chrys129

I know this is an old post, but I wanted to thank you for sharing. I really REALLY needed to hear this right now in my journey. I was sleeved almost exactly 3 years ago. Everything was awesome for the first 18 months. I felt amazing, I got within 9 lbs of my goal weight by 12 months out. I was training for a 10K... then a lot of major life changes, as well. I'm a single mom. Have been for 11 years, so that part wasn't new, but I had my heart broken again in early 2017 (devastated, really), 2 changes of job/career in less than 10 months following that, problems with my teenagers, and a pretty major depression brought on by another heartbreak that I fought for the better part of 6 months recently. I turned to alcohol to numb myself since I couldn't turn to food and, as you can imagine, that did not go well for me. Tons of empty liquid calories and no motivation to exercise or eat right... when I did eat, it was small portions but I was losing the battle to get enough Protein and Water.
I don't list this as excuses, because I know I need to own my poor choices. And I want to start over.
I initially lost over 115 lbs and maintained in that range for nearly a year before it fell apart. I've gained back about 85 now.
I have been beating myself over it and hoping that its not too late to turn the ship around. I still have the tools... Thank you for letting me know its not out of my reach.
I'm trying to get back to basics this week with protein and water... and also am 1 day alcohol free (which doesn't sound like much yet, but I'm motivated to keep going)

I know this is an old post, but I wanted to thank you for sharing. I really REALLY needed to hear this right now in my journey. I was sleeved almost exactly 3 years ago. Everything was awesome for the first 18 months. I felt amazing, I got within 9 lbs of my goal weight by 12 months out. I was training for a 10K... then a lot of major life changes, as well. I'm a single mom. Have been for 11 years, so that part wasn't new, but I had my heart broken again in early 2017 (devastated, really), 2 changes of job/career in less than 10 months following that, problems with my teenagers, and a pretty major depression brought on by another heartbreak that I fought for the better part of 6 months recently. I turned to alcohol to numb myself since I couldn't turn to food and, as you can imagine, that did not go well for me. Tons of empty liquid calories and no motivation to exercise or eat right... when I did eat, it was small portions but I was losing the battle to get enough Protein and Water.
I don't list this as excuses, because I know I need to own my poor choices. And I want to start over.
I initially lost over 115 lbs and maintained in that range for nearly a year before it fell apart. I've gained back about 85 now.
I have been beating myself over it and hoping that its not too late to turn the ship around. I still have the tools... Thank you for letting me know its not out of my reach.
I'm trying to get back to basics this week with protein and water... and also am 1 day alcohol free (which doesn't sound like much yet, but I'm motivated to keep going)

I know this is an old post, but I wanted to thank you for sharing. I really REALLY needed to hear this right now in my journey. I was sleeved almost exactly 3 years ago. Everything was awesome for the first 18 months. I felt amazing, I got within 9 lbs of my goal weight by 12 months out. I was training for a 10K... then a lot of major life changes, as well. I'm a single mom. Have been for 11 years, so that part wasn't new, but I had my heart broken again in early 2017 (devastated, really), 2 changes of job/career in less than 10 months following that, problems with my teenagers, and a pretty major depression brought on by another heartbreak that I fought for the better part of 6 months recently. I turned to alcohol to numb myself since I couldn't turn to food and, as you can imagine, that did not go well for me. Tons of empty liquid calories and no motivation to exercise or eat right... when I did eat, it was small portions but I was losing the battle to get enough Protein and Water.
I don't list this as excuses, because I know I need to own my poor choices. And I want to start over.
I initially lost over 115 lbs and maintained in that range for nearly a year before it fell apart. I've gained back about 85 now.
I have been beating myself over it and hoping that its not too late to turn the ship around. I still have the tools... Thank you for letting me know its not out of my reach.
I'm trying to get back to basics this week with protein and water... and also am 1 day alcohol free (which doesn't sound like much yet, but I'm motivated to keep going)

I know this is an old post, but I wanted to thank you for sharing. I really REALLY needed to hear this right now in my journey. I was sleeved almost exactly 3 years ago. Everything was awesome for the first 18 months. I felt amazing, I got within 9 lbs of my goal weight by 12 months out. I was training for a 10K... then a lot of major life changes, as well. I'm a single mom. Have been for 11 years, so that part wasn't new, but I had my heart broken again in early 2017 (devastated, really), 2 changes of job/career in less than 10 months following that, problems with my teenagers, and a pretty major depression brought on by another heartbreak that I fought for the better part of 6 months recently. I turned to alcohol to numb myself since I couldn't turn to food and, as you can imagine, that did not go well for me. Tons of empty liquid calories and no motivation to exercise or eat right... when I did eat, it was small portions but I was losing the battle to get enough Protein and Water.
I don't list this as excuses, because I know I need to own my poor choices. And I want to start over.
I initially lost over 115 lbs and maintained in that range for nearly a year before it fell apart. I've gained back about 85 now.
I have been beating myself over it and hoping that its not too late to turn the ship around. I still have the tools... Thank you for letting me know its not out of my reach.
I'm trying to get back to basics this week with protein and water... and also am 1 day alcohol free (which doesn't sound like much yet, but I'm motivated to keep going)

I know this is an old post, but I wanted to thank you for sharing. I really REALLY needed to hear this right now in my journey. I was sleeved almost exactly 3 years ago. Everything was awesome for the first 18 months. I felt amazing, I got within 9 lbs of my goal weight by 12 months out. I was training for a 10K... then a lot of major life changes, as well. I'm a single mom. Have been for 11 years, so that part wasn't new, but I had my heart broken again in early 2017 (devastated, really), 2 changes of job/career in less than 10 months following that, problems with my teenagers, and a pretty major depression brought on by another heartbreak that I fought for the better part of 6 months recently. I turned to alcohol to numb myself since I couldn't turn to food and, as you can imagine, that did not go well for me. Tons of empty liquid calories and no motivation to exercise or eat right... when I did eat, it was small portions but I was losing the battle to get enough Protein and Water.
I don't list this as excuses, because I know I need to own my poor choices. And I want to start over.
I initially lost over 115 lbs and maintained in that range for nearly a year before it fell apart. I've gained back about 85 now.
I have been beating myself over it and hoping that its not too late to turn the ship around. I still have the tools... Thank you for letting me know its not out of my reach.
I'm trying to get back to basics this week with protein and water... and also am 1 day alcohol free (which doesn't sound like much yet, but I'm motivated to keep going)

I know this is an old post, but I wanted to thank you for sharing. I really REALLY needed to hear this right now in my journey. I was sleeved almost exactly 3 years ago. Everything was awesome for the first 18 months. I felt amazing, I got within 9 lbs of my goal weight by 12 months out. I was training for a 10K... then a lot of major life changes, as well. I'm a single mom. Have been for 11 years, so that part wasn't new, but I had my heart broken again in early 2017 (devastated, really), 2 changes of job/career in less than 10 months following that, problems with my teenagers, and a pretty major depression brought on by another heartbreak that I fought for the better part of 6 months recently. I turned to alcohol to numb myself since I couldn't turn to food and, as you can imagine, that did not go well for me. Tons of empty liquid calories and no motivation to exercise or eat right... when I did eat, it was small portions but I was losing the battle to get enough Protein and Water.
I don't list this as excuses, because I know I need to own my poor choices. And I want to start over.
I initially lost over 115 lbs and maintained in that range for nearly a year before it fell apart. I've gained back about 85 now.
I have been beating myself over it and hoping that its not too late to turn the ship around. I still have the tools... Thank you for letting me know its not out of my reach.
I'm trying to get back to basics this week with protein and water... and also am 1 day alcohol free (which doesn't sound like much yet, but I'm motivated to keep going)

The forums used to have pretty regular challenges and everyone participating was WLS peeps which made it nice. That's why I came here, first. I guess the folks that were running them just got too busy or weren't able to continue and nobody else seems to have picked it up. I'd love to think I have time to organize an endeavor like that myself, but alas I do not (single mom, FT job,zero time) But if someone wanted to start one, that would be awesome.

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I know this is an old post, but I wanted to thank you for sharing. I really REALLY needed to hear this right now in my journey. I was sleeved almost exactly 3 years ago. Everything was awesome for the first 18 months. I felt amazing, I got within 9 lbs of my goal weight by 12 months out. I was training for a 10K... then a lot of major life changes, as well. I'm a single mom. Have been for 11 years, so that part wasn't new, but I had my heart broken again in early 2017 (devastated, really), 2 changes of job/career in less than 10 months following that, problems with my teenagers, and a pretty major depression brought on by another heartbreak that I fought for the better part of 6 months recently. I turned to alcohol to numb myself since I couldn't turn to food and, as you can imagine, that did not go well for me. Tons of empty liquid calories and no motivation to exercise or eat right... when I did eat, it was small portions but I was losing the battle to get enough Protein and Water.
I don't list this as excuses, because I know I need to own my poor choices. And I want to start over.
I initially lost over 115 lbs and maintained in that range for nearly a year before it fell apart. I've gained back about 85 now.
I have been beating myself over it and hoping that its not too late to turn the ship around. I still have the tools... Thank you for letting me know its not out of my reach.
I'm trying to get back to basics this week with protein and water... and also am 1 day alcohol free (which doesn't sound like much yet, but I'm motivated to keep going)

Just curious if there are any active Weight Loss Challenges going on in the forums right now (ex: "Fall Challenge" etc)
I've tried searching for about a half hour now and not having a lot of success.
I was sleeved 10/5/15 and last week was my 3rd "surgiversary" I've been struggling over the past 18 months (depression, alcohol, etc) and gained a BUNCH. I'm out of that fog now and recovering, and now I'm trying desperately to get back on track with my weight, too. I could really really use the motivation and accountability those challenges offer, so I'm hoping someone can link me to something.
Thanks!
Chrys
Pre-surgery weight = 254
Low weight (December 2016) = 138
Current weight = 223 (told you it was baaaaaad )
Please wish me luck. Going back to basics and scared I may have ruined everything.

I know this is an old post, but I wanted to thank you for sharing. I really REALLY needed to hear this right now in my journey. I was sleeved almost exactly 3 years ago. Everything was awesome for the first 18 months. I felt amazing, I got within 9 lbs of my goal weight by 12 months out. I was training for a 10K... then a lot of major life changes, as well. I'm a single mom. Have been for 11 years, so that part wasn't new, but I had my heart broken again in early 2017 (devastated, really), 2 changes of job/career in less than 10 months following that, problems with my teenagers, and a pretty major depression brought on by another heartbreak that I fought for the better part of 6 months recently. I turned to alcohol to numb myself since I couldn't turn to food and, as you can imagine, that did not go well for me. Tons of empty liquid calories and no motivation to exercise or eat right... when I did eat, it was small portions but I was losing the battle to get enough Protein and Water.
I don't list this as excuses, because I know I need to own my poor choices. And I want to start over.
I initially lost over 115 lbs and maintained in that range for nearly a year before it fell apart. I've gained back about 85 now.
I have been beating myself over it and hoping that its not too late to turn the ship around. I still have the tools... Thank you for letting me know its not out of my reach.
I'm trying to get back to basics this week with protein and water... and also am 1 day alcohol free (which doesn't sound like much yet, but I'm motivated to keep going)

I'm 4 years out also. In complete transparency, I fell off the wagon bad about 16 months out. I went through major life changes (moved, changed job, lost a parent, went back to grad school, graduated and went back AGAIN for a PhD, hubs changed jobs, etc.). Yes, major changes.
When I fell off, it was very gradual and I hardly noticed it until I had regained almost 40 lbs and got some seriously sobering health news last fall. It kicked my butt into gear and I went strict Keto and have lost all of my regain and continue to lose even more.
While I never even reached goal the first time around (I think that I had so much change during my honeymoon phase that I lost focus) I know that at this point I WILL get there and I plan to have my plastics done next year after I graduate for the FINAL time!!!
For me, I don't count macros too closely, I just focus on Protein, Water intake, moving every day, good sleep hygiene, supplements and I TRY to manage my stress so cortisol doesn't go sky high (I get serious belly gain when my cortisol goes up, and I have it clinically monitored every few months).
Yes I fell away, yes I regained, but YES I have figured it out and am making it happen. Even if I'm 4 years post op, I'm proof that it's never too late for anyone!!!

The forums used to have pretty regular challenges and everyone participating was WLS peeps which made it nice. That's why I came here, first. I guess the folks that were running them just got too busy or weren't able to continue and nobody else seems to have picked it up. I'd love to think I have time to organize an endeavor like that myself, but alas I do not (single mom, FT job,zero time) But if someone wanted to start one, that would be awesome.

WLS is a tool. It's 100% up to you to work with it. If you don't have any motivation, you need to look somewhere else, it's not the WLS causing that. If your eating is out of control... reign that crap in, only you can do that. You've got 2 options. Do what you need to... or don't. It's your call. No one here is going to do it for you. Your WLS won't do it for you. You have to look yourself in the mirror and decide that you are no longer going to allow yourself to keep ignoring what needs to be done.

Start over. Restart your Pre-op diet and follow it to the letter, pretend in you didn't have the surgery and are going to get it... start your pre-op, then fast the day of "surgery", then start working through your post-op diet. This will get you back into the swing of things and will "reset" your pouch/sleeve a bit.

You have to be the one to make this work. So, make the decision to do it.

I second the MyFitnessPal app for those challenges.

Nice, it would be awesome if there were some (maybe here?) specifically for WLS peeps...

Just curious if there are any active Weight Loss Challenges going on in the forums right now (ex: "Fall Challenge" etc)
I've tried searching for about a half hour now and not having a lot of success.
I was sleeved 10/5/15 and last week was my 3rd "surgiversary" I've been struggling over the past 18 months (depression, alcohol, etc) and gained a BUNCH. I'm out of that fog now and recovering, and now I'm trying desperately to get back on track with my weight, too. I could really really use the motivation and accountability those challenges offer, so I'm hoping someone can link me to something.
Thanks!
Chrys
Pre-surgery weight = 254
Low weight (December 2016) = 138
Current weight = 223 (told you it was baaaaaad )
Please wish me luck. Going back to basics and scared I may have ruined everything.

Dayum skippy! I'm so sorry you're in this position. The reality is "Mea culpa". The end. Ask for help. This isn't their first rodeo. And frankly, you can't blow enough smoke up their ass to defend your position. So take one (or two) for the team! Admit defeat!!!!!!!! And ask for fuckin' help!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry to hear this, sounds like you've been to hell and back.
Could you see a different therapist? You might find someone who you 'gel' with better and get better results.
Good luck.

Kinda sounds like a broken heart and the depression that goes with it.
Maybe you should talk to the therapist about the relationship ending rather than about your diet?
Seems clear to me you've suffered a huge emotional blow that has you too sad to care. Sad like that can be a pretty big problem.
You know how to diet and lose weight. That's not the issue. You've got the skills, you've got the grit. The issue is that you got hurt....you're not over it..... and food is still your comfort habit
I think it would benefit you to do a little talking about the relationship and find a way to get some closure and resolution.
Also, work on strategies to comfort yourself when things go wrong that don't include food. I have a lot of luck with baths, old movies, good books, phoning my BFF, sex and my pets. (like hugging and walking my pets...not sex with pets...yeesh!)
Just remember....there is no setback or heartbreak on Earth that is worth destroying your health over. We all hit self destructive patches....but it's important to get back up. And if we can't....it's important to ask other people to help us to get back up. Everyone needs a little help now and again.
Try the therapist again....talk about the relationship that went south. I really think it might help.

I went through something similar. To be honest, therapy and all that was somewhat helpful but i wasn't super consistent. Because at the end of the day i got to that point because of what i was putting into my body and me starting to get lazy.

So i had to start all over from scratch. I threw out every piece of junk food, no carbs, started meal prepping again, forced myself to hit the gym either right before work or immediately after instead of going back home again. I had to find other non food related hobbies and take a mental break from some friends because they love to go out and over indulge. It wasn't fun, but i had to do it and now that i am back on track i feel so much better. So maybe something dramatic like that might help you too. I started ordering groceries online.

At one point i even had to ask my surgeon for an appetite suppressant. I don't need it anymore. But it helped.


You can do this, don't give someone else that power over you. You can take control back. Write down everything you eat.

Long, long time ago I sought out the help of counseling for some issues I was dealing with. Finding the right one can be really tough. One was meh. One's solution to everything seemed to be "read this book." One was some feel good nonsense crap that was a complete waste of time. Finally found one that was a no b.s. type of person and (mentally) kicked my ass to get to the right place. She was freaking awesome. So if you feel that counseling is still something that would help don't give up hope.
Getting back onto the forums can help motivate you as well. I'm coming up on my one year mark and have decided to get active again to give myself some more accountability. I've pretty much been stuck at the same weight for the past 2 months and haven't lost anymore (I have lost over 100lbs though). While I'm not worried about regain the fear is there that eventually it will. Random internet people can sometimes be pretty good counseling too.

We're two peas in a pod. Starting fresh today. Yesterday was a transition day. Healthy meals, but wine and dessert. Today, I am tracking my food and Water via MyFitnessPal (DLovelyL) and will also be rejoining my gym.

I've returned to BP due to regain as well. I need to get refocused. I'm a little over 2 years our and 2017 kicked my butt. It's entirely my own fault. I was heartbroken by a betrayal and also started a new job and went back to old bad habits of using food for comfort. Stopped running. Drank a lot of alcohol. Sigh

I gained back 50 of the 115 that I lost. I'm starting new with Protein goals and 64oz Water daily. Getting my arse moving again. Etc. But it was a learning experience, a scary one, to see how easily I could screw up my own health even with the surgery.

Over two years out and everything I eat still hurts: meat, cheese, veggies. Potatoes, Pasta, and bread are the most painful for me. It's probably a blessing,even if it's a total bummer sometimes.

My regain was a lot of liquid calories and learning to graze throughout the day. Lack of exercise. Bad food choices (when it ALL hurts, it isn't very motivating to avoid certain foods) A combination of a lot of things. But my restriction is still there. I eat like a toddler. Lol

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171. I need to get my poop together.

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