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Fredbear

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  1. Posted

    @ I see what you mean regarding my second question.

    I still don't understand the "inconsistent advice" part. For me inconsistent advice would be e. g. one veteran (or newbie) says "it's fine to eat X after four weeks, my program allowed for it" while another veteran (or newbie) says "no, don't do it, my program didn't allow for it".

    That would be inconsistent advice for me. In this case obviously both are right (they did follow their program), yet the advice is inconsistent.

    The only medical advice appropriate on a message board is "ask your doctor." You're paying them specifically for care, and it is their duty to provide it. Use it!

    All other advice here should be "this was/is/has been my experience."

    I don't put up with emotional bullshit from anyone... I'm not here to soothe the mentally unstable or provide therapy; again, there are medical professionals you can pay for that.

    Which means that I'm not going to play head games with the easily offended/those looking to be offended. Go play with your dumbass girlfriends if you need that drama.

    And I have to disagree with Alex... tone is relatively easy to pick up in text. But "tone" isn't taught in English until 9th grade, and for many, if not most Americans it takes 13 years of their education (K-12) just to get to a 7th grade mastery of the language.

    The trope that "tone is difficult" is just a way to disguise one's inability to write effectively... not to mention the reader's ability to comprehend the material (again, 13 years to attain 7 years of mastery).

    In conclusion, I would simply recommend growing a thicker skin, and asking your doctor for real advice. For tips, message boards are fine, if you can learn to simply ignore the squawking hens.

    "When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

  6. Posted · Edited by Fredbear

    If you work with women, you should expect cattiness, lies, and gossip; it's what women do.

    If you have a Human Resources team, you can bring up the gossip and try to get it quashed (though that usually just makes it worse, and you'll be ostracized). Better to take the gossip up with your boss and see if she/he can stop it.

  7. Posted

    My initial psych test had about 400 questions. I thought the questions about "hearing voices, being spied on, and people are stealing my thoughts!" were hilarious. It made the test go by quickly. The actual psychologist just spoke with me casually about family, relationships, basic stuff like that.

    "When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

  8. Posted · Edited by Fredbear

    ...I felt like I had a multilevel marketing diet plan target on my back, they all pretty much told me the same thing about how their diet was the only diet and they all had 1 common enemy and that was WLS. They all had stories about how surgery fails and I just shook my head and walked away.

    This is the basically same tactic the "abstinence-only sex education" people use. They rely on fear and ignorance to make a case for their dangerous ideology. :angry:

  15. Posted

    I had a heavy Diet Coke fixation and quit cold turkey 3 months ago. Other than about 5 days of a low-grade headache, there haven't been any issues. I've totally stopped using caffeine.

    Plus, now I'm actually tired at bedtime, and I don't need Ambien. WIN/WIN.

    I've tried a few sodas, but now fizzy drinks just make me feel bloated and sick. Which is actually a good thing... no temptation in going back to soda at all.

    "When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

  19. Posted

    If you're not compliant with a sleeve, what's the point of moving to a bypass (where you'll probably also be non-compliant).

    If you're not going to control what you're eating first and foremost, even sewing your mouth shut would be a pointless operation.

    "When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

    Harsh - is all I have to say about your comments. If I could control what I am eating - I would not of bothered with surgery. All I am doing is looking into my options. Perhaps you should of practiced what you preach and not had surgery!

    *shrug* I've never had bariatric surgery; I'm preparing for it now, and looking forward to being able to use the tool to re-learn how to interface with food, and obtain a healthy weight.

    You, however, have had it twice and seemingly haven't put two and two together and continue to eat sweets, even though you admit you shouldn't. I'd hardly call looking to have yet another surgery to lose what amounts to a trivial amount of weight to be a vast over-reaction and would question your mental state to even consider it.

    How do I say this nicely? Please don't comment as you have "never had bariatric surgery" Having WLS surgery is a difficult decision and not to be made lightly. I myself had the 2nd surgery as my band had eroded into my stomach! People who have not had WLS love to comment, however I suggest respectfully that you are not in a position to comment. Deciding to have a revision is a difficult as having the very first operation so having feedback from people in similar situations or at least have had WLS is appreciated. No back seat drivers please:)
    Well bless your heart.

    If you don't want opinions (or really, _truthful_ opinions) you shouldn't ask for them.

    But by all means, go for additional surgery even though it is apparent from your own statements that it's your behavior that is the problem.

    "When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

  20. Posted

    If you're not compliant with a sleeve, what's the point of moving to a bypass (where you'll probably also be non-compliant).

    If you're not going to control what you're eating first and foremost, even sewing your mouth shut would be a pointless operation.

    "When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

  21. Posted · Edited by Fredbear

    @@her1981

    Both of your notes bring to mind what happens when I'm waiting for a bus here in the city. If the wait is unusually long -- and, when it comes to waiting, 20 seconds feel interminable -- and another waiting passenger approaches me to vent, I look at him, give a half nod and then, without a word, walk 10 paces away. Long ago it occurred to me that the complainer feels better, but I end up feeling worse. I'm already antsy about the wait; I won't allow the strangers to soothe themselves at my expense. Pfft on them. The scenario certainly is different from what you're relating, but maybe there's something in it that you can use?

    I've made it a habit to bring and use noise-cancelling headphones when I travel just to avoid talkers. I also pull out the iPad and begin reading.

    Even with these clear "LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE" signs, there have still been three occasions where I literally had to turn to a person and say, "I'm sorry that your parents never taught you to entertain yourself, but I have no interest in talking to you because you are bored and need attention. Now STFU and leave me alone."

    "When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

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