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I think this is super normal. I went back and forth on my decision up until I arrived at the hospital the morning of surgery. The night before I couldn't sleep and warned my husband that I might still back out. Change is scary. When you're addicted to or dependent on food the idea of losing that comfort is scary. I was sleeved on 10/11 and have lost exactly 30 lbs as of today. It's a huge change and a huge commitment. I could've backed out but then I'd be sitting here miserable in a year and likely having gained 30 lbs instead of lost them and wishing I'd gotten it over with. It's okay to be anxious! You've made a big decision!

Crackers were approved on my plan when I started purees as long as they were low fat. I don't eat them daily and I only have 3 or 4 at a meal but it's nice to have something to put egg salad or deli slices on. Wheat Thins can be sharp so make sure you chew them thoroughly.

Thank you so much. Really d**k of people's negative views xxx Sent from my SM-G935F using the BariatricPal App Back when I had just decided to do surgery I started posting around in internet forums and people were very negative saying I didn't have enough to lose to require the surgery and basically just acting like I was being over dramatic. I didn't want to wait until I was 350 lbs, because it WAS in my future. I kept losing weight and regaining and every time I went a little higher. I didn't want to wait until I had all sorts of co morbid conditions and my health was deteriorating. Let those people judge, in the end you're the one who has to be your own advocate when it comes to your health!

Hi Ella,I am 5'2 and so my bmi is like 36 something. I think as the other lady mentioned on here, sometimes I'm scared to say how much I weigh as people laugh and tell me I'm being stupid. It's like I'm too big to be small, but too small to be big. But what people don't understand, I'm not happy and I have a severelyautistic child.. I need to be able to run after her... and fast lol. Thanks so much for replying. Have a great day xxxx Sent from my SM-G935F using the BariatricPal App my BMI was 37 so i'm close to being there with ya. don't let anyone discourage you.

Clearly you've not seen all the threads about popcorn, pizza, swedish fish, pork chops and tacos. Lol, I suppose I meant the more boring on plan posts. For instance, I got to start solids this week and I followed my plan, chewed carefully, and transitioned with no problems! I didn't make a post about it because no one cares, lol.

@@theantichick exactly. people are much more likely to post and ask for support when they're having issues. there are very few, "hey everybody, i tried X food today and it went fantastic!" posts. it's just human nature to reach out to others more when you're unhappy.

I have hypersomnia as well. I wish I had some suggestions but really all you can do is wean. I went cold turkey and it is miserable but there's so much going on that first week that makes you tired all the time it's hard to tell what side effects are from what. Good luck!

I did the surgery because I wasn't able to physically do anything and I have a heart condition. I'm only 42 and have a huge life I want to enjoy. I was terrified of surgery and the unknown of after the surgery, I'm a nurse and know what I'm supposed to tell patients, not anything I can actually speak of. I haven't lost a ton of weight yet but I feel like I'm starting to live... Sent from bariatric pal app I'm scared of being put to sleep I've never Been under, its the only thing that's giving me second thoughts. Any advice? Sent from my LGLS675 using the BariatricPal App I'm always terrified of being put under and then once it happens it's no big deal. The worry is much worse than the experience. I always have a tough time waking up completely from the anesthesia and I have a bit of a hangover for the first few days which is fine because all I want to do is sleep. I don't even remember them putting the mask on, all the sudden you'll just be awake!

How tall you are factors in too, you can have a pretty darn high BMI at 200 lbs especially if you're short.

Same here. I still get headaches if I don't get enough fluids in.

Let it pass. I didn't lose a thing from 7 days post til 22 days. I was enraged b/c I was self pay and thought I'd wasted all this money and put myself through surgery. Week 3 I lost 9 lbs. I guess my 3 week stall came week early! Try keeping off the scale for a week. Now that I've broken a stall each one is getting easier to handle because I know that it's just a matter of time. You'll start losing again as long as you stay on plan. Thank you this gives me hope. doesn't it just feel like forever? That's the hard part waiting for it to break. I sure hope it gets easier lol scale is away. I never owned a scale before should have kept it that way maybe it wouldn't stress me out as much lol Sent from my SGH-I317M using the BariatricPal App YES, it feels like forever! I was still on liquids and was so pissed, lol. Like wtf, I'm not even eating food and I'm not losing anything. I told my nurse about it at my one month post and she said that our weight loss isn't perfectly linear, we lose weight in steps more than a straight line. Just stick to your plan, it'll happen!

Let it pass. I didn't lose a thing from 7 days post til 22 days. I was enraged b/c I was self pay and thought I'd wasted all this money and put myself through surgery. Week 3 I lost 9 lbs. I guess my 3 week stall came week early! Try keeping off the scale for a week. Now that I've broken a stall each one is getting easier to handle because I know that it's just a matter of time. You'll start losing again as long as you stay on plan.

sorry, double post.

so you've lost 46 lbs since surgery or all together? how much have you lost since surgery? are you meeting your Water and Protein goals every day? Yeah that seems like a lot to me. I've never heard of a surgeon being annoyed that someone lost nearly 50 lbs in 3 months. That doesn't sound like a slow loss. My surgeon would not give me a timeline regarding loss because everyone is so different and I guess he didn't want me to get discouraged if I didn't meet a deadline. I was sleeved on 10/11 and have lost 29 lbs since I started my 1 week pre op diet. I hope to be near 40 by my 3 month. Just keep following your plan and getting your protein and water. I think that as long as you're on plan and losing there's nothing to worry about.

I'm also curious about this. Any weight loss surgery is going to lose a lot of it's effects years later, that's how people end up regaining. You've done a good job maintaining a lower weight. What's going to happen in 2 more years when the restriction wears off again? Are you going to keep having it done over and over?

so you've lost 46 lbs since surgery or all together? how much have you lost since surgery? are you meeting your Water and Protein goals every day?

Every time I wake up from a surgery I am beyond miserable, I don't do well coming off the anesthesia. That being said, the pain was not that bad and as soon as I came out of the haze they gave me pain meds and it was fine. The gas pain was the worst in my chest but I took some gas X and it passed pretty fast. The first night I had nausea and they switched me to a stronger med and no problem. I went home the next day, stopped my oral pain meds on day 3, and only occasionally take a pill for nausea now. I think that for most people it's not a very painful experience. As long as you're honest with your team and you are working with reputable people they will stay on top of your concerns!

Are you following your diet exactly? I wasn't given any expectations of how much I'd lose in a month or 6 months or anything. Some people just lose slower than others. As long as you're following your plan and your weight is going in the right direction I don't see what else you can do! Also, 46 lbs in 3 months seems decent to me.

I must be the odd man out here, my surgeon didn't do a nicotine test and knows I'm a smoker. He said that with my age and BMI I wasn't a high risk patient and I should try to quit but it wasn't going to matter. Maybe because I was self pay? I know all docs are different.

They're all different. I've never heard of solid food within a week, your doc must be very liberal!

This sounds like a horrifying situation to be in. Maybe you have a relative you could go stay with until things calm down? My father was/is an alcoholic and I know how stressful and miserable living with one can be, this cannot be helping your health. As far as your situation, I also wonder if there is a stricture. I'm glad your surgeon is finally listening and I hope you can get scoped and figure out what's going on.

I started out in the same situation. I was self pay so I didn't feel right about proceeding without my husband on board. When I first mentioned "weight loss surgery" he basically just rolled his eyes at me and told me I'm nowhere near big enough to need that. I think that people see shows like "my 600 lb life" and assume it's only for very large folks. After I explained more about the procedure he became a little more open minded but couldn't stop himself from pointing out how I'd lost weight before, how extreme this seemed, and how he knew I could lose it on my own. I pointed out to him how many MANY times I'd lost and how it just kept coming back and my weight got higher each time. I told him how depressed and self conscious I had become and pointed out to him how recluse I was getting. My weight is a huge part of my self esteem and when it's high I just basically hate myself. He came around when he saw how important it was to me. The day we came to the decision I told him that I didn't want to hear any more comments unless they were supportive because this was going to be really hard and I would probably even be saying afterwards that I wished I hadn't done it. I did say that at the beginning! He took my words to heart and kept his opinions to himself and showed nothing but support. Even if your husband won't come around you need to do what is best for you. If my insurance would cover the surgery I would've gone forward even without his blessing. I know once I had it he would've cracked and taken care of me and tried to help. I'm glad it worked out the way it did because it made things easier but you have to make the best choice for you. I really hope he changes his mind after you have the surgery because it would break my heart to think of someone's spouse being so cold that they refused to help care for their wife/husband during a difficult time.

I told my husband and 2 friends, even my son doesn't know. Everyone else I just said I had to have stomach surgery (I had a long history of stomach issues so no one really questioned it). I needed some help here and there from my mom and she would inquire about my diet (typical nosy mother). I just told her that there were stitches in my stomach and I had to be really careful for a while. She is super thin and has always been on me about my weight so she's not so secretly happy that my surgery is causing me to lose some. I became a total recluse at my highest weight (I gained 40 lbs in 6 months) so luckily a lot of people hadn't seen me at my biggest and haven't even noticed my loss. I'm a private person and most of my friends know that and don't push it. My husband is the exact same way so he totally understands and hasn't told anyone. Not their business!

I am now in my mid 30s but at the time I was 27 or 28.

NOPE! There are a lot of factors that go into this but my BMI has never been higher than 37. The first time I lost all the weight I was at 35 and went down to BMI 24, I was 28. I don't have overlapping loose skin but my body definitely did not look like it used to. I had stretch marks, flabby upper arms, and saggy stomach/boobs. A lot of this is just based on your own skin elasticity but factors like age can also come in to play. Sometimes it's just genetic