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Thank you everyone! It is really nice having a place to hash this out
I was able to get in to my Bariatric surgeon today, and discussed options. He said we can do the Sleeve, but for obvious reasons ( like you all stated) there can be more complications. I feel horrible flip flopping around on this!! Especially at this last moment( Had to reschedule surgery 2xs now)! I am going to sit down with my support people and work it out this weekend.
I am confident, that whatever happens, things can work out as long as I do what I am supposed to do ( eating right, exercising, etc...)
Thanks again! <3

Thank you everyone! It is really nice having a place to hash this out
I was able to get in to my Bariatric surgeon today, and discussed options. He said we can do the Sleeve, but for obvious reasons ( like you all stated) there can be more complications. I feel horrible flip flopping around on this!! Especially at this last moment( Had to reschedule surgery 2xs now)! I am going to sit down with my support people and work it out this weekend.
I am confident, that whatever happens, things can work out as long as I do what I am supposed to do ( eating right, exercising, etc...)
Thanks again! <3

Clearly I've been having the wrong conversations with my doctors over the years.......

Hello everyone,

I am new to this site, and hoping for support. I have not had surgery yet- scheduled for 9/24/15, but I need to reach out to others who have gone through this. My surgeon's office has a support group but they are not meeting again until 9/13, and I would like some advice before then.

Last week, after my EGD, my surgeon told me I could not have the Sleeve like planned because of acid reflux, so I would have to have the RouenY. This change strikes fear in me! I have been going through this process for close to a year, and now I am second guessing myself! I wanted the Sleeve because I felt like it was less invasive ( and truth be told, that I would be able to process foods more 'normally'). The Rouen Y scares me.

Now I'm not sure if I should go ahead or cancel. I don't want to have surgery just to have it, especially if I don't feel right about it. At the same time, do I want to pass up this opportunity? I am ready for an extreme change in my life. People at work ( who I told because I need to have time off), and family, have been saying ' you dont need to do that (surgery), try this or that.' "I've lost weight by..." They make it sound easy. I am psyching myself out.

Any thoughts? Did anyone experience anxiety before surgery and second guess themselves?

I am 4 weeks away from my RNY surgery (on Sept. 11). About six months ago, I was still on the fence whether I wanted to get sleeve or RNY. To be perfectly honest, a part of me felt that if I got the sleeve, I would not have to worry about dumping syndrome, which seemed very scary. What if it happened when I was at a restaurant? I was thinking that yeah, with the sleeve every once in a while I would be able to eat "normally" and have a whole piece of cake or something similar, without worrying about throwing up. I was also freaked out about all of the malabsorption issues with RNY, having to be on Vitamins for life, having such a small stomach, etc. I was worried about being "normal".
For myself, I finally came to realize that the RNY was the way to go. I came to realize that the thoughts I was having were attempts to excuse continuing my poor eating behaviors. When I finally realized that, and I was able to look objectively, I concluded that the RNY was the best for me for a number of reasons.
1. It is the "gold standard". If I am going to do this, I don't want to fool around with anything except the approach with proven long-term results.
2. I am trying to see dumping syndrome as a positive: it will keep me from eating things I shouldn't. Just another POSITIVE tool for me.
3. RNY provides the most dramatic weight loss of any of the surgical techniques.
I am no longer worried about eating "normal". Normal for me will be having a BMI under 30. Normal is not eating cakes and candies...I can give that up.
This is a highly personal decision. Be sure you have a nice long talk with yourself about your motivations, and try to objectively look at which surgery (if any) will provide you with the best benefits for you. But be sure you are real with yourself, and not fooling yourself about your motivations.

Your weight loss will be slightly greater with the RNY, so from a success standpoint, that is an even better call. However, it is pretty clearly a greater sacrifice with greater potential complications, and if the basis of going with RNY is the unavailability of the sleeve, and not because RNY is what you want, I might actually postpone. It is a big decision between the two. I have awful GERD myself that has only gotten worse after sleeve, but nobody tried to block my surgery on that account. If you can, I would seek to have it treated so that it gets down to the level the surgeon will be happy with. If, in the mean time, you become comfortable with the RNY, do not second-guess it at all.
P.S., are you getting your surgery at Toledo Hospital? I almost had my surgery with Dr. Pat White there, and my family knows both him and Dr. Parodi. Great place, good luck.

Hello everyone,

I am new to this site, and hoping for support. I have not had surgery yet- scheduled for 9/24/15, but I need to reach out to others who have gone through this. My surgeon's office has a support group but they are not meeting again until 9/13, and I would like some advice before then.

Last week, after my EGD, my surgeon told me I could not have the Sleeve like planned because of acid reflux, so I would have to have the RouenY. This change strikes fear in me! I have been going through this process for close to a year, and now I am second guessing myself! I wanted the Sleeve because I felt like it was less invasive ( and truth be told, that I would be able to process foods more 'normally'). The Rouen Y scares me.

Now I'm not sure if I should go ahead or cancel. I don't want to have surgery just to have it, especially if I don't feel right about it. At the same time, do I want to pass up this opportunity? I am ready for an extreme change in my life. People at work ( who I told because I need to have time off), and family, have been saying ' you dont need to do that (surgery), try this or that.' "I've lost weight by..." They make it sound easy. I am psyching myself out.

Any thoughts? Did anyone experience anxiety before surgery and second guess themselves?