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What I would do (if the tables were turned) is ask "Would you like to go and do something after work?" Most dudes need direct. And by direct, I mean super-direct, bordering on blunt. It's a scary thing to do, and there is always the risk of rejection......but ya never know if ya never try, right? I'm sure a super-schmart gal like yourself can mentally plot her chances on a risk / reward curve .

25-30 LBs down is nothing to laugh at! Ok...here's where it starts. You pretty much HAVE to go "by the book". Some lucky few seem to lose without following the band rules, but you're not one of them. I'm not one of them either. I have to follow the rules, or I won't lose. But....I knew going in that the band is designed to be a tool for a lifestyle change, not a quick fix One of the things about being overweight is that most of us have screwed up the satisfaction center in our brains. Most of us have gotten the feeling of "full" mixed up with the feeling of "stuffed". Remember, with the band, the idea is to see just how little you can eat and be sated for 4 hours or so. And, I'm not so pro-band that I would blindly recommed it for everybody. There is a large learning curve, and it takes work. There are rules to be followed. But it can help you if you really want it to. So (said in a loving way) quit griping about how you wish you would have read more negative stuff, and start focusing that energy on making a fresh start. You can totally do this. I know because I did.....and if I can do it, you damn sure can.

Heres the thing: Is it possible that he misinterpreted your feelings? If you've worked together before, then he might still think y'all are on "buddy" terms; Hence, the terse answer. If he legitimately thought your offer was work-related, then it's possible that he thought the offer was a just-for-today-one-time-only-right-now thing. Just a thought. In your mind, you thought your intentions were crystal clear, but from a dude's perspective, not really. Cybele is right.....we boys ARE dumb. BUT.....you made the offer during work hours and even said he could invite somebody else. That doesn't scream "I'm interested in you" to me. Good hunting!!

Thanks, I'm a funny, funny guy. Usually unintentionally. Post some pics, sister!! Hmmmmm....maybe I could let it go just this one more time. Maybe You ladies scare me!! Tracy, Tracy, Tracy..... LOL tchr, you know what cold is: Anything below 82F What the....?!? Finally some redemption for Tracy!

I hate to thread hijack ( or....PJTP, heehee...) but I still <heart> you Michelle!!

Well Ms. Lee, I guess I'm glad things are so black / white for you. Life is prolly easier when you can reduce people's situations to simple caricatures.

Um....Hello? I hope this slight was not rooted in sexism??

You're totally free inside your own head, angel. What you do in the real world, though, is a different story.

Bob, I think Israel is going to have to bomb the suspected reactor sites. IDK about the 1-2 weeks, though. Maybe the Mayans were right about that 2012 thing after all, eh?

Hiya Kat!! Sounds like you had a great time!! As for my life.....well.....I'm hanging in there.

I think your newfound confidence is great! And kudos for re-visiting the skinnydipping (personally, I LOVE to swin nekkid). It sounds like you're close to a major personal goal. Keep Pushing!!

LOL....y'all are cracking me up! HummingBird, I would love to hear how you casually worked that particular question into the conversation!!

*snicker* Well played.

Ooops. I was wondering where I left that thing. You call it a cape.....I call it a "DNA catcher".

After 13.5 years of a seemingly perfect marriage, my wife cheated with (and subsequently left me for) some douche she basically met on facebook. Ironically, the cheating happened after I had lost a significant amount of weight. Even more ironically, my outside self is starting to look pretty good, whildst my inside self is scarred up beyond belief. Good times.