Fredbear

I'm keeping hot chili oil on hand to spice up any bland brot h, if I can tolerate it...

Ever since I stopped drinking Diet Coke earlier this year, there's no appeal to candy. It doesn't even register as a foo d, so it's really easy to ignore.

Not sure why so many people on here are so beholden to what their families think. You're purportedly an adult; act like it!

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Some of us adults respect the opinions of our loved ones. Having support is a lot easier then not having it at all. You don't need to be rude.

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I don't think it's rude to point out that adults should make their own decisions about their body, and be mature enough to ignore the ignorant opinions of their unsupportive family members and acquaintances.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

That's awesome :-)

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Not sure why so many people on here are so beholden to what their families think. You're purportedly an adult; act like it!

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Universal Healthcare is not the answer either there is a lot wrong with that as well Canada has it and it is not working for them either they come to the US to get health care Look I work in the Emergency room and that is what most people that don't have insurance do use the ED as there pcp , it is against the law to turn away pt's we get a lot from other countries that has that kind of health care Universal healthcare but the catch is you can see a Dr. but it maybe months from now and you have a serious illness that don't work either so they come over here because non private hospitals like the one I work at has to treat you regardless if you have ins or not! What should be or could be is not the issue the issue is what is going on right now which is the ins companies are out of control

Every person I have ever heard complain about Canada's health care has been an American parroting the same crap they watch on Faux News.

Haven't heard squat from actual Canadians in complaint. The only persons I've ever known from Canada who came to the US for surgery were those persons having minor elective surgery who didn't want to wait to have it for free.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Not sure what any of this has to do with being "politically correct".

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Sounds like she's a narcissistic cray-cray. You already have problems in your marriage if you married her.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Looking good, cutiepie!

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

If my spouse forbade me to do anything I'd have an ex-spouse.

Have some self-respect.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

I am struggling with this, a lot.

Five years ago, at 19, I planned to have WLS. My mom, who I was the closest to and who supported me in all my endeavors, and I agreed at the time to wait to tell my dad (who is a recovering addict, active in AA, and a big "his way or bust" person) until we had a surgery date. That way, I could answer any and all of his questions - heaven forbid I didn't have an answer, then I am unprepared and uneducated on the topic. This backfired big time, and because I was still on his insurance at the time, he had my surgery canceled 36 hours before it was supposed to take place.

Now, at 24, I am planning to do this again. I have a good job with excellent benefits, so I will be using my own health insurance to proceed with the surgery. At this point, still in the pre-op stages, I have only told my boyfriend and two best friends. My mom has since passed away. I do not know if I should speak with my father on this issue again. Telling him risks the emotional abuse that he will spew at me, him making me second guess my decision, and making me feel small in the worst way. But not telling him that his oldest daughter is going in for MAJOR surgery and then run the risk of something happening, or him finding out down the line, and being furious with me. This one is a toughie for me. My one sister was also less then thrilled with the idea the first time, and since she has started her own weight loss journey "the right way," it's not something I'm inclined to share with here again. However telling my dad will mean that she will know, and vice versa. And then, very quickly, my entire family would know and it would spiral very quickly.

Anyway, sorry to go on and on. It's a stressor for me and I'm not sure which route to take. Sigh.

You owe your family nothing, it's none of their business. And if they give you crap, you need to ask yourself why you consider wasting your time with these toxic people.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Me again. I didn't say why I kept it a secret. But here's the reason why I had a friend that had the gastric bypass. She was a manager at a tanning salon. Her best friend worked there and he was gay. He did some bad things and got himself fired. As his revenge he told everyone her secret on social media. He bashed her all over town. Called her every name in the book. I haven't even told my best friends, it makes me feel like you can't trust anyone. If someone could be that horrible because of their actions. It's not right. This woman hired her gay friend because he was in need of a job. It's really not right

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Why is his being gay relevant to the story?

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

*high five*

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

I love trying to figure out women and my GF in particular. Not claiming to have figured everything out

Let me save you the trouble, stop now. Only women understand women; and they hate each other.

Ask 2 women what women want, and you'll get 14 answers, none of them actually correct.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Good luck!

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

You can try to figure out what part of the spiciness is bothering you... is there vinegar? Red pepper? Black pepper?

It could just be one of the components your sleeve doesn't like right now.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Just a helpful tip, never use butter-flavored Crisco as lube.

That is all.

Wow! So sorry that we inconvenienced you all. Maybe I missed it but when I started on this site a month ago, I did not see a "how to" as far as asking questions. Maybe its time for some of the veterans to bow out... you have forgotten what it is like to be a newbie and to feel overwhelmed about this whole process not to mention the ton of information coming from all different sources. Some of you have forgotten what it is all about...if your bored with the questions...move along and don't waste your time. I thought it was great to be getting input from the "VIPs" and "Bariatric Legends" but I don't want a veteran who has forgotten where they came from.

Well, I've been on the World Wide Web since about 1994, and since that time forums have pretty much always functioned the exact same way.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

I'm having a hard time reconciling "I'm a super private person" and "I created a public account to show pictures of myself to the world ".

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Apparently I need to stop reading the Post-Op forum as that is where the Stupid lives.

Why'd you bother with surgery if you're going to continue eating junk?

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

I've always been a fan of www.lmgtfy.com for people like this, though obviously a different strategy is required for this specific forum.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Yes. She's playing you and trying to make you the bad guy for breaking up her relationship. (ie., she's a chickenshit)

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Again, that's her problem to deal with. Let her deal with it (or not, since most people like that tend to revel in it... )

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Perhaps you should break your association of mindless eating you have to passive entertainment, instead.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "