mrsNilla

I sincerely hope no one is judging her for her choice of profession, or her FB profile. Personally, I am all about making it work with what you've got! Clearly she has a strong sense of self confidence and I say MORE POWER to HER!

I worry more about her food choices and what they could do to her Healthwise. That's the ONLY issue here.

Congratulations on having your surgery and your success so far!
As far as Mom is concerned you might simply tell her that you have had stomach issues and the doctor has you on a strict diet. You are losing the weight through diet and excercise which is not lying it is the truth.
She doesnt need to know you have had surgery, that will only lead to more questions and comments.
Just remind her that you have been ill and eating right and losing weight is making you feel so much better.
It is not a lie and will leave you feeling better about things.
Best of luck with Mom!

I'm sure you didn't come to this desicion lightly. And you are doing it for the person who counts, you. Just continue with changing your habits and if others want to join in the sugar free pudding, just make more of it. They might have the same interest in losing some weight, but are not ready to say it out loud yet.
All the luck to you!
Nilla

I had rny in November, but I was on a strict diet since September. I lost some padding... still ways to go, but I'm told that it shows.
Here is my dilemma. I never told my Mom that I'm having surgery. She lives 300 miles from me and I see her whenever I have time to go and visit. Last time was just before my sugery and she wasn't happy that I was on a diet. She didn't notice that I already had lost some weight and I was trying to talk to her about wls in general. Nope. She would always change the subject to her sister in laws ass size. So I didn't tell her.
I was supposed to go to visit for xmas, but my hubby is very sick and not getting any better, so it had to be postponed. So I don't know when I will see her next time. I'm below the weight I was when we got married. I'm losing slowly, just over 2 lbs weekly average, but still she will notice it next time I go.
I had something called panniculitis in my stomach around xmas and I told her about that. So that might be my explanation. It comes with nausea ja puking, so not that far fetched. You might lose some weight with that.
I just don't like to lie.
The worse thing is my eating. She will notice that I eat very little. I can't just eat crap and in big portions for a weekend to hide my rny. I will be talked about, a lot. I love my Mom, but she is the worst gossip on the planet and likes to add her own views as facts on top of the story.
Oh well, it's done and I'm happy, so who cares. I'm sure I will end up with some horrible disease in her mind. She also diagnosed my hubbys illness to be a result of our pet parrots... So maybe I lost the weight due to them?
Nilla

I can't do the instructor from my flight school justice, but here is my short version: Two eskimos are drinking at the local igloo bar. One says to the other "my igloo is so cold, it snows when I breathe". The other one answers "my igloo is even colder, my piss freezes before it hits the toilet".
A lonely voice from the nearby table asks the two drunk eskimos to join him in his igloo... when they get there he lights a candle and starts taking the covers off his bed... the two eskimos get worried and want to leave, but the host stops them. He takes a brown shape from the linens and holds it over the candle... *fart noise*
It's so much better live, but you get the picture ????
Nilla

Today marks three months since I had my sleeve surgery on October 11 - Yom Kippur Day, and my personal day of atonement. I've come a long way since then, and since I began this effort in June of last year. I do not mind saying I started out with a considerable amount of trepidation, even fear of the surgery and the possible complications or side effects which could result. I am grateful to my Lord and God that none of that arose. It has been an exceptionally smooth process and recovery. As of this writing, I am down 125 lbs (I checked this morning), putting me at a svelte 356 lbs. When I lose another 9 lbs post surgery loss will equal pre surgery loss, and I am excited about that. Just last night I made my first professional presentation to a crowd since surgery, and that went extremely well. The attached picture was taken last night by a long time friend of mine (24 years) whose shop I was in for that presentation. I still have a ways to go, but I am well past the halfway point of the entire journey.

Oh, I do! And I am going to have to use that one! Thank you for posting it.

I just tell people outside my circle that I have changed my diet, and it is restrictive. As a result, my stomach size has changed. This is not all the truth, but it is enough of it to satisfy most people. I don't know if it would get past your Mom, but it might help. Good luck with it!

Thanks for everyones input!
I had a lovely nut who asked if I was interested in wls, because she considered me a good candidate. That was my start to this journey and she will get a bunch of flowers when I see her in 2 months! I saw her in September the last time and she has always been very supportive, even though we don't see eye to eye on everything. But we can agree to disagree ☺
Nilla

I can't do the instructor from my flight school justice, but here is my short version: Two eskimos are drinking at the local igloo bar. One says to the other "my igloo is so cold, it snows when I breathe". The other one answers "my igloo is even colder, my piss freezes before it hits the toilet".
A lonely voice from the nearby table asks the two drunk eskimos to join him in his igloo... when they get there he lights a candle and starts taking the covers off his bed... the two eskimos get worried and want to leave, but the host stops them. He takes a brown shape from the linens and holds it over the candle... *fart noise*
It's so much better live, but you get the picture ????
Nilla

I had rny in November, but I was on a strict diet since September. I lost some padding... still ways to go, but I'm told that it shows.
Here is my dilemma. I never told my Mom that I'm having surgery. She lives 300 miles from me and I see her whenever I have time to go and visit. Last time was just before my sugery and she wasn't happy that I was on a diet. She didn't notice that I already had lost some weight and I was trying to talk to her about wls in general. Nope. She would always change the subject to her sister in laws ass size. So I didn't tell her.
I was supposed to go to visit for xmas, but my hubby is very sick and not getting any better, so it had to be postponed. So I don't know when I will see her next time. I'm below the weight I was when we got married. I'm losing slowly, just over 2 lbs weekly average, but still she will notice it next time I go.
I had something called panniculitis in my stomach around xmas and I told her about that. So that might be my explanation. It comes with nausea ja puking, so not that far fetched. You might lose some weight with that.
I just don't like to lie.
The worse thing is my eating. She will notice that I eat very little. I can't just eat crap and in big portions for a weekend to hide my rny. I will be talked about, a lot. I love my Mom, but she is the worst gossip on the planet and likes to add her own views as facts on top of the story.
Oh well, it's done and I'm happy, so who cares. I'm sure I will end up with some horrible disease in her mind. She also diagnosed my hubbys illness to be a result of our pet parrots... So maybe I lost the weight due to them?
Nilla

How can it be so hard to try to get fit?
I wanted to get some more motivation and ordered a Polar activity tracker as a xmas present to myself, since Santa didn't hear my wish. My requirements were that it tracks my heart rate from my wrist, records my sleep and is Water tight.
So I measure my wrist and get the size S, with some room to spare. I'm happy to get a text 2 days later that I can pick it up at the post office... wait, what?!? That's not where I wanted it shipped! It's further away than the actual store I ordered the tracker from!!
So I get on the chat and tell them it's been shipped to the wrong location. Ok, thank you, we will reship it to the correct location. I wait for the new text and again, they tell me to pick it up at the post office. So I repeat, they repeat and for the third time, they get it wrong!
Forth time the charm? Yes and no. It's a the correct location, but when I *try* to put it on, the strap is too short. It's impossible to close in a way that my fingers would have access to any blood. I wonder what the tracker would think about that? Strong heart rate or dead person?
At this time I don't have any trust for the shipping to work, so I go directly to the store. In a blizzard and freezing temperatures. I get a new (or so I thought) tracker size M after 35 minutes of waiting for service. I get home and open the box and the thing has been used! *insert favorite cuss word and multiply*
I have no patience for the chat and make a call to the customer service. The barely out of school sounding girl on the other end just suggests I go back *in the blizzard* and change it. Nope, thank you, get the sales person on the phone. He calls me a bit later and has no answer for me other than come and change it. He will give me a small gift card for my troubles.
So I go, another, but also freezing day. Try the new tracker on my wrist and check that it's unused. Get my gift card. Get home and load the tracker...
And it works!! Finally! I will get fit and track my life even closer than I have since my wls journey started. I'm a sucker for statistics and gadgets...
Now I just have to give the rowing machine a work out. It has been used as my hubbys coat rack for far too long!
Nilla

I can't wait to do it! I live in Japan so clothes shopping is impossible for me here (other than socks), so I keep everything, no matter how bad, just in case. That being said, limited closet space has meant throwing out most of the rag-like clothing in more recent years. However, the many years of shopping overseas has meant that when I find something I like, or that isn't horrible, I'll buy 2 or 3 of that item - which usually includes a smaller size for when I "lose" weight. Of course, that has never happened! But now I have about 10 small storage boxes of clothes (summer/winter, casual/work, -10 to 20 pounds, -20 to 40 pounds, etc.) that I will be able to shop from as I lose weight. This will be good for me since I literally have a closet full of clothes I have never worn! And 3 pairs of shoes too, since I get really swollen legs/ankles in the summer heat and humidity here (not that I can wear them in the winter time... ) and it wasn't worth the cost of shipping them back to the States even though they didn't fit.
The only thing that will suck (but in a very small way) is having a limited time to wear certain clothes that I really like or know will look good on me. Of course, I'd much rather lose the weight than wear the clothes, but still... I guess a NSV to look forward to will be increased closet space, as I will be able to get rid of clothes (hopefully I can find some plus-sized women to donate to) instead of constantly holding onto everything "just in case." I hope the clothes will last me until summer when I go back home, which will be 6-7 months post-op, so I can update my wardrobe then.

I always donated my clothes so I'll be shopping probably in summer.

Your answer before reminded me of a joke that includes 3 eskimos, a bar and fart Nilla

Today makes three months since my surgery On Oct 11. Thank you!
When I am fairly local, it is almost always a crowd of the usual suspects, with a few people who have never heard of me before thrown in for good measure. The further out I go, the fewer people know me, although there is always someone. And some clubs keep inflicting me on themselves, sort of like codependents.

You might try shock treatment!!!!
I remember 50 years ago when I was in Boot Camp, I didn't know if I would make it home for Christmas. The chance was looking pretty poor because all the marbles were not in place. So when I talked with my mom leading up to the holidays, I told her it probably wasn't going to happen. Well at the last minute, my orders came through and I flew home and had my sister pick me up at the airport. I called my mom and told her that I wasn't going to make it. My sister took me home and I knocked on the front door. I looked a lot different after bootcamp. They almost shaved all the hair off my head. I lost weight and was looking rather trim. When my mom opened the door she didn't recognize me. She thought I was still in Texas. She initially thought I must be a military friend from bootcamp. It was one of the biggest surprises that I ever did.
Shock treatment can be good sometimes. It opens the avenues of communication. So maybe next time you are going to visit your mother. Call her up at the last minute and tell her something came up and you will not get to visit with her and then ring her doorbell.

I had rny in November, but I was on a strict diet since September. I lost some padding... still ways to go, but I'm told that it shows.
Here is my dilemma. I never told my Mom that I'm having surgery. She lives 300 miles from me and I see her whenever I have time to go and visit. Last time was just before my sugery and she wasn't happy that I was on a diet. She didn't notice that I already had lost some weight and I was trying to talk to her about wls in general. Nope. She would always change the subject to her sister in laws ass size. So I didn't tell her.
I was supposed to go to visit for xmas, but my hubby is very sick and not getting any better, so it had to be postponed. So I don't know when I will see her next time. I'm below the weight I was when we got married. I'm losing slowly, just over 2 lbs weekly average, but still she will notice it next time I go.
I had something called panniculitis in my stomach around xmas and I told her about that. So that might be my explanation. It comes with nausea ja puking, so not that far fetched. You might lose some weight with that.
I just don't like to lie.
The worse thing is my eating. She will notice that I eat very little. I can't just eat crap and in big portions for a weekend to hide my rny. I will be talked about, a lot. I love my Mom, but she is the worst gossip on the planet and likes to add her own views as facts on top of the story.
Oh well, it's done and I'm happy, so who cares. I'm sure I will end up with some horrible disease in her mind. She also diagnosed my hubbys illness to be a result of our pet parrots... So maybe I lost the weight due to them?
Nilla

NSV at its best!
I can't wait until my next lecture. The problem is, the crowd is always new, so nobody will notice anything, but I will know.
Nilla

I didn't tell my parents that I had the surgery. My wife spilled the Beans while I was in the hospital. The first thing out of my dad's mouth was, "I didn't realize you were that big." I wasn't that big, I had it done because the woman that gave birth to me dropped dead of a heart attack at a relatively early age. She had the same issues that I had (high BP, high cholesterol, diabetes, sleep apnea, depression) when I had the RNY surgery. I can completely understand your not wanting to tell your mom.

You can tell her you have to eat a certain way because it's doctors orders. Technically that's true!

If she asks how you're losing weight, just tell her through eating less. No explanation needed and it's the truth. As for the why, well you know all of those reasons.
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Didn't tell my mom either for similar reasons. Just say I'm dieting get and not very hungry. Good luck.
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Gaaahhhhhh! Someone just pinch me! This is tooooo toooooo good to be true! Oh wait... I did this! Yes, I did this! You know why? Because I wanted better health, I want to be there for my children in the long run. I want to be able to do things that I've never got to do in my life due to me being obese. As simple as a ride on an amusement park... can't wait for summer now lol but anyways... keep your head up! Follow the guidelines. Dedicate time to YOU! I am down 137.5LBS. I use my TOOL the CORRECT way. I knew what I was signing myself up for. I'm not going to say I haven't had slip ups, because I have! It's just when you see that it is not good for you, no matter if it was that piece of cake you always loved, (trust me you don't want to dump), or that pint of ice cream your used to eating, don't keep doing it to yourself! Wake up and smell the coffee!
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I've been on so many diets and never threw any nice clothes away. I did do goodwill etc. but I have enough clothes to get me to summer. I arranged them by size and get to open a box when the clothes I'm wearing now get too big. I have a really nice shirt that I bought last summer and never wore, because I was saving it for a special occasion... How smart was that?!? ????
Nilla