Véronique

Well, considering you're an abusive troll who likes to insult and pick on people, I can see why you value your anonymity. After all, it is a shield that protects you from any sort of consequences for the horrible things you say about others. Whereas, I believe my lack of anonymity means that I will remain accountable for my words.

It certainly doesn't feel real, but I have met people that obtuse before.

Not to mention that unlike her, you actually have a photo in your profile.

What you class as lacking a spine may just be the knowledge that they don't want to engage with someone as insufferable as you. Considering your aggressive attitude thus far, it does wear on me too but I have the fortitude to deal with people like you.
That's what you seemed to laser focus on. Your allegations make no sense and you just seem to be trolling.

Where did you say someone couldn't participate? When you started bullying people FOR participating when they didn't have a higher education in psychology. I have seen no behaviour from @jaminator that could be construed as him "attempt[ing] to assert [his] 'manhood' on women who have no desire to know them". If I did, I would likely join you in your criticism but I do not see your point. You would need to cite evidence to substantiate your claim and thus far, you haven't provided any.
Considering your usage of the word "following" in this thread thus far, I have serious doubts about the veracity of your statement.
Again, I cite your previous behaviour on this thread against you. Yes, by your bullying and antagonism against anyone who dares to espouse an opinion you don't like, it has the effect of making people feel unwelcome. While you have no authority as an administrator of the forum to make a formal decision of someone's rights of participation, your behaviour has the effect of alienating participation from this forum.
Hey, some people don't want to engage with your drama. In fact, I would say most people don't. It is frustrating, but I am able to and willing as I don't want your bullying to go unanswered. I do not tolerate bullying.

No, you didn't say ONLY but you ACT like it and actions speak louder than words. Your actions make no sense unless one assumes that you want to piss and moan at people and bully them for not having an education in psychology, never actually addressing the arguments made. It's difficult to grasp because your actions contradict your words. Do you not understand that here on a forum open to the general public, there won't be experts in your field?
Okay, so maybe your program isn't to blame - it's a personal failing attributable to you and you alone. I apologize for besmirching your programme. At my university and even in my college, there were people like you who lacked humility and a willingness to understand and work with others. I think that's even a larger problem at the oldest and most prestigious universities. Though, I didn't see this at L'École polytechnique, but this is probably due to it being a grande école and you have to pass your bac with distinction to attend. So, it's unfair to blame your programme for your failings and I apologize.
... I know the feeling. Yesterday, when I got the good news I could progress to soft food, I've thought about getting a soft taco from Taco Bell. A single soft taco. And halve it for both my Snacks. There is nothing saying you can't have Taco Bell after surgery, you just have to be mindful about it. Like all things. There was an article in the WLS Magazine section of this site about fast food which should be an interesting read.
Don't feel discouraged, there are still those of us who feel that straight talk is the best course for those of us who consider that it is OUR responsibility to make this surgery work.
Funny, I've found @jaminator's comments to be insightful and interesting.
Okay, I'm going to say this as simply as I can:
THIS IS A PUBLIC FORUM.
Anyone can participate.

That's not bullying, @jaminator gave some pretty sound advice. We all have our ups and downs, our highs and lows. Hell, my emotions could come crashing down tomorrow. This is why I've set myself up with resources. I have two therapist appointments set up for this month (the first being tomorrow), my therapist's practice has a walk-in clinic I can access if need be, I have access to my GP, and I have a nurse line I can phone at the surgeon's office. I prepared for this surgery because I knew I was going to have it and my surgeon, his office, and the staff at the UCHealth Bariatric Centre of the Rockies properly prepared me for this surgery.
But even if they didn't, it's still my responsibility to know. Even if they just told me what I needed to do to satisfy the insurance requirements and sent me on my way, it's still my responsibility to educate myself on what I'm about to do. I have been on this forum for over a year despite having had my surgery almost two weeks ago and this isn't by accident. I wanted to make sure I had multiple perspectives on what could go wrong; I took notes; I asked my surgeon, GP, and dietician questions; and I formulated a general plan as to how I would live after I got out of the hospital. That plan is subject to change, but I did plan.

that response was because i felt like i was eating too much. my problem though i can go all day especially on the weekend and not eat all day but then later i feel hungry and a couple times over ate. so she told me to try just 2 ounces of something throughout the day so i dont get to that point

@Véronique You're hilarious girl! I wanna party with you!!!

Girl I feel your pain ever since I started this new diet everyone and their brother is coming out of the woodwork like "Steph want a piece of candy, steph want to go grab a slice, steph I couldn't eat all my fries, want the rest?"
Please god make it stoppppp!!!!!! lol. I'm terrified of the 9 week diet after surgery and pray that I'm strong enough to get through it when it's my turn. Every time I'm tempted I just remind myself in one short week of eating clean and changing my portions I lost 9 lbs and that pizza/candy/fry is not worth gaining it back.

That is totally how it happened for me. 1 Bute I was good, the next in pain. It was super intense pressure in my stomach and chest.

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During daylight hours? Absolutely not! My thighs burn with the fires of a thousand evils.

I have the opposite problem, the physical sensations of hunger are gone for me. I have to be very intentional about eating so that I get the proper amount of Protein in.

I've been doing a bit of research on this topic since I couldn't get an answer beyond "don't weigh yourself every day" from the nurse at my surgeon's practice. I think it has to do with Fluid intake post-surgery.

Hey, I'm getting surgery on the 29th too! I'm having mine at Poudre Valley Hospital.

I've already provided a link to it in this thread.

I've been gaining for the past week and I can't understand why.

The thread is right here.

But the post where I said I was offering my 2c worth was NOT negative. In fact, it canvassed other ways to deal with the thoughts that the O.P. was having ... i.e. another way of dealing with the concern.
And, also, you might have looked a tad harder and seen that TWICE in that conversation thread, the O.P. actually thanked me for the reflections and opinions. She/he did not perceive any vein of negativity.

Oh honestly the struggle is real, its really emotional The sad truth is , sometimes there is a solution, but sometimes its like a wait it out situation , I gained 4lbs and I was feeling violent angry about it lol But a couple of days and it was gone.
I NEVER made it to 2.2 ever I was told 1.5 goal to start now I try to get 2 litres but even now 10 weeks in its not easy but you gotta keep trying different temps of Fluid to see if you tolerate one kind better, I drink Hot Drinks and warm drinks too slow so I avoid them for now , and like cold drinks. Also 2 weeks in you are still healing , if its possible for you to put your scale away for two more weeks while your body is doing all kind of crazy stuff it might help the mental aspect of things, it help sme every now and again when I get pissed of , I still do and I will many times as the preasure feels so intense wanting this to work, but deep down we know if we stick to the plan it will work keep the faith!

Yeah, so far, no one has attacked me for being transgender or falsely accused me of being a man or something like that. So, it's still better than the society at large.

i reported the poster and the thread. alex closed it down pretty quick. i hope he banned the poster who went psycho on jaminator. he can hold his own but that girl was going to far.

Sometimes, support can include "serious negativity". A black and white view of the world is not healthy, and seeing feedback that makes you uncomfortable as solely "negative" might make it harder for you to recognize and implement good advice. I know there is a lot of immaturity and some people may be downright mean but sometimes negativity may be important.
For example, if you post here that you're afraid you ruined your surgery because you ate a whole pizza, you'll likely get some negative feedback. This is because many of us (myself included) are subjected to a litany of idiotic classes by our insurance companies about diet. Moments of weakness are understandable but the answer isn't to baby people, the answer is to light a fire under people's butts to get them to make the necessary changes to make this surgery a success.

Yeah, so far, no one has attacked me for being transgender or falsely accused me of being a man or something like that. So, it's still better than the society at large.

Amen to that!
Sadly, some people who have 'serious history' doing this to family and loved ones don't notice until the boot is on the other foot.
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Mind you, what I call COMPLACENT COMMERCIAL OBSERVATION is bad too. "And what is that?" I hear you ask. COMPLACENT COMMERCIAL OBSERVATION is when three family doctors in the space of 35 to 40 years treat each ailment/illness/injury related to obesity (or morbid obesity) as single episodes.
I wish that Doctor K back in 1980 had just said, "I know you've told me you've been to Weight Watchers and that you play a lot of sport but are not able to maintain a normal weight. Would you like me to monitor your weight and involve other health care services? Reality is, RainbowWarrior, that 105kg is very bad place for you to be when you really should be seventy-five to seventy-eight kilograms."
Doctor K and two other GPs (and a couple of locums) failed to say anything like this at all while I was in their surgeries. It was an older Chinese-born GP filling in one Saturday morning about 2013 who said to me (while he had my history up on the screen), "90% of your health care issues would go away if you lost that 90 or so extra kilograms you're carrying everywhere."
Were my doctors too complacent to tell me the truth as I may have been a long line of regular $$ to them? Mmmm. Maybe I'm overly suspicious.
In the last couple of years, I found a doctor who listened better, reflected better and invited me to do regular swimming at the same pool he and the practice doctors go.