an eye opener. I never thought of this...I'm sure this is an issue for a lot of bandsters. Seriously, that has to be weird for the spouse, especially if they don't adjust quickly to change. I guess I can see how it would be hard for someone used to being married to a 300lb person...all of a sudden being married to a 150lb person. Let's face it, even if you have a lot of admirers at a larger size (and I know plenty of women that do) you'll have even MORE at a smaller size. Anyway, that's gotta be a tough spot for you guys, I mean it's enough to deal with your own changes...but trying to help the person you live with adjust too has to be a real pain.

Why would people be mean in the chatroom? WTF!!

My entire life revolves around planning meals and what I'm eating next....believe me I know how you feel. I'm glad you've made a step in the right direction to improve your health and your life. :tt1: We can do this! Let us know how the surgery goes...I'm nervous about mine and I'm not even approved yet...lol :tt1:

I just finished my Aetna diet...thank God! It's annoying but if it gets it paid for, it's worth it. :tt1: I'm on pins and needless now waiting for approval. They used to require a 5 year weight history also...thankfully it's only 2 years now. Oh, and I also found out today that they don't require a psych exam unless you've been under a doc's care for more then mild depression (not sure if that's new or not).

Aetna required a 3 month diet for me. I went to the nutritionist 4 times and just got the paperwork submitted today. It sucks having to wait, especially since I've spent pretty much the last 15 years doing nothing but dieting off and on, lol. Hang in there! It'll be worth it...it just sucks waiting especially when you have issues needing to be handled.

Wow you are one beautiful young woman. Your success is an inspiration!! Sorry you had to go through the PB stuff...that's one of my worst fears about being banded.

Wow Donna, your post really touched me, I saw a lot of myself in it. Weight problems go so much deeper then people give credit for. I've stopped going to church, heck I've even questioned God, my faith and everything I've believed my whole life. I know most of this insecurity and uncertainty comes from my weight. I've never been like this before.

I know exactly how you feel. It's normal to feel stress, it sounds like you have a lot of life changes coming your way. You're going to be just fine!! (BTW, grats on picking something decent to "binge" on, lol) Veggie Tray > Cake :thumbup:

Just wanted to pop in and offer my support. I don't have a date yet, but I have some of the same fears as you guys do. You're making a great decision for your health/life. I'll keep you all in my prayers for a smooth recovery. Be sure and tell us how your surgeries went!

I just wanted to pop in and say you guys are an inspiration. To make such intelligent decisions at such a young age...I don't know if I would've been capable of that at your age. Congrats on taking control of your lives! Keep up the good work! :thumbup:

Seriously, being policed over food choices would be totally counter-productive for me. Sorry you're going through that...and for the most part (especially in your DH's case) people are honestly trying to help. I'd just let them know that kind of help...doesn't really help at all.

Cheesecake Factory is EVIL...EVIL, EVIL.... I can't even go within 10miles of that place. Thank god the only one is clear across town. I can't believe you resisted the cheesecake....LJM you are officially superwoman...

Yeah Fluffy is not me...rabbits are fluffy, puppies are fluffy... Let's keep it real...I'm FAT. Words that hide the true meaning annoy me. I mean, I know I'm fat...I don't need a "cute" word to hide the fact everyone else does too. LOL

My poor DH doesn't even look at anyone (at least where I can see him). When we met my weight was WAAAAAY lower (by more then 100lbs) and I think he took some "peeks" more then. Of course, he realizes my horrible insecurities at the moment so I think he's trying to take my feelings into consideration. It's funny because even with my insecurities, I'm not a jealous person. If he wants to look that's okay with me. Hell, I look at hot men and women...it's human nature. I'm sure it was harmless....in fact, it's pretty normal.

Thanks for responding. I really like the girls in the officer too! They seem so nice. I'm nervous...and I can't wait for my surgery to be approved!!!

Wasa - I was actually responding to another response where I brought up your chicken thread....I called it "funny" and a few people (at least this is how I read it) thought I thought eating disorders were funny. Which I don't...obviously. I hope I didn't offend anyone I just wanted to make myself clear.

I agree with you Leslie. Negativity is sooooo toxic.

Several years ago, I lost over 100lbs (low cal, starvation!) one of my best friends was FREAKING OUT when she started noticing my weightloss. She thought I was ill....I weighed 200lbs and she thought I was dying.... I asked her wtf her problem was and she told me she kept comparing my current body in her mind with my old one. Every time she saw me she expected to see the "old" me and when she didn't she was shocked all over again. I don't think that's normally the case as most people are jealous assholes, lol.

This is so well said....I agree 15000% (I live in Oklahoma...we have our share of Christian-faithed businesses, lol) I find people that need to wear their faith "on their sleeve" by advertising it every chance they get to be the most insincere.

I like these threads, they let me vent a little: 1. Not fitting into booths 2. Not fitting into seats at the movies 3. Being scared I'll run into someone I know when I go out somewhere 4. Not wanting to leave the house 5. Shopping at Layne Bryant and discovering their largest shirts STILL don't fit 6. Looking around every time I enter a room to see if I'm the fattest one there 7. Having people make comments about my weight...that are really nasty but they hide it behind "I'm trying to help you" 8. Being paranoid that everyone is judging me due to my weight 9. Cutting off friendships because I'm ashamed of the weight I've gained 10. That place UNDER your belly... 11. Dreading shaving my own legs 12. People thinking I'm older then I am 13. Not believing my husband when he tells me I'm beautiful