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achappex3

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    Im in my mid 25 going on 26 soon, and I've been well within proper weight for most of my life. I didnt start gaining weight until I was injured nearly ten years ago in a fall on ice. Afyer that i mantained a "slighlty over weight" weight until i started birth control, which, the last product i was on made me gain 150lbs in 3 months while i wasnt hungry and therefore not eating- unlike 90% of my family whom werr just overweight from poor choices (most of my 7 siblings have different fathers and I took after my very tall, very thin father).

    Last year I had to move back home (after a rather unfortunate series of events) with my mother, 2 brothers and one of my brothers baby mama and 3 kids. Since I've made the decision to get WLS they've done things such as openly voice that it's stupid and I don't need it, and berate me for my diet and generally make me feel like I shouldn't, and CAN'T, do it. Intentionally take up all freezer (both of them) and fridge space so that I have nowhere to keep my food, order takeout most nights of the week so there's no food cooked and since I don't have any food (except cans of tuna and Miso soup) there's no food to cook.

    On the off chance that they cook, they constantly cook mushrooms (allergic) on the same pans they're going to cook everything else on (even if they plan to keep them separate from the food). The steam from cooked mushroom make me break out in hives, really, really badly. Ingesting them can send me into mild anaphylactic shock, and I've gotten very good at knowing the signs the second one hits my tongue. They literally do not care. They've said to me, multiple times, "I put mushrooms in things you eat all the time and you never have a problem." Mind you, I can tell by smell and a first small bite while being relatively safe if there are, and I throw the food away.

    I've been eating once a day, and it's mainly store bought lunch while I'm at work. They've even started getting their 3 year old to mock my diet, or the 1.5 year old to hand me his very unhealthy Snacks.

    I also have damage to my leg from my accident, and now damage to my foot after breaking it- I can not longer move 3 of my toes on that foot and only the big toe wiggles a bit. Even though I've explained to them that with all this excess weight it exacerbating the pain, they don't seem care nor understand.

    My only option is to move back out, which I fiscally cannot afford to do at the moment. I'm in an insane amount of debt thanks to my ex, I don't make enough money to rent an apartment on my own, and the apartments I can afford are either disgusting, or they're nice but the landlord is a creep/bigot/racist etc.

    I have 2 friends who support my decision fully, one of which actively goes to support meetings with me. A third friend is coming around to it, and understands that my ability to walk is important, and has started to adjust our friend dynamics according - such as instead of going out to eat and shop, going for a long walk and stopping by healthy or vegan cafes for a small meal and some tea.

    I just don't know how else to make my family understand and get the support I need in my home.

    Having said that, my brother finally understands the mushroom thing, as this morning he was making an omelet and I place a mushroom directly on my arm. He was horrified to see how badly I broke out everwhere, and has said he'd stop cooking them on the same pans and follow a more allergen aware cooking style.







    All I can say is "wow" I am so sorry that you're dealing with that and not having the support you need during this difficult transition period! But... here's the good news... YOU HAVE US! You can come here for support and now you have a ton of people on your side who are (or have been through) exactly what you are going through!

    That being said, you said your friends are supportive? Is there anyway that you may be able to stay with them for a little while? It sounds like besides the fact that your family isn't supportive, there's an EXTREMELY full house in the first place.

    I currently live with my mother, my brother, and my twin two year olds and boy it's hard enough living with them and they support me by not eating in front of me, or making sure that I have plenty of sugar free jello/popsicles to get my by if they do eat at home. And I'm just on my liquid preop diet. It's so funny because last night my mother was shocked to find me cooking dinner for my family even though I simply cannot eat it, little does she know, I'm trying out recipes that will be Bariatric friendly for me in the long run!

    That being said, I'm glad and extremely happy for you for taking this step, and continuing to stand your ground with your family who is being everything but supportive. Huge, POSITIVE, things are coming your way regardless of the obstacles you are currently facing.

    I am here if you ever want to talk, vent, scream, or just need another friend.

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    Most people lose hair after WLS. There is absolutely nothing you can do to prevent it. Fact.
    Most people who are 100+ pounds overweight have some loose skin when they lose it. Some can be minimized with exercise, some only surgery will correct. Fact.

    Denying it doesn't mean it's not going to happen to you.
    I'm 3 years post op, and have seen 100's of posts on WLS boards and been involved with several WLS groups and have gone to conventions and meet and greets and am very involved in the WLS community.
    But please, keep telling me you know more than I do, newbie.







    Why in the world are you acting like that? She's asking a question because she wants to know. That is the purpose of this. To help each other out. Your "numbers" seems extreme so it was questioned. You need to chill

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    My surgeon didn't require any pre op diet, except a light dinner the night before. Although I followed his instructions, I think it might have been better to do some sort of liquid diet. If nothing else, maybe it would help with the head hunger

    SW 372 GW 260





    I honestly think the "head hunger" was exactly why my surgeon required it. I hated the first few days of it burin thinking by the time my surgery date comes around, I'll be a "head hunger" expert.

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    14 minutes ago, heatherfeather81 said:

    You've made me so happy achappex3... I love having someone to talk to that's been thru it and gives me hope!

    I am here for you! Though this is happening for us at different times, we are in this together! message me at anytime.

  9. Posted

    I broke down and called today. The surgeons office still hasn't gotten my psych eval that I did Monday... so they haven't submitted to insurance yet. Omg I've already been waiting 10 months since I started this process... I just want to know already [emoji27]





    My process from start to finish took about the same amount of time. On my day of surgery it will have been almost 11 months to the day of the beginning of my process.

    It takes a minute. But it will be well worth it! I promise.

    I'm on day 9 of my liquid diet and am just as anxious as I was forever ago. My nerves are just sitting in now.

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    2 minutes ago, Sara1969 said:

    I'm March 6! My per-op testing is next weds 2/22.... I haven't heard anything from the Dr.'s office about a pre-op diet/liquid diet. I guess they'll tell me next week... not looking forward to a liquid diet!


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    You will be fine!!! I am officially 10 pounds down and started my pre-op liquid diet on the 8th of Feb. I will be 110% honest and say that the first three days were absolutely horrible and I was questioning if this was really going to be worth it. By day 5 I was completely fine and now I am even better and on day 8 and all I can think about is the fact that I only have 13 days left before my surgery date!!

    What has helped me a ton, is staying busy and drinking Water (when it wasn't time for my Protein shakes, sugar free Jello, broth or sugar free popsicles) until my stomach hurt. I am talking sipping from the minute I wake up, to the minute I went to bed. Between sipping like crazy and bathroom visits eating has become a distant thought.

    It isn't easy and takes A LOT of self control, but it is not impossible, and very much doable. Just keep your eye on the prize and keep moving forward. You got this!!

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    Really I'm so excited for you .Was it a quick class or a long session ?


    I had my class back in November. This appointment was just for labs mainly. While there they did labs, gave me the antibacterial soap I'll need to use the night before and morning of, a card that I'll need for after if I decide to eat that will let the restaurant know that I can only eat smaller portions, and a sticker that went on the back of my drivers license that needs to be shown in case of emergencies that end me up into the hospital.

    I met with my surgeon again, for the second time, and just went over what would happen during surgery. That was about it.

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