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virgorooster

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    virgorooster got a reaction from cherri2082 in I don't think it was meant to be an insult   
    It is not your personality. You may not be accustomed to the compliments (which were well deserved prior to your surgery). So now that you're getting tons of them, it feels weird. You deserve the adoration. So get used to it! Besides, He probably didn't mean it in a bad way. He's could be someone that gives weird, although well meaning, compliments.
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    virgorooster got a reaction from cherri2082 in I don't think it was meant to be an insult   
    It is not your personality. You may not be accustomed to the compliments (which were well deserved prior to your surgery). So now that you're getting tons of them, it feels weird. You deserve the adoration. So get used to it! Besides, He probably didn't mean it in a bad way. He's could be someone that gives weird, although well meaning, compliments.
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    virgorooster got a reaction from cherri2082 in I don't think it was meant to be an insult   
    It is not your personality. You may not be accustomed to the compliments (which were well deserved prior to your surgery). So now that you're getting tons of them, it feels weird. You deserve the adoration. So get used to it! Besides, He probably didn't mean it in a bad way. He's could be someone that gives weird, although well meaning, compliments.
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    virgorooster got a reaction from maxcimax in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    Thanks to all of you ladies and gents, if any responded. The person facilitating the meeting is a patient advocate. That's what was frightening.
    I am not a band bashed in the least. My mother had the band 13 years ago. She has maintained her weight loss. Her surgeon told her that she should do a revise, but she won't due to her age. I know that all of the surgeries work if you work at it. This board has been great and people like Cowgirl are an inspiration.
    My cousin texted me that there is a support group at the hospital that she works for. They're group is a little bit bigger and she heard it's better.
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    virgorooster got a reaction from NewSetOfCurves in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    Hello everyone. I read the forum daily, but never post. After an incident last night, I felt compelled to.
    A little about me: I'm 34 and was sleeved on 12/16/15. My SW was 295 and CW is 271.
    I had my surgery through True Results. I had been depressed lately because I went through the 3 week stall. I really wanted to talk to others that knew what I was going through. So I planned on going to True Result's once a month support group meetings for guidance and support. I live with my cousin who had the lap-band 5 years ago, but it didn't work so well for her. She decided to have a sleeve revision when I had my sleeve. I asked her if she wanted to come to the support group at True Results with me and she said yes.
    We went and when everyone introduced themselves, I realized that I was the only person who had the sleeve. They were so anti-sleeve and found myself defending my choice all night. I heard things like "with the sleeve you gain all of your weight back after a year", "the enzymes grow back within 6 months to a year, "the sleeve is too invasive", and "the science proves that the lap band is superior". I felt vulnerable already because I feel like I'm not losing like I should, especially after my 3 week stall. They just made fun of me for whining about not losing weight fast enough. They were even rude to my cousin because she wanted the revision.
    I left even more discouraged than when I came in. Three of the women monopolized the discussions with any and every thing that popped into their heads. I was only able to speak during my introduction. I didn't want it to be all about me, but I didn't feel like I could get answers or just let how I felt out. We are all there for the same reason. Our surgical methods are different, but that shouldn't have mattered.
    Rants over. Thanks for reading.
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    virgorooster got a reaction from shrinkingkimber in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    i chose the best option for me as they chose the best option for them. There are things about the band that I don't like for me, but I wouldn't discourage someone's choice.
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    virgorooster got a reaction from maxcimax in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    Thanks to all of you ladies and gents, if any responded. The person facilitating the meeting is a patient advocate. That's what was frightening.
    I am not a band bashed in the least. My mother had the band 13 years ago. She has maintained her weight loss. Her surgeon told her that she should do a revise, but she won't due to her age. I know that all of the surgeries work if you work at it. This board has been great and people like Cowgirl are an inspiration.
    My cousin texted me that there is a support group at the hospital that she works for. They're group is a little bit bigger and she heard it's better.
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    virgorooster got a reaction from shrinkingkimber in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    i chose the best option for me as they chose the best option for them. There are things about the band that I don't like for me, but I wouldn't discourage someone's choice.
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    virgorooster got a reaction from NewSetOfCurves in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    Hello everyone. I read the forum daily, but never post. After an incident last night, I felt compelled to.
    A little about me: I'm 34 and was sleeved on 12/16/15. My SW was 295 and CW is 271.
    I had my surgery through True Results. I had been depressed lately because I went through the 3 week stall. I really wanted to talk to others that knew what I was going through. So I planned on going to True Result's once a month support group meetings for guidance and support. I live with my cousin who had the lap-band 5 years ago, but it didn't work so well for her. She decided to have a sleeve revision when I had my sleeve. I asked her if she wanted to come to the support group at True Results with me and she said yes.
    We went and when everyone introduced themselves, I realized that I was the only person who had the sleeve. They were so anti-sleeve and found myself defending my choice all night. I heard things like "with the sleeve you gain all of your weight back after a year", "the enzymes grow back within 6 months to a year, "the sleeve is too invasive", and "the science proves that the lap band is superior". I felt vulnerable already because I feel like I'm not losing like I should, especially after my 3 week stall. They just made fun of me for whining about not losing weight fast enough. They were even rude to my cousin because she wanted the revision.
    I left even more discouraged than when I came in. Three of the women monopolized the discussions with any and every thing that popped into their heads. I was only able to speak during my introduction. I didn't want it to be all about me, but I didn't feel like I could get answers or just let how I felt out. We are all there for the same reason. Our surgical methods are different, but that shouldn't have mattered.
    Rants over. Thanks for reading.
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    virgorooster got a reaction from NewSetOfCurves in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    Hello everyone. I read the forum daily, but never post. After an incident last night, I felt compelled to.
    A little about me: I'm 34 and was sleeved on 12/16/15. My SW was 295 and CW is 271.
    I had my surgery through True Results. I had been depressed lately because I went through the 3 week stall. I really wanted to talk to others that knew what I was going through. So I planned on going to True Result's once a month support group meetings for guidance and support. I live with my cousin who had the lap-band 5 years ago, but it didn't work so well for her. She decided to have a sleeve revision when I had my sleeve. I asked her if she wanted to come to the support group at True Results with me and she said yes.
    We went and when everyone introduced themselves, I realized that I was the only person who had the sleeve. They were so anti-sleeve and found myself defending my choice all night. I heard things like "with the sleeve you gain all of your weight back after a year", "the enzymes grow back within 6 months to a year, "the sleeve is too invasive", and "the science proves that the lap band is superior". I felt vulnerable already because I feel like I'm not losing like I should, especially after my 3 week stall. They just made fun of me for whining about not losing weight fast enough. They were even rude to my cousin because she wanted the revision.
    I left even more discouraged than when I came in. Three of the women monopolized the discussions with any and every thing that popped into their heads. I was only able to speak during my introduction. I didn't want it to be all about me, but I didn't feel like I could get answers or just let how I felt out. We are all there for the same reason. Our surgical methods are different, but that shouldn't have mattered.
    Rants over. Thanks for reading.
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    virgorooster got a reaction from maxcimax in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    Thanks to all of you ladies and gents, if any responded. The person facilitating the meeting is a patient advocate. That's what was frightening.
    I am not a band bashed in the least. My mother had the band 13 years ago. She has maintained her weight loss. Her surgeon told her that she should do a revise, but she won't due to her age. I know that all of the surgeries work if you work at it. This board has been great and people like Cowgirl are an inspiration.
    My cousin texted me that there is a support group at the hospital that she works for. They're group is a little bit bigger and she heard it's better.
  12. Like
    virgorooster got a reaction from maxcimax in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    Thanks to all of you ladies and gents, if any responded. The person facilitating the meeting is a patient advocate. That's what was frightening.
    I am not a band bashed in the least. My mother had the band 13 years ago. She has maintained her weight loss. Her surgeon told her that she should do a revise, but she won't due to her age. I know that all of the surgeries work if you work at it. This board has been great and people like Cowgirl are an inspiration.
    My cousin texted me that there is a support group at the hospital that she works for. They're group is a little bit bigger and she heard it's better.
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    virgorooster reacted to Pillar2butterfly in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    I am so sorry this happened to you. Don't be discouraged. Everyone has their own journey. And some like to be in the limelight and many think they are a WLS expert simply for having had the surgery. I would try going again and give it another chance. Did they break up into so small groups? My support group has about 100 folks there each month, and we break into smaller groups. If it is already a smaller group, maybe ask your doctor for a contact for a possible mentor, someone that has had the sleeve as well. You are doing great!
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    virgorooster got a reaction from NewSetOfCurves in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    Hello everyone. I read the forum daily, but never post. After an incident last night, I felt compelled to.
    A little about me: I'm 34 and was sleeved on 12/16/15. My SW was 295 and CW is 271.
    I had my surgery through True Results. I had been depressed lately because I went through the 3 week stall. I really wanted to talk to others that knew what I was going through. So I planned on going to True Result's once a month support group meetings for guidance and support. I live with my cousin who had the lap-band 5 years ago, but it didn't work so well for her. She decided to have a sleeve revision when I had my sleeve. I asked her if she wanted to come to the support group at True Results with me and she said yes.
    We went and when everyone introduced themselves, I realized that I was the only person who had the sleeve. They were so anti-sleeve and found myself defending my choice all night. I heard things like "with the sleeve you gain all of your weight back after a year", "the enzymes grow back within 6 months to a year, "the sleeve is too invasive", and "the science proves that the lap band is superior". I felt vulnerable already because I feel like I'm not losing like I should, especially after my 3 week stall. They just made fun of me for whining about not losing weight fast enough. They were even rude to my cousin because she wanted the revision.
    I left even more discouraged than when I came in. Three of the women monopolized the discussions with any and every thing that popped into their heads. I was only able to speak during my introduction. I didn't want it to be all about me, but I didn't feel like I could get answers or just let how I felt out. We are all there for the same reason. Our surgical methods are different, but that shouldn't have mattered.
    Rants over. Thanks for reading.
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    virgorooster reacted to ocgirl15 in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    band superior to sleeve? In 2016 very few surgeons would agree. To many don't work as expected, cause complications, are removed, or revised to sleeve or bypass. Many surgeons won't even do them anymore.
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    virgorooster got a reaction from shrinkingkimber in Not So Supportive Support Group   
    i chose the best option for me as they chose the best option for them. There are things about the band that I don't like for me, but I wouldn't discourage someone's choice.

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