shrinkingkimber

Bougie is a fun word...just throwing that out there. Bougie.

I posted some of this elsewhere, but perhaps this might serve as a helpful guide/reminder as many of us may be quite sensitive immediately pre and post op. Our bodies and minds are going through great changes and quite often, so are our relationships in the real world which completely throws some of us for a loop.
We turn here for support from like minded people but some feel that they aren't getting what they desire. So...a primer on Internet forums. Feel free to add your own reminders.
First. There is no rule that the responses must stop when you feel you got the appropriate answers, nor do they stop if you get answers you don't like. There are threads on this board that get bumped after 2-3 years of dormancy, such is the way of internet forums.
Second, just because you start a thread, it is not YOURS. This is a public forum and you will get answers from the public. Some will be very educated, some will not. Some will be warm and fuzzy, others will be blunt and to the point. And some will be overtly hostile. Take what you want, learn what you can and leave the rest.
Third. You cannot interpret the tone of the author of the post. You can read the words but that does not mean you are clearly interpreting the intent of the message being presented. If you don't like the tone you are perceiving, or are confused by it, ask. I don't mind if you say, "Hey lipstick! You being b!tchy or just straightforward?" Or "I'm really not sure how to take what you just said, care to explain?" It's the mature way to handle things and will often end hard feelings before they start. Maybe someone is having a bad day and totally worded their response badly. Give them a chance to apologize, reword or stand by their words before going off in a tangent.
If you CHOOSE to read someone's comment and tone as perpetually b!tchy, that's on you. You can't control the actions of others, you can only control your reactions. If you can't stand someone, block them. It's easy and you will never have to read their nonsense again.
Fourth. Topics will go off course and discussion will ensue even after the initial question seems to be resolved. The topics presented are NOT just for the benefit of the person who initiated it, but also for other forum participants current and future.
Fifth. Name calling is immature and ridiculous. It's also against forum rules. Don't do it. It totally invalidates every word that comes out of your mouth, past, present and future.
Sixth. Debate is good. Learn from it. Read it with an open mind. Participate civilly. It's ok to disagree.
And my wish...
Wouldn't it be nice if people could put some kind of color coding on their posts? Maybe the text would be black if the OP desires straightforward responses, pink for warm fuzzy responses, red if they want a true kick in the arse, green if they just need to vent but don't necessarily need advice, etc. sigh...
We are all traveling to the same destination. Our paths are different, our method of travel varies. Some roads are long, some short, some rocky, some smooth. The end goal is to get there. I'm there and I'm buying beer and Coke Zero for any and all who get here with me!

One week to go, June 6. I'm ready but getting nervous. I start liquid today. I want to be healthy and active again, but am worried about the first couple of weeks. I'm sorta having second thoughts, but not really. Any body else?

If you go into the bathroom and say it three times while spinning in a circle, the bougie man will appear and scoop your eyes out. Just a head's up!
This is my favorite bougie chart:

June 9!
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Bougie is a fun word...just throwing that out there. Bougie.

Bougie is a fun word...just throwing that out there. Bougie.

Bougie is a fun word...just throwing that out there. Bougie.

One minute I'm nervous, the next I'm impatient, the next I'm scared, the next I'm excited... What a roller coaster. Lol
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I am scheduled June 13th. Just got the call today insurance approved everything covering 100%. Bring on the new me ????
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Hi. I just got the referral from my PCP. Waiting on the phone call to schedule my consultation with the surgeon.

June 9th (but I'm a Sleever!)
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I think you need to make an appointment with your surgeon. It sounds like there are lots of questions you should have asked him before hand that you didn't.
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I go in for my surgery June 1st - in 9 days! Yeay! but I am getting some nerves not sure why, I have been super excited up til now haha

I realize every surgeon is different but when I leave the hospital I will be on Protein shakes. I can think of worse things you could have cheated with.
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I fail to see how that is cheating. I really do.
On my second day I was having 1oz Premier Protein shake per hour.
On my third it was double that.......fourth day and further out it grew to 33 oz per day.
I think you are doing great. Don't beat yourself up.
I am not a doctor. I have no medical training....nor did I sleep in a Holiday In Express last night......so you've been warned that I most likely don't know what the hell I'm talking about.

Teacher here!! 10 days of school left!!! Whoop whoop!!! Surgery is June 10th. Really looking forward to being smaller in August!!! This is a revision for me.
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Bougie is a fun word...just throwing that out there. Bougie.

Hey @@kilbygirl we are surgery date twins! Send me a message if you wanna connect on Facebook, Instagram or email!
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Thanks @@shrinkingkimber so true.
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I think he removed plenty of my stomach tissue but not enough brain matter.......

Bougie is a fun word...just throwing that out there. Bougie.

I'm June 7th:)

I think you need to make an appointment with your surgeon. It sounds like there are lots of questions you should have asked him before hand that you didn't.
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