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Joyce, I can't tell you how common it is, but it must be so hard for you right now.

Please try as hard as you can to stop, think how horrible it would be to lose your band :hat:

Be strong and don't let bad habits keep you from being healthy!

I'm afraid that I will never be able to lose weight.

I am afraid that I will become fatter.

I am afraid of cancer.

I am afraid of being in a terrible car accident.

I am afraid of dying before my son is on his own, because if I died, he'd have no parents and have to be raised by my crazy family.

I am afraid that I will never get married.

I am afraid that I will never be completely independant.

I am afraid of spiders or flying insects.

I am afraid that I'm not a good enough person and God wont accept me when I die.

I am afraid of being disliked for my weight.

I am afraid of being naked with a man.

I am afraid that I'll never get my band and will lose hope forever.

I'm afraid that one day I'll give up trying.

Lets ban food ads. Then ban video game ads too, and while you're at it, ban anything and everything that will negatively affect whoever might be watching. We'll be left watching barney and sesame street, because everything else is always going to offend someone. And then they are going to cancel barney too, because there are three times more white kids on the show than there is black.

While I personally think that people can be influenced by advertisement, lets not forget that our economy depends on all the media and the billions of dollars they stimulate through advertisement. America is one of the best countires to live in. Freedom and opportunity does come with a price though.

I'm there too! yey

Good Luck Vines, thinking of you.

Holy mozes you guys have seen some jerk doctors!

The worst that has happened to me was when I was 19-20 years old. I went to my gyno for a regular check up and he suggested putting me on phentermine for three months to kick start weight loss, and after the three months of phentermine, he'll put me on antidepressants so I don't gain the weight back!

I didn't even ask him for the help in weight loss, he just assumed I was depressed and that made me fat.

At that age, I was sure the doctor knew what he was doing so I took the pills and lost lots of weight, and after I stopped I gained almost twice as much

As for the antidepressants, I realized I needed to see a different doctor for it and when I went to talk to her, after a good 30 minutes of conversation she suggested I don't take antidepressants.

OMG I just saw that you are from Chicago. I also have a great guy for you. He is an RNY'er and just a total sweetie. We both live south of the city, let me know if you are interested. ~Mandy

Cool!

Ofcourse I can't start dating right after a breakup, but give me a couple of weeks

Now that I've thought about the breakup, I'm even more proud of myself than I was yesterday.

I DO deserve better!

Mags

I broke up with him today. I told him that I was blind before but he crossed the line two weeks ago and I started to see more clearly.

He argued me and made more excuses, but I didn't cave.

It's over.

Funny thing... my friend has already said she wants to set me up with a great guy she knows. Heh.

I'm very happy about my decision.

He knows how I feel.

We havent been dating long. Before I met him I was in a very long relationship and a bit heartbroken. I guess I needed a distraction from the pain and went after a new guy right away.

My pain didnt last long and I started having real feelings for this b/f.

Anyway, I've told him about all this stuff, and looks like he is making excuses.

He didnt invite me to the weddings because he thought I wouldnt have fun.

He orders pizza because he doesn't think it's a big deal (I'm being a baby he says)

He doesnt come to my place because he works a lot more than I do.

He doesn't want to meet my friends because he doesnt feel like going out with a bunch of strangers.

Seems like a bunch of excuses. I think that he just doesnt like to be inconvenienced.

I was putting up with all of this because he isn't all bad. He is a good person, just lazy I guess.

What really made me sick of everything was two weekends ago after I went out with my friends.

I called him the next day and told him that a friend of a friend was talking to me all night and I thought it was funny how this cute younger guy was so into me. This is how the conversation went:

Me: this younger boy was talking to me all night, kinda funny he was so interested.

Him: He is probably just a chubby chaser

Me: What's a chubby chaser?

Him: A guy that hits on fat girls because they are desperate for sex and will be an easy lay.

Me: So you think that's all he wanted was just sex? All I'm good for is easy sex?

Him: No, I didn't say that. I said he was PROBABLY thinking that.

Me: Oh great. Bye.

I can't explain it but I was very offended by that.

So I've had this boyfriend for a little while. Things progressed very fast between the two of us and I honestly thought he loved me. He said he did...

Maybe I'm naive but I had high hopes for this relationship.

Here are some problems:

During this relationship he was invited to three weddings and didnt ask me to go with him.

His brother lives 5 minutes from him and he never introduced me to him.

He never wanted me to come with when he was going out with his friends so I never got to know any of them.

He never agreed to meet my friends when I asked on several ocassions.

He expect me to always come to his house and when he finally does come to my house, he expects me to praise him for all the effort.

I only go see him 1-2 times a week and he insists on ordering spicy foods or pizza even though I HATE spicy stuff or pizza. WHy cant he just order the food on days I'm not there?

He often acts like he is doing me a favor by making time to see me.

There are a few more things, but are more personal.

Am I just expecting too much? Or are these serious issues? What do you ladies think? I feel like I need to break it off, but when I talk to him he seems very upset and cries. I'm stuck because I care about him but I want more for him than to just hang out and eat pizza.

:help:

I once called the police when I was at the laundrymat (11pm) and a dad was dragging his daughter by the hair.

He kept yelling and cursing and that had me ticked off, but when he dragged her on the floor by the hair, I got pissed off and dialed 911. The cops showed up within minutes and as soon as they were there, I left. I dont know what happened, but hopefully the dad learned his lesson.

The only thing I was worried about is the dad might blame the girl for this and give her a real beating at home scary thought.

I have experience with a very hyper, easily ticked off child. My son has been in school for 3 years and the teacher complained about him a lot. He didnt like to listen, didnt do his work, so easily distracted. I had problems at home too.

One thing you have to remember is that ADD is not that bad. It's not a mental illness, he isn't 'crazy' and will most likely grow out of it. It's temporary and does get better. If this is what is happening with your little boy, definately accept it and work with him. He needs help, not denial.

The one thing that has worked with my son is reward. I reward good behavior daily, and most of the time it works wonders. I remind him in the morning 'be a good boy, do all your work, listen to your teacher and after school we can go to the playplayce' etc. Things like this teach children that they have to work in order to get something good. If he doesn't behave well, don't take him. If he cries about it, let him.. but don't cave.

Second thing that is so important is NEVER EVER threaten him with a punishment and then don't follow through. This is the worst thing you can do for your child. I know that giving punishments sucks and no momma wants to do it, but when you don't follow through, you're harming your child. Give punishments that will make him unhappy, like taking away his favorite toys, not allowing tv for 2 days, no videogames for a week. Children need restrictions and without them, they think they can do whatever they want.

Often kids will say things like 'I hate my life' of 'I want to die' and this is not a crisis, they aren't depressed. Children who say that, especially under 10 years old, say it because they dramatize every emotion, and this is normal. They often dramatize good emotions, saying things like 'This is the best day of my life!'. Don't be alarmed if a child responds in this way to being punished. DOn't back down, instead explain that they can be good tomorrow and the punishment will go away.

Don't make it too easy on your child. He needs structure and he needs to be praised. Be firm with punishments, and reward good behavior.

It is a lot of work and requires full commitment from both parents and other family members, but a child with add needs more positive attention.

Also, please please don't ever make your child feel guilty. Don't say things like 'because of you, now daddy is mad at me' or 'you make me angry all the time, why cant you just be good?'. Children don't deserve guilt, they are too innocent for that.

One last thing, don't punish him for being angry, he is expressing emotions, not misbehaving. Instead try to calm him down in a loving way. Give him a hug and a kiss and say somethign comforting like 'I know you're angry about your punishment, but I love you very much and you're my favorite boy in the world. Now lets go read a book'. This often works.

Good luck. I know it takes so much work that it can be exhausting for parents, but just a few weeks can make a major difference.

Maggie

Sounds like fun, but would a non banded girl like myself be welcome?

Maggie

Scrub it with a sponge then wipe dry. Apply oil into it. Baby oil works ok, so does Lemon oil for furniture.

Some other cleaning tips:

Soak a washcloth in hot Water with a little soap and stick it on the swiffer to mop the floors. No Need for 'swiffer wet'.

If you have old mirrors that get bad looking smears when you use windex, try using only Water. Water will not leave any smears.

If you get bad hard water on glass shower doors: clean the glass really well with lime away, then rinse clean until it looks perfect. After it's completely dry, apply rain-x. It will keep water from sticking to the shower door and will stay looking great.

Mine is "Abracadabra" by Steve Miller Band

I really love this song!

LOL that's funny

WHy's my nose bent out of shape? Because some jerk right behind me on an intersection thinks it's ok to honk at me the second the green light comes on. That really pisses me off.

Or because my son will come up with every freaking excuse possible not to do his homework, and calls me a bad mom when I tell him to sit down and do it or he will be in big time trouble,

Or because I get headaches almost every freaking day and all my doctor has ever offered was perscription advil. When I want to figure out WHY it hurts, she think's I'm too paranoid.

Being fat has affected my sex life just as much as it has affected other parts of my life.

When people cheer on when I finally buy a size 14, I am hoping they will cheer on when I finally have the confidence to get fully naked in front of a man and allow him to worship every part of my body.

Or when I can easily get on top without losing my breath from all the bouncing LOL.

I don't know about laws over there, but where I am, he could not throw you out. If he does try, would calling the police help?

DOn't let him control the situation, you are entitled to your money and he needs to pay it.

I live in Chicago and the winter is really starting to get me down.

I have the winter blues and I think I need to get away.

Can't afford a full vacation to Hawaii, but am looking to escape to a warmer state for a few days.

Do any of you know of a good place to rent a room and BBQ in the sun?

Mags

I've had a Today sponge stuck too! It took me a good 25 minutes to get it out. I was just about ready to call someone for help.

Here is a link for sublime glow in case you're interested:

http://www.drugstore.com/qxp150266_333181_sespider/loreal/sunless_sublime_glow_daily_moisturizer_fair_skin_tones.htm

Gosh it looks terrible, so sorry that this happened to you!

I once got so burned at the tanning salon, I had a high fever from it.

It was horrible.

Did you tan your face as well? If so, the skin on your face might have suffered a lot of damage. Your dermatologist might suggest that you go through treatment to get rid of the damaged skin and reduce risk of skin cancer.

I recommend self tannign gradual tan lotions.

The best one I have ever used so far is made by Loreal. It's called 'Sublime Glow'. It doesn't streak like regular tan lotions because it only gives you a slight shade with every day you apply it. After three days you have a nice even tan, and no damage to the skin. It's really worth trying.

I have a very light complexion but purchased the one for medium skin tones and it gave me a nice color after only two applications.

Please don't ever go back to the tannign salon, but if you do, wear sunscreen!

To answer your question, I am 23.

I do have an obgyn and will call his office tomorrow.

Thanks a lot!

Maggie

I've never had my breast checked out, probably because I'm pretty young still and never thought it was necessary. Never had problems before this.

Thanks ladies for the advice. I will take a couple advil when it gets bad and will make an appointment on Monday.

Maggie