prairieprincess

My surgery date is November 14 - My husband and I are going away for a mini vaca to a spa in a week as a treat and some relaxation before surgery - I am looking so forward to the hot tub since its going to be a while before I will be able to enjoy one again.

I know its not meant to come off as such - but you have people who at the most have maybe 5-10 pounds to loose and they are talking about how hard it is to loose weight - what an effort and struggle - then they look at you and say - you know what I mean. I know they aren't trying to be rude or hurtful - they all have their own story and struggles - but when you have these tiny little people going on about their weight issues and then compare it to my struggle - I find it so irritating and annoying - anyone else have experience with anything similar and how do you respond to them - I find my self biting back sarcasm when they do this

My family children/husband were a very central part of my decision making process - my daughter who is 19 has watched me struggle with my weight her entire life. She is now struggling with her weight and I have been taking her to all my appointments with me so that she can learn from my experiences first hand and have more motivation to find her own road and hopefully find solutions for herself that don't lead to surgery

I want to add something now that I have read all the responses - I want to weigh less/be smaller than my husband - I really hadn't thought of that before now

There are a 3 things I cant wait for - I want to go horse back riding I have been to afraid/embarrassed at this weight, I want to run a 1/2 marathon I used to be a long distance runner as a child - and to go shopping in a non xl clothing store just a regular department store.

I am trying to change some habits and do some prep work for after surgery - my problem is I really dislike yogurt and have been trying to get used to Protein Shakes - is there any recipes that don't include yogurt or ways to disguise the yogurt taste -any ideas would be appreciated

You could also try plant based Protein powder. I found that animal based makes me extremely physically ill. The dietician suggested trying planted based because it might be an allergy to the animal based. I tried and found that I am able to tolerate and keep the plant based down so much easier. The one I use is called Vega - you never know give it a try it might help.

The brand I use is called Vega but I will admit I gave not tried many brands I little nervous from previous experiences

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I wish there was more I could do other then be a shoulder and an ear for you and think positive thoughts for you - I wish there was a magic wand I could wave for you to make it right

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Sharbear617 - I want to say thank you I am pre op and how you described it - as a way to look at this as a break up and a bad relationship - really changed my thinking and helped me out at the grocery store yesterday - I used to go what's one package of Reese Peanut Butter cups or a bag of chips no ones home no one will know - there's no one to give me grief - but thanks to your prospective in the store it was so much easier to ignore and walk right past and say your not going to drag me down any more instead I bought myself grapes as a treat and it was because of your advice thank you very much it is going to make my future so much easier and brighter

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I was wondering would your gp be able to help push the date ahead - and I thought waiting for my Iron to go up was frustrating - I'm feeling lucky and blessed at the moment

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Wow sorry that things are so rough for you right now will keep you in my thoughts

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I am preop but have tried different Protein shakes in preparation - but I found animal based Proteins made me incredibly ill - I had to go to vegetarian or vegan Protein Shakes and powders - you may want to try those options - can't hurt anything

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To thisidthenewme feel free to msg me whenever you need I have been looking for the same - people who are in going through similar that understand for support my family are there but my husband and boys are in the category of people who have never had to struggle with there weight ever.

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I am in Canada and things work slightly differently but you should have no issues because I am almost exactly the same height and weight and as soon as my Iron is up a little more they are figuring I should have surgery before Christmas. Again I am unfamiliar with the workings of insurance in the states but medically I can tell you since we are identical in height and weight you should have zero issues on that front

Hi I'm also 45 hoping to hear about a date by the end of September just need my Iron levels up by another 5 they are at 45 they need to be at 50 this at the moment is the only hold up

Hi Tucker;

Manitoba here - I am also pre surgery - like you about half way through pre operative stage - once I have my Iron levels up will be going on to meet the anesthetist, surgeon and get my diet teachings. My Iron as of my appointment on the 17th was at 45 it needs to be at a 50 to move on so a bit frustrated. Hopeful though when my blood work is done on Sept 22 that it will be where it needs to be at - if it is I am to get my history and physical filled out because they will be booking those appointments right away - like I said very hopeful that things will progress quickly soon.

I go to Zumba classes when they are running in our small town the are on summer hiatus unfortunately - I am looking to join more classes this fall they will be having drums alive classes - I am on Iron tablets 3 times a day to get my levels up where they need to be for surgery - they are at 45 and need to be at 50 for surgery

I do great with staying on track with eating - I find it difficult to stay motivated in the exercising department - that's where I need advice - how do others keep themselves moving, interested, and ready to go. The only thing holding things back from getting a surgical date is my Iron levels need to get up by 5 more points but I am finding it difficult to get myself motivated to go for that walk daily so advice on what keeps others going and moving would be so appreciated

I am just starting the preoperative visits- I was wanting know what people did to get started moving and getting exercise - how do you keep motivated and stay honest - I have been considering a fit bit but would have upgrade my current device because the IPad I have now is not compatible with it - the only apple device that isn't just my luck, but if it is worth the upgrade and a useful tool I would so any advice and or suggestions would be appreciated

I am currently going through the pre-operative steps and I can totally relate to everything you were saying the fear is still here. I can say I am terrified, excited, and over flowing with anticipation for post operative changes all in one. I am also so afraid once I start loosing weight I wont recognize myself and or I will change personality wise into someone I wont like - get a terrible ego or something. I am told these are common fears and natural. The psychologist is very helpful and is always willing to talk - I am in Canada and the psychologist is part of the team and is always available. She (the psychologist) suggested support groups are a great resource to help and have people in similar circumstances to talk to. So just stay open talk to people and work through the process.

Just recently joined from Brandon, Manitoba - going next week for second meeting with surgical nurse, dietician, and kinesiologist. Hopefully get the go ahead to meet with the anesthetist and surgeon pre-op.

I am pre surgery and found that Protein shakes make me extremely ill - they don't stay down no matter what I did. The dietician suggested switching to vegan/vegetarian Protein powder. She felt it might be an allergic reaction to the animal Protein. It worked you could try it and see if it works for you

It seems a lot easier to get accepted then in Canada - at least in the part of Canada I live in your weight first of all must be within a certain range - if you are over they will work with you to bring your weight down but you will not be accepted for surgery until you are within the range. Then you must meet with a psychologist, kinesiologist, dietician, and a surgical nurse. You must meet a certain criteria and be willing to adjust your exercise levels, eating habits, and have your lab work within a healthy range before you can move on. Any one of them can say you are not a fit candidate. I have my second meeting with the dietician, kinesiologist, and dietician on the 18th hopefully I have meet all my expectations. The next step will be with the anesthesiologist and after that the surgeon before I am given a surgical date. It is a very involved process and they make sure that you have the absolute best chances of success

In Canada where I live we are not given the choice the doctors once in decide what's best. The will do the bypass over the sleeve due to the fact that for if in the future it becomes medically necessary they are able to reattach the stomach. That is the reasoning in all my meetings I have had. I have yet to receive my date for surgery but I have done 2 preliminary meetings and I go again on the 18th of this month and if my Iron levels are where they need to be I will get an appointment with the anesthesiologist in prep for surgery. Excited and terrified all in one.