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I found some really good advice and information on here. I especially love 'Introversion', she is always kind and helpful.

I, for one, believe the world benefits much from what you bring to it. I’m not one for sugarcoating anything usually but still would say there is something to be said for putting things nicely if it can be done.

i reported the poster and the thread. alex closed it down pretty quick. i hope he banned the poster who went psycho on jaminator. he can hold his own but that girl was going to far.

i reported the poster and the thread. alex closed it down pretty quick. i hope he banned the poster who went psycho on jaminator. he can hold his own but that girl was going to far.

Oh thank God!!!!!!!!

Man, all this and I am the one on her period!

I don't understand if this was a thread you didn't like why did you chose to click on it, read thru 14 pages of it, and then join in on it? You involved yourself hun, no one forced you to read it. There are thousands of other threads on this app/webpage.

I am certainly not 'bullying' you or 'trying to control' you, certainly not any more than you are 'bullying' and 'trying to control' us (although those are interesting choices of words, a little overly dramatic and aggressive, dont u think?) I see it as you sharing your OPINIONS, just like the rest of us are. Perhaps you don't like the opinions...so again I ask, why did you decided to stop and insert yourself into a thread you were thoroughly disgusted with? Especially after it was already concluded. And just to tell a bunch of strangers how dissapointing we are to you??? Uhhh...ok.

Now, enough of all that talk above. What I really would like to conclude my response to you with is....a big congratulations! Honestly! [emoji106] What an amazing accomplishment to have lost 100lbs in 4 months. Not an easy feat to accomplish. In fact, I think this thread (and many out there) was started by a young lady who is frustrated at the slow pace of which her weight is coming off. So, the fact that you were able to not only lose 100lbs in 4 months but also accomplish your weightloss goals in such a short amount of time is fantastic!! Keep up the great work! I wish you all the best! [emoji5]

I get it, and I already apologized. What more do you want? You can ask for an apology from every single person that has ever said something rude on here.
And stop acting like you’ve never been rude in your life.
I understand everyone on here is struggling with their weight, I hope they all reach their goals and live happy, healthy lives.

Oh goodness, another person here to judge others. U really felt the need to come out of the bushes to chastise folks? Really? U could just as easily have NOT responded and moved on to another thread where u felt more comfortable. Ur comments arent adding any value to the discussion other than to shame. Not cool either. The moderator already shut down the situation and addressed what would happen to those who continue misbehaving. Please stop talking to us as if we are children.

If someone is going to be rude to me, I can be just as cruel back. Never have I said or done things like this before. You can go look at my other posts, and what I post on others questions, I provide help, and support. People here are rude. People advised me not to join websites like these because of everyone hiding behind a computer screen. I’m on Instagram and NEVER ONCE have I gotten a comment like the ones I did here tonight.
I asked for it to stop, people didn’t want to stop and continued with all the rude comments.
Honestly I want everyone on here to reach their goals and get the support they need. But after today I see there’s more of the opposite. I’m pretty new on here, I’ve only made a few posts and to see this side of bariatricpal is so disgusting and disappointing. I understand I was in the wrong too, and I apologize to those who I was rude to. But I’m going to say something especially when someone is being THAT RUDE.

This user has already been banned for not following our rules https://www.bariatricpal.com/guidelines/ .

Mr Brecher, there is a user on this thread who is claiming to be a psychologist, posting unverifiable proof that she is a psychologist, and then making hostile and denigrating evaluative statements to other users as a psychologist. When confronted, she refuses to curb her unethical behavior. This is analogous to someone claiming to be a physician and then practicing bad medicine on an anonymous internet forum that you host. Tolerating this behavior may make you complicit in any resulting harm. Please ban Abeille213.

For anyone reading, the American Psychological Association ethical guidelines can be found here: http://www.apa.org/ethics/code/
Every state, to my knowledge, relies heavily on them to determine what constitutes unprofessional conduct. In ethics training provided by the TRUST, which is the malpractice company endorsed by the APA, the trainer presented surprisingly analogous behavior as an example of unethical acts on a message board.
Abeille213, please seek consultation, and refrain from unethical behavior.

If I could read your name and the state in which you're licensed, I'd be on the phone with the licensing board first thing tomorrow morning. Please discontinue your unethical behavior. If you don't understand that what you're doing is unethical, please seek consultation.

If you are a psychologist, what you're doing here is unethical and actionable. You're making evaluative statements under the umbrella of your professional expertise that are damning, based on information posted on an anonymous peer support forum, where you have not formed a client/professional relationship. Please discontinue, or I will push for you to be banned from the forum (and I encourage you to seek peer supervision on your conduct).

I wouldn’t come to you EVEN IF I NEEDED help. You seem like a horrible person. Besides that I already had my psych evaluation and was cleared for surgery. If you had any sense you’d know that after a major surgery it’s okay to be fearful of if I’m doing the right thing or not. So why don’t you bounce off my post and worry about fixing yourself. Obviously as a doctor that didn’t prevent you from tipping the scale at 400 pounds. So why should I listen to anything you have to say, you couldn’t even listen to yourself.

Can I block users? I'm sickened by the abusive behavior of two commenters in particular. I'm new and I won't be sticking around if posts like the ones by Abielle and Johnny Cakes are tolerated. It's very poor forum management to allow people like this to prey on new users. They're essentially trolls.

Curious, are u a physician? What kind?

You don't seem very tolerant of those that are having a bit of a hard time mentally right now. It may be easier for u to deal with since it appears u have been in the WLS game for awhile, are down a significant amount of weight (from 402 to 249), and have had time to mentally adjust to how quickly, or slowly, YOUR body loses weight. It's easy to forget that u too were once first out of WLS and eventually stalling in ur weight loss and wondering if u were doing the right or wrong things. You used to weigh 402lbs, those feelings must have come up. So why are u so judgemental of others that have them now?

Folks are here for support, not to be shamed or told to get over it and 'stop whining'. So, of course she would get defensive if someone tells her that! It's inappropriate, and since when has that ever been a proper way to empathize and encourage? Is it really necessary to vocalize your annoyance, for no reason, or is it more appropriate to just move on to a different thread, one where u can offer support, suggestions, and inspiration based on your experiences?

Ok, I can see it now. Everyone jumps on the "exercise is da bomb" train.. "let's all get out and run a marathon this time next year". The people this board is catering to are almost all newbies. They are newly out of surgery, trying to recover.. they are 100+ pounds overweight (and most of us didn't get that way by walking 5 miles a day).
Muscles can grow in weeks. Bone and ligament strength takes a year or more.
Lots of people are busy, going to work, maintaining their homes, caring for their families. The surgery comes along and takes months of recuperation, and introduces a completely new lifestyle that they are expected to carry on forever. Do you think that the whole package may be asking just a bit too much?
Patients' to do list after leaving the hospital:
Care for your wounds, and watch for signs of infection for the next month.
Relearn how to drink
Relearn how to eat
Watch and count every single thing that you are eating and drinking
Learn how to shop
Learn what complications you may or may not be experiencing to figure out if you should contact someone, or if it's normal.
Learn how to poop more, or less.
Learn how to feed the cats when you can't pick up more than 10lbs for the next month and a half.
Learn how to sleep when the normal position hurts
Learn that weight loss doesn't happen nearly as quickly and consistently as was imagined
Learn to trust the process
Learn that going for a walk leaves you more breathless postop than preop
Learn that the Vitamins that you have to take will actually make you sick and you have to find some that don't
Learn that loose skin has to be contained, or rashes develop
Learn what dehydration feels like, and how to prevent it
Learn that you're now sensitive to dairy (or other common foods)
...
Ok.. you get the point. For some people, all of the above comes naturally and there is no trouble. But, from the questions on this board, those people are few and far between. Adding intense, mandatory exercise on top of all of that might just cause some heads to explode.
Dr. V is saying.. hey, let's get control of all these issues.. get calories up a bit and your heads on straight, figure out the early challenges.. and THEN introduce a more rigorous exercise routine. Don't bite off more than you can chew, and don't feel GUILTY about not wanting to bite off more than you can chew.
If everyone says, hey, exercise is REQUIRED, NECESSARY, PEER REVIEWED, and you won't be successful without it.. that is putting ANOTHER burden on people that are in a delicate condition, and is possibly a contributing source of much of the emotional turmoil we see on this board.
I never said people should sit on the couch for the first year. But I'm saying taking a little walk, or easy yoga, or a swim is going to be just fine.. and to save the harder stuff for later.
People that are chomping at the bit and capable and desirous of more intensity.. well, they'll tell themselves that my advice is for all those couch potatoes and not THEM. So they'll ignore it and do what they want. That's fine. Nothing wrong with that. My goal is not to get everyone to hold him/herself back. My goal is to say, hey.. you don't have to kill yourselves. Bite off what you can handle right now, and take on more later when you're ready.
And the reality is that people that bite off too much at once do tend to hurt themselves. Slow and progressive advancement can help prevent many of those types of injuries. (And allowing time for weight loss, will also help take some of the pressure off of delicate joints).
I'm thrilled that early, intense exercise worked for you, Jess. You are an inspiration! It's just not for everyone.

Then don’t read it? Lol you took the time to read all the replies so are you really tired of it? 😂😂

i was offering help. i think your rate of weight loss expectations are far too high, i think you are exercising too much (800 calories per workout is extreme), and i tried to educate you that weight loss is NOT as simple as calories in / calories out. but you have rejected all of that (sound) advice and have turned into a raging b*tch launching ad hominem attacks against me.
again, i think finding a good psychologist might be your best bet.

i did read your post. now for you to learn something new...
exercise does not cause weight loss. and MORE exercise definitely doesn't cause MORE weight loss. sorry to be the one to dispel this myth for you, but it's been pretty well proven by a lot of credible research. in fact, if you are "slaving away" at the gym, that might be hampering your weight loss even further. that is, if you had a real problem with rate of weight loss, which you do not.
i would recommend you stop obsessing and doing something lighter that you enjoy (walking is probably best) rather than "slaving away" at the gym.
but what do i know, i'm just an a$$h*le.

Surgery was 8/9 down 63#......at a stall constantly....

Surgery was 8/9 down 63#......at a stall constantly....

9/22 weigh in 347