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Well...that gave me some interesting visuals...

My BFF shared with me that she uses her loose tummy skin to *ahem* "caress" her husband when she's in certain positions. She treats it as an extension of herself...he loves it, and she is unashamed/unapologetic about it. I think it's all about attitude.

Well monogamy was always designed to control women. Kinds had their queens and mistresses. Queens never had a lover. What is a male mistress even called? Nothing because there is no word for it. There was even "an official mistress" title for kings. Look it up. Henry the 8th was notorious for it.
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Thank s for chiming in all !! Phil, I am with you with the no cheating part. TO me the fear of dumping is a damn good reason to stay on the straight and narrow.
defibvt, you fears are the same as mine and why I focused on the sleeve. But now thinking long term I am not so sure.
PDXMan, yours is exactly what type on info I am looking for. Your case of the "fuck it's" is my biggest fear. I do not want to have a life stressor down the road and start munching on crap and put back on weight. Those issues make me want to have the fear of dumping to contend with if I get out of line.
Pirate, you are doing all the things I want to be doing right now. I have a 5 year goal of being able to mountain climb and hike the Appalachian Trail. My Uncle did it and if he can do it I can do it. I am not going to sit by idle anymore and watch the world and life pass by.
Keep the reports coming in guys !!
Trail.

Wouldn't it be nice...
......if we were older
Then we wouldn't have to wait so long
And wouldn't it be nice to live together
In the kind of world where we belong....
(The title of the post reminded me of the Beach Boys song)

The guy who suggested this on his "game" site is a cad, but I think his advise was spot on...he suggested setting a goal of 10 approaches to someone of the opposite sex a day and record them. What went right, what didn't. And he suggested approaching people you really are attracted to, people out of your league and people you are not interested in. The idea was this will build your confidence over time.
There was an unexpected side benefit, it helped me at work and being more social. So just a suggestion. If you are going to think like a man, try looking at some of the guys sites who try to teach guys how to "score" with women. There are nuggets of information about how to meet people. Helps you see it from a guys perspective. (Yes I looked at the women's sites trying to figure them out too).

I have a feeling I'll end up struggling with the sex thing. I'm only a month out and my hormones are positively raaaaaging. Poor (?) hubby can't keep up. I get looks, but thank god I'm not really getting hit on yet (I project a 'high maintenance' vibe - its a nice deterrent). I mean, I like to think I'll be plenty strong enough, but sometimes you just don't know until you're in the thick of it.

Thank s for chiming in all !! Phil, I am with you with the no cheating part. TO me the fear of dumping is a damn good reason to stay on the straight and narrow.
defibvt, you fears are the same as mine and why I focused on the sleeve. But now thinking long term I am not so sure.
PDXMan, yours is exactly what type on info I am looking for. Your case of the "fuck it's" is my biggest fear. I do not want to have a life stressor down the road and start munching on crap and put back on weight. Those issues make me want to have the fear of dumping to contend with if I get out of line.
Pirate, you are doing all the things I want to be doing right now. I have a 5 year goal of being able to mountain climb and hike the Appalachian Trail. My Uncle did it and if he can do it I can do it. I am not going to sit by idle anymore and watch the world and life pass by.
Keep the reports coming in guys !!
Trail.

I have to wear suits for my job several months out of the year. I want to be able to shop in the normal men's section. I want to be able to buy cool t-shirts to wear on vacation and while fishing. I want to shop and be able to buy something that catches my eye off the rack and not have to put it back because it isn't a 5xl.
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Not a Sleeve guy, but the one thing that I would say is that the Sleeve is the new kid on the block, in that it has only been in the last 13-14 years as a stand alone proceedure.
The jury is still out as to long term results. With any of these proceedures you can still gain weight if you get away from eating right.
I can tell you that after I did all of my research I did go with the RNY, and here are some of the reasons why I did.
1. It has been the Gold Standard for years
2. There is more long term studies / research
3. No cheating, persay but it will let me know that I shouldn't have ate something after the fact (I won't try it again anytime soon........lol )
4. I was able to keep all parts
5. My Doctor told me that in the event there were major problems it could be reversed (some will argue no but that's what mine told me)
Those were just a few of the reasons I went with the RNY.

My me, the long term health issues and malabsorption issues with the full bypass, turned me away from it. I am a year out and happy with my choice,

In July, I will be 5 years post-op from VSG. I don't exactly know what my top weight was as my scale only went to 300, but I know I was at least 10 pounds above that (probably more like 20) and was very compliant during my 2 week pre-op diet. I flew down to Vegas (baby!) for my surgery and weighed in at 280-something. Over the next year I was very compliant with the Drs eating recommendations. I was down over 100 pounds, began running (never ran in my entire life) and participated in a lot of fun classes at my local gym. Personal issues struck and I did lose a lot more. Got down to a low of 156, which was way too low for me. I changed my eating habits and maintained a 175 - 185 range for the past 2 and a half years.
As is my norm, I do stress eat and this past year, I have been under quite a bit with marriage/family issues and new responsibilities at work I have gained to a 200-205 range. When I am depressed, I get the f**k-it's. But, I am working with a therapist and have re-committed myself back to the original eating recommendations.
Even though I am quite a bit thinner, I have to always be conscience of my triggers. I still have to live life on life's terms and not try to fill the hole in my soul with food. Getting the sleeve has not stopped me from being a food addict. I love food. Simple as that. But, while the sleeve does restrict my portions quite a bit, it does not have control over my choices or impulses. I do understand why I abuse food, but when I get the f**k-it's, I sabotage myself.
So, for me, the sleeve has been fabulous. But it doesn't end right after the surgery nor after you reach your goal weight. The demons are still there (for me) and I must continue to be aware of my triggers. As I mentioned, my restriction is still great, so I know I will be able to work with my sleeve (and therapist) to get back to my goal weight.

I have done all my research on the Sleeve. I have really not even thought about a full bypass until yesterday. I am looking for long term update from the guys who have had a sleeve or bypass.
I have a few lady friends who have had great long term success with the full bypass. They are 5+ years out. But I do not personally know anyone who has had the sleeve long term.
I have been doing all the insurance mandated precursors and my Bariatric Dr. has recommended me for the Sleeve. But the second thoughts have sprouted in my head as to which one.
Thanks in advance guys.

I have done all my research on the Sleeve. I have really not even thought about a full bypass until yesterday. I am looking for long term update from the guys who have had a sleeve or bypass.
I have a few lady friends who have had great long term success with the full bypass. They are 5+ years out. But I do not personally know anyone who has had the sleeve long term.
I have been doing all the insurance mandated precursors and my Bariatric Dr. has recommended me for the Sleeve. But the second thoughts have sprouted in my head as to which one.
Thanks in advance guys.

Thank you I feel better now !

My grandfather had most of his stomach removed many many years ago d/t a bleed... He's still kicking (healthy besides his unrelated COPD) at the young age of 91--- I swear he'll outlive us all.

Yeah man, I've done the three suit deal twice. Find a local tailor though. They get you on the tailoring.
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I bought a couple dress shirts from the local J.Banks store yesterday. I was really impressed with the store and will be going back for certain once I'm leveled off and living at maintenance.
The young lady helping me almost had me tempted to jump on a 3-suit deal yesterday.........almost. Looking forward to future fitting sessions.

I am a Joy Banks guy myself. They have awesome sales. Their clearence section is really great too. I've found that their suite hold up much better than anything else. They do really cool Daily Deals as well.
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When I finally hit my fighting weight and things show signs of leveling off and maintaining......I will thoroughly enjoy going somewhere like Joseph A. Banks and buying a few suits.

Josie...
Relax...
It will allll be ok...
It's possible to overthink this stuff...
With the amount of information that we have available to us along with the different versions and opinions that we all have...
Just remember that you are different to everyone else here...
Your surgeon/team knows you better than we do...
So at this stage, do whatever it is that THEY tell you..
Yes, the pre-op diet is hard...
Yes, there's a lot to get your head around once it's done...
But you can do it...
I did it...
Everyone here has done it...
Therefore, you can do it...
You're only as 'alone' in this as you want to be...
There's always someone here with a story or opinion...
You'll be fine...
Now stop your carry on and get your s**t together..
You're making a scene...

I would like to start with Victoria's Secret!

Hollister. That was really big when I was in high school and college and I was 200+ lbs by then so no way was I going to fit into it then. I just bought a pair of jeans from there and I love the way they fit. Don't judge me for chasing high school dreams lol

Tally resident here too!!
Dr. Lang is awesome and I am hopeful to have my surgery done in May or June.
Can not get here quick enough!!!
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