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If he can walk away like that I would say he has a girlfriend.

My husband was a negative Nellie at first too. He eventually admitted that he was going to be jealous of my weightloss. I told him to stop it and that this wasn't about him, it was about me getting healthy. He would tell me about the people he knows that had it done and told me he was afraid I was going to eat right through it. Well there's a vote of confidence! Sheesh! Then he said it is horribly painful and I was going to be really hurting. I never had any pain beyond the first few days.

I finally just told him to knock it off with the doom and gloom. It wasn't nice and it wasn't fair to say those things to me. He didn't have to like my decision but he did have to respect it. I didn't even get to feel excited about getting it done. He stole that from me! Grrrr.

I asked the psychologist about this very thing with unsupportive husbands during my second session. I was curious of effects on marriages after WLS. People always judge folks that had wls and say once so and so got skinny he or she went crazy and left his or her spouse. She said the truth of the matter is if the marriages dissolve that it was a long time coming and after having wls and losing weight it helps people regain their confidence and decreases their insecurities. They may not be willing to tolerate what they once did. If they separate, they should have before the surgery anyway. Many times the spouse can't handle the newfound confidence. Some guys just want to keep their women chubby.

I know that was kind of off topic, but don't let him make you second guess yourself. It's not about him, it's about you putting yourself first! Stand up for yourself! Take care of your health so you can live a long, healthy active life! I am just 3 weeks post op and my husband is very supportive now. He says he was just afraid of the whole thing.

Try cucumber slices or mint leaves in your Water. Very refreshing!

My doctor told me I wasn't eating enough calories to lose and that my body is in starvation mode and hanging on to everything. I get 300-500 calories a day. I've tried really hard to eat more this week to see if it sets me back in the right direction. My new goal is 800 calories for now.

I had my surgery on 1/11/16. I was 208 the day of surgery and hit 193 on 1/25. My weight hasn't budged since then. I think 15 lbs. In 3 weeks is a pretty decent loss. You are doing great. Heal up and we will see our fat melt off soon.