Mrs.Grace

I'm eating between 2,000 and 2,400 calories a day with absolutely zero exercise ( by zero I mean I literally don't get out of bed) and still am not gaining. I'm eating Hershey's chocolate pie, chips, fries chicken, extra Protein Shakes with 40 grams of carbs daily, and still nothing. I never cut out carbs even from the beginning. My blood pressure never gets above the 80's/50's anymore and often bottoms out much much lower. Doctors say I need to gain 20 lbs and tell me to eat French fries with extra salt and other junk. I am eating. I'm not gaining. They are super unhelpful. I figure I'll either stabilize eventually or I won't. It is what it is. Sure never thought I'd be in this position.

That's quite a dick comment. "Rare in Alabama" I've been on both coasts. There's all body types everywhere. And yeah, I was still pretty damn skinny in New York during Thanksgiving.

That's quite a dick comment. "Rare in Alabama" I've been on both coasts. There's all body types everywhere. And yeah, I was still pretty damn skinny in New York during Thanksgiving.

Sweet Jesus, I stepped on the scale this morning, and damned near fainted when it said 101.4. Weighed three times to make sure it was accurate and had my daughter check hers as well to make even more sure. I can't for the life of me figure out what the hell is going on. I'm eating!
Yesterday: Monster Musscle energy Protein shake for Breakfast, whopper Jr (the whole thing) for lunch, 2 1/2 Arby's cheesesticks for snack, Hershey's chocolate pie for snack, Checker's checker burger with cheese (minus the bun) and small fries for dinner. Plus I drank some Coke throughout the day, and I hate soda. I only drank it for the extra calories.
That's a whole lot of high fat, high calorie food. I don't exercise. I don't leave my bed! How is this possible?! It can't be a stricture or anything like that since I'm eating and keeping it down. This is just crazy.

That's quite a dick comment. "Rare in Alabama" I've been on both coasts. There's all body types everywhere. And yeah, I was still pretty damn skinny in New York during Thanksgiving.

You have to remember that many of us bariatric weight loss patients lose our weight rapidly. Due to the high speed of our weight loss, our skin begins to sag and our faces look fallen. Now, everyone is different. There are so many factors that come into play with ones outcome (starting BMI, age, genetics, etc.), but you need to give your skin's elasticity time to catch up. My family would criticize me and mention that my face looked fallen. And, even now, when I look back at pictures of myself within the time frame of that first year post op--even past that first year--I can see what they are talking about. My face and neck looked sickly and tired. My turkey neck hung. I am now over 2 1/2 years out and I can honestly say that your skin will retract. It just takes time. So, even though your family's comments are hurtful--despite that they are coming from a good place--remember, they are seeing the after effects of rapid weight loss. Once you stabilize and your body begins to stabilize, you will start to look healthy again. I will say that I also began practicing facial expressions that a lady advised me on. There are a series of facial exercises that one can do to help "tone up" your face. Here is a website that has a few of them, but a quick search will reveal many more:
http://fitness.mercola.com/sites/fitness/archive/2010/05/18/the-best-exercises-for-your-facial-muscles-to-stay-looking-young.aspx
It is a long journey. As cliche as that word is, it is true. This is a process. A time consuming one at that. However, it is one that hopefully leads us to a better and longer lived quality of life.

Not a single bit. I was at 109 last time I talked to him in November and he said I won't keep losing and will even regain. He wasn't concerned. I have lost a little more, but maybe he's right. I don't know. He does have much more experience with this than I do. It seems that the vast majority of people have a regain after a couple of years, so hopefully I'll gain a little eventually. The loss has definitely slowed down as I've been hanging out around the 105 - 106 mark for about a month. It's just frustrating because I know I look bad, but the comments from family and friends are hurtful even though they mean well and are simply worried.

That's quite a dick comment. "Rare in Alabama" I've been on both coasts. There's all body types everywhere. And yeah, I was still pretty damn skinny in New York during Thanksgiving.

That's quite a dick comment. "Rare in Alabama" I've been on both coasts. There's all body types everywhere. And yeah, I was still pretty damn skinny in New York during Thanksgiving.

That's quite a dick comment. "Rare in Alabama" I've been on both coasts. There's all body types everywhere. And yeah, I was still pretty damn skinny in New York during Thanksgiving.

I'm sure 105 is pretty rare in Alabama, but if you were on either coast no one would care.
You are going to bounce up a little at some point.
i would take other people suggestions here and add maybe a Protein shake and some healthy fats like nuts or avocado.

The official BMI for underweight is under 18.4 and your BMI is 18.2 so you are technically underweight but by only a smidgeon. You can easily correct that by adding stuff like nuts to your diet.