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Yes hands raised!!!!! I weighed in at 195.6 or something like that yesterday morning. Which is a good thing because I'm trying to get into the low 190's high 180's by the end of the month. But then... this morning it was like a firm 197.8 like I tried getting on and off hoping things would change but nope! So yeah that scale can be cruel and deceptive at times.

I LOVE tbis post--its definitely an unpopular truth.

I fear losing what i call "my black girl" the coke-bottle shape ive always had--small waist, butt you can sit a drink on, boobs that make men and babies drool...LOL

Ive also been cursed with really skinny legs and ankles, so im not looking forward to them getting skinnier--i just pray that my thighs, which have always been big (my cheerleader nickname in college was "pork chop") will match the rest of my legs.

Definitely praying i get to keep my T&A tho.

Im also going to miss "junk food nights" with my girls: Wine, martinis, cheese, chocolate, dips & chips--we have a howling good time as you can imagine. Maybe i can have my martinis in a shot glass! LOL

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I LOVE tbis post--its definitely an unpopular truth.

I fear losing what i call "my black girl" the coke-bottle shape ive always had--small waist, butt you can sit a drink on, boobs that make men and babies drool...LOL

Ive also been cursed with really skinny legs and ankles, so im not looking forward to them getting skinnier--i just pray that my thighs, which have always been big (my cheerleader nickname in college was "pork chop") will match the rest of my legs.

Definitely praying i get to keep my T&A tho.

Im also going to miss "junk food nights" with my girls: Wine, martinis, cheese, chocolate, dips & chips--we have a howling good time as you can imagine. Maybe i can have my martinis in a shot glass! LOL

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That was actually one of the things I talked about in my preop psych evaluation. Culturally, black men appreciate a more voluptuous frame. When I was young and thin, everybody in my family tried to fatten me up. What most consider fat, we consider "thick".

So yes yes and yesssss. @@mschan218 get ready to lose it girl. I haven't lost it all but I'm only 4 months out too. I had a nice butt before weight gain but I don't think its going to hold up much longer. I had a 38/23/42 measurement in high school mid 20's it was more like 40/26/45. So always small waist bottom heavy.

@@losergrl75 my hubby met me in high school I was about 125 with those measurements. When we married 5 years later I was 125. So he's used to a smaller me... however he's really grown fond of BBW. I mean really. Like TMI his porn of choice is BBW. I'm afraid although this man has loved me through it all that I will not be as attractive to him. I know that's just my personal issue but it lingers...

So I know it's not that simple buuuuut it's not necessary for you to broadcast your past medical and surgical history to every man you meet so... If you meet a guy and you like him great. You go out with him a couple times and you still like him great. He starts coming over to watch movies and things are getting closer hopefully by then you guys have had some getting to know you conversations and if you feel like things are potentially going somewhere then you could tell him. But I wouldn't feel pressured because they are getting a little too physical. Back them up!!! You set the pace for how fast things should go. If I didn't feel comfortable talking to them about something like weight loss surgery then it's probably not time to go "there" yet. That's just me though.

If you guys have gone out to eat, and he NOTICES how little you eat and says things like " but you hardly touched your food" or "why did you eat so little"? You could say I'll explain later... and if whenever you feel the time is right you could explain I've had surgery to help me lose weight. If he wants to know more... "Your stomach has 100% capacity whereas mines only has 20% capacity. I eat less resulting in weight loss." if this leads to a bigger discussion then you can get into all the details if you're comfortable. Otherwise just enjoy getting to know each other if they fall off because they aren't getting into your pants soon enough then keep it pushing.

I would have ignored this thread and rolled my eyes but the way I'm feeling today... I think its right on time. So I will miss

Eating and Drinking at the same damn time.

Enjoying carbonated beverages (guilt free)

My "Big Booty Judy" Booty

Eating more than just 2-3 bites of food before I'm full.

Red Lobster Cheddar Bay Biscuits

pancakes with extra butter

Croissants warmed with a pat of butter

Spaghetti sandwiches with buttery garlic bread

Alcohol although I didn't drink much to begin with I definitely enjoyed an occasional margarita, daiquiri, pear martini, sweet red (wine) whether it be during lunch when the hubby would take me out or date night.

So... most of my misses are food related. CARBY foods were my poison. I will get over it. It's like a relationship that you know wasn't good for you-- happy to be out of it buuut every now and then you get sad reminiscing about good times.

Today I just had a moment although I always understood that for the rest of my life I would have to be very careful about anything I eat or drink-- I guess It just got real real for me.

So if you feel satisfied after 2 tbsp. Then stop. That's how you know. You don't have to push the limits to know. Even now if I eat 2-3 bites of something even if I thought I should be able to eat more--- I stop. I put it away. If I think about it and want to come back to it an hour later then I will. You just have to get used to following your gut. Its hard I understand because mentally you are used to eating so much more. This morning I fixed myself 1/2 cup of oatmeal. Put a little half and half, cinnamon, a dab of brown sugar and fresh strawberries. I was chatting with co workers and eating very tiny spoonfuls trying to appear "normal" and before I knew it, I was over it. It didn't even look like it had been touched in terms of volume but I'm guessing I ate about 1/8th of what was originally there. Its ok. Stop and walk away.

I read an article that suggests 0.8-1.8 grams per kg of weight. Calculations depend on activity level 0.8g for sedentary 1.8g for very active and then somewhere in the middle if your somewhat active like 1.2g. so for a 140 lb sedentary woman which = 63.5 kg x 0.8 averages out to be about 50 g Protein a day. The higher the weight, the higher the Protein requirements. THIS is just for an average person. Weight loss patients I would imagine need more to maintain muscle mass especially during rapid weight loss. So to answer your question NO I personally do not think 100 grams is too much especially for bariatric patients during weight loss mode. I also believe once you reach goal weight or achieve a steady weight during maintenance those program requirements may need to be recalibrated.

Water, ice and Water, water and ice, slushy water, crystallized water. I drank the Arnold Palmer Arizona lemonade ice tea... and the Gold Peak lemonade ice tea before surgery. I buy the Arnold Palmer teas from costco for my daughter to take in her lunch because its only like 50 calories per serving but it's still pretty good without the fake sugar taste/aftertaste. So I just drink water and will keep the Arizona for a treat. I'll try the zero calorie one but I don't usually like zero calorie beverages.

Detroit Area-- I'll admit, I'm a little anti social due to the technology crutch but I'd be semi ok with meeting up with some local peeps... maybe :0 Inbox me.

Goal Weight (by end of Challenge) 189 lbs (aiming to be out of the 190's)

Current Weight: 196.2
Today's Date: 10/17/16

Thank youfor sharing. I go to my Surgeon Tuesday for my 1 month check up. I'm keeping to my plan except yesterday and so far today. I feel like crappie and not eating much as I should.

I am looking forward to my anniversary getaway with the hubster next week.

You'll do great. I think that cauliflower option sounds at least worth trying. I'm going to give it a go myself. Have fun on your getaway!

How much are you eating before that happens? How quickly are you eating it? I find that I am only able to eat about the equivalent of 1 1/2 chicken wings. Or 2 wing dings annnnnnnnnnd I have to eat it over 30 -45 maybe even an hour. I cant eat it in 5-6 bites even if they are small. I get quite uncomfortable and feel the need to vomit. That hasn't happened in awhile but I do find when I eat certain foods (salmon, brisket, chicken) I fill up very quickly and not the 2-3 ounces that everyone boasts about. For me it could be 1/2 ounce to an ounce. IF I am able to eat 3 ounces it will take me at least 2 sittings to get it in. ALSO--- I can't eat other foods with it like veggies or any other sides. It just doesn't work. SO I could be wrong but it may not be that it doesn't sit well with you-- like me-- you may not be able to eat as much of it as you think you can.

Have you tried just eating like 1 or 2 bites chew really well and swallow then stop for an hr? Do you still vomit? If you can tolerate a couple bites and sit on that for an hour-- you may just have to scale back on foods that are a little denser. Especially chicken with skin and coating. That may be something you have to enjoy over 2-3 sittings.

Oh wow she really tried it!!! Forgive her yall for she know not what she do... bless her lil hawt. Well----it was entertaining to say the least. We needed a lil spice up in here and she gave it to us. But lemme ask this

WHO GONE CHECK ME BOO?!?

This has been very challenging for me. I cannot gulp down Water like many. I love Water, the taste it's so refreshing so satisfying but I like to drink my water ice cold. I can only take 3-4 sips at a time. By the time I take the 48th sip, I'm so over it and I don't have time to be babysitting water all day long. Iget distracted get busy doing something else and then the day is done. I do the best I can do. My intentions mean well but I'm lucky to get in 1 bottle of water 16.9 oz a day. I can get more in during workout days.

I just bought these Vitamin supplements from costco called Zipfizz. It's a powder you add to your water. Loaded with B12 and Multivitamins. 1 is the equivalent to a b12 injection in the Dr office and 1 Multivitamin tablet. Far more electrolytes than Gatorade without the sugar. 0 sugar 20 calories, 2 carbs and they are tasty. They have a slight fizz to it and comes in 3 main flavors. They just added 5 new flavors but I have the original. It's helpful because it serves a dual purpose.

@@losergrl75 you are speaking to my life! This is a very interesting topic to think about. My goal weight is very similar to yours but I still have a ways to go. I am hoping to get there in about the same time as you. My thoughts are that I would be excited and living the dream when I get to where you are but I can TOTALLY see where you are coming from. Hopefully a few vets can offer their perspective on life during maintenance. I would love to see more topics about the struggles of people who are at goal weight and what their challenges are and what to keep in mind as you transition into maintenance. I think it would be a great way to keep the vets engaged and supported and a great way to see what life is like during maintenance. Maybe there is more stuff about it I should probably go searching... Congrats to you and I look forward to hearing more about your transition.

All you can do is wait and see... I had the sleeve so no changes to my bowel situation however when he ejaculates in there it usually for me acts as a enema. Always has... that's just me though.

I know it sucks-- my post op guidelines say that I can have rice and pastas etc in limited amounts preferably whole grains. So mentally that means to me that I can have it but I probably shouldn't. I have made things like salmon cut it up and maybe put a 1-2 tablespoons of brown rice in the dish but it was really pointless. I mean mentally it made me feel like I wasn't deprived but I really wasn't doing myself any favors. I've decided while in weight loss mode I will for as long as humanly possible stay away from these types of foods.

Case in point-- Last week I attended a conference. The organization provided lunch. It was Panera bread. your choice of sandwiches ( tuna, turkey, chicken salad, ham etc etc) a bag of chips and a cookie. NOW. They could've put a apple in there or a salad or SOMETHING but I understand most people want the chips and the cookie and the soda. In retrospect, I should have brought my own stuff. Well I ate 1/3 of the turkey sandwich over 30 min which completely filled me up!!!! But then 1 hr later I wanted to finish the rest-- which I never do. But I attributed my desire to finish the sandwich to boredom. So I finished the dumb sandwich and then I started eating the kettle chips but only ate like 5. Put it down for like an hour and I was ready to eat more. So I did finish the chips over time, I finished the other half of the sandwich by dinner and basically What I'm saying is that these foods triggered a pattern of eating that I could Identify with prior to surgery. It started with the sandwich-- which was on whole wheat multigrain bread to begin with. STILL it caused a spike in my blood sugar so when it dropped it was a signal to my body that it was time to eat!!!! Now maybe it would've been ok if I say went to the gym after and spent an hr doing cardio but I didn't and so the next day-- the same thing happened-- you would've thought I learned by now. Needless to say for the rest of the week I was making choices that was not optimal to my weight loss. I was hungry, I was craving foods carbs at that. I hadn't been doing that so I determined the culprit and decided that it's not in my best interest to have things in this food group for awhile.

I still managed to lose 1 lb. But I probably would've lost more and hit my personal goal of making it to onederland on target. Instead I carried on for the rest of the week then started fresh on Monday. I mean Water, and Protein shakes only. I had grilled salmon for dinner and by Tuesday I had dropped another 2 lbs allowing me to hit my target a few days later than planned. Ever since, my hunger has ceased. Cravings have stopped and I'm back to reminding myself to eat.

Part of this journey is trial and error. Learning ourselves, being honest with ourselves and implementing changes that will allow us to be successful long term. Sometimes I think I can do something and then I find out that although I can do it-- it may not necessarily be the best choice. Ultimately I choose to maximize this short window of time to hit my goal weight within a year. In the meanwhile my goal is to develop habits and patterns that will take me well beyond the 1 year surgiversary into lifetime success.

Hopefully your goal is similar. I can't tell you what to do. I can only share my experiences and what I've learned from them. Do speak to your team and discuss your concerns with them.

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ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ok I'm done. Just felt like being petty today as I sit here eating this piece of rotisserie chicken... on that note-- I am off to the GYM.

PS it's tough the first few weeks. Head hunger and adjusting to a new normal. It does get better. Focus on change. Right now is not the best time to think about eating cake and ice cream. Focus on meeting your Fluid and Protein goals, taking your Vitamins, getting your activity in. WHen you are on regular food you must stay away from foods that drive your hunger. CAKE, ICE CREAM, WHITE RICE, Pasta, bread AVOID them. Your body will thank you for it. Hang in there.

Band was never an option for me. I dont like the idea of a foreign object being surgically placed inside of me...recipe for disaster. Infection, erosion, displacement. The whole going back for fills and unfills and fill again just seems far too cumbersome. Nothing against anyone who does it... I used to work on a neurosurgery unit. Shunts placed in the brain, screws in the neck rods in the spine often came back infected. Now if I had to have a pacemaker to keep my heart pumping thats another story-- Now they have a balloon they can put in you-- Im curious to hear about HCL acid eroding the balloon releasing harmful levels of air into the bloodstream and the body turning against itself because its a foreign object and all--

Ok enough. Wishing you all the best with your Bands. I'm loving my sleeve!!!!!!! So happy with my irreversible decision. One and done!

I totally understand where you are coming from. Like I always thought if I could get back into the 190's I'd be satisfied. BUT I knew that when I was in the 190's before I thought I was disgustingly fat and really wanted to lose weight before I got into the 200's. When I was in the 170's I thought I was fat and just a chicken and biscuit from 200. So I never forgot my body image at any of these weights. Although the scale is descending and I am happy about that I always remember where I came from and where I'm trying to go. I'm also trying to appreciate the things that I can do at my current weight vs my highest weight and try to live in the moment.

I do understand why the vets "take a break" or leave altogether. This board tends to get redundant or repetitive and it's pretty annoying sometimes to see the same questions posed over and over and over and over and over and over and over and I've only been a member since June. I don't post a lot of questions because my career is based on educating cancer patients throughout their diagnosis, treatment and management of their condition. In other words I have to look up a lot of s h I t sometimes. Theres a lot of information out there and if you look even a little bit you'll find the answers you need.

I think we newbies come here wet behind the ears eager to soak up knowledge and find a happy medium between our old life and our new life. We are looking to connect with others with similar experiences and understand how others have managed. Over time we become more acclimated to the lifestyle, more understanding of what has to be done and why and hopefully less inclined to make the same mistakes that led us to need surgery in the first place. Then the newbies become the vets and the vets become more "normal" and so forth and so on.

I remember when I was in nursing school. I frequented a Forum for nurses. I was on that site almost everyday. When I finally became an RN I hung around for about a year and then--- I moved on. I had tapped out. Although I had not experienced everything-- I was better equipped to handle any situation that I encountered. I understood how to access my resources and I was doing well on my own. I offered advice and encouragement to other newbies but I had my co workers and nursing school buddies to share war stories with. I no longer needed the forum. I was no longer benefitting.

I find myself bypassing certain topics because there is not a lack of people willing to answer or comment. There is no need for me to answer grudgingly or hastily because I think someone lacks complete common sense. Let someone else have the floor.

CW: 200.6

Goal: 190 or high 180's

No more shopping in the plus size department.

Feeling confident.

People staring at me for a good reason!

Shocking people at my 20 year class reunion!

YAAAAAAS YAAAAAAAS! This and this!! At 3 mos post op-- I do not have to shop in the plus dept. I can but I can fit most Large and even some mediums. I am technically still plus size but I am now able to finally take my rightful position in the stores I was meant to shop in!!! And that makes me feel confident!

Next year-- my 20th reunion will be on a cruise ship to the Bahamas. I will be there with bells on. Looking as good as I did when I was in my 20's. I don't really talk to any of my old classmates but I'll be there with my hubby. If it turns out to be lame, he and I will still have a great time on the other side of the cruise ship no matter what.

getting hit on when i go out and not being the fat 3rd wheel.

being able to fit in Rollercoaster ride.

not having to shop at Lane Bryant or Torrid or Catherine's

feeling confident and loving the skin I'm in and just being happy

just a few things im looking forward to

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Yaaaaaas girl hang in there-- it's coming!!! I'm married but I do miss getting hit on like I used to a woman needs to be able to turn heads to feel sexy sometimes. HOWEVER-- when it does start to happen, which it is a little bit-- I only have eyes and loyalty for my hubby. He stood by me and made me feel beautiful through it all. The other guys can kiss my ass. I'm going to hold my head up high flash my ring and keep it moving.

Going to Cedar Point in 2 weeks for HALLOWEEKENDS. The last time I was there with my family-- I was turned away from 3 rides because the belts wouldn't fit and I was sooooo embarrassed. I doubt that will happen this time! LOOKING SO FORWARD TO IT! All great goals and NSV's. I just related to these ones so well I had to shout!!!

I have popcorn very far and few between since surgery. 3 x's to be exact. Movie popcorn is not such a good idea with all the butter and salt that's usually in it. Don't do that to yourself. Eating before you go is a good idea, bringing Protein sources with you is also a good idea. Jerky, cheese, grilled chicken in a little sandwich bag, nuts. Or-- you could just bring a healthier version of popcorn like a skinny pop if you just have to have it. I know the smell is enticing but we must stray away from the behaviors and the types of food that caused us to gain weight in the first place. Was it all popcorn? no but its the concept of "I can't go to the movies and not have popcorn" mentality that has to be controlled. It could be a trigger food for you. If you feel so strongly don't go to the movies for awhile. It's not that you can never eat popcorn again but it's about doing it in the right way. The way that's healthy for you. Can you eat just 1 cup? Does it have to be loaded with salt and butter? Can you enjoy it the way it was meant to be? Do you have to have popcorn just because you are at the movies? Can you have a piece of fruit instead? Can you eat a well balanced meal before you go? Thoughtful planning vs mindless eating.

I'm only 3 months post op but-- at almost 2 years out you should have a better handle on this situation. I doubt there is much you will be able to do in 5 days. I suggest gaining control of your eating-- by following the guidelines provided to you post op. Start from there. You did not provide much in the way of info in terms of what behaviors led you to a 15 lb gain? What are you currently doing? Not sure if you are exercising-- meeting your Protein, or Fluid requirements? Are you taking in too many carbs, calories, over what period of time did this gain occur? You should still be closely monitoring your weight to make adjustments as necessary. In the meanwhile I would dust myself off and get a good Shapewear undergarment, wear an outfit that is flattering to your body type and start fresh. If necessary make an appt with your surgical team meet with your dietician review your current intake and relax you can do this.

You've come this far-- use the tool to your advantage the rest is up to you. I'm rooting for you!!!!!!

im 3 months post op. I haven't really experienced a stall yet. I have some weeks where I lose a small amount like 1 lb but its still a loss. Close to my cycle like now I tend to hover back and forth 2 lbs. for about a week even 2. After, I'll have a larger loss like 5-8lbs. My losses have been steady. Embrace it! I understand we only have about 9-12 months to lose like this after that it slows down significantly. I plan to take full advantage and reach under goal within that time. That way-- I can work on maintainence.