magicalwoman

Your post really gets my blood pressure up.
Your husband is a jackass.
You have to get healthier. You really have to get healthier. If WLS is how you can best do that, then have WLS.
BTW, I am 69 years old, and I look soooo much more attractive since I lost 92 pounds. Truly, I look 15 years younger than I did a year ago.
I bet you will, too.
Ignore him.

You are wanting this surgery to improve your health, and that's a wonderful reason. You say you have some serious issues already due to the car accident, and losing weight will definitely minimize those issues, and long term, your overall health and how you feel about yourself will improve as well.
If your husband loves you, then he should be supportive of this. Even if he loves you as a big woman, he has to know that your physical appearance/attractiveness is not more important than your health.
And if you do experience any "deflation" in the boob area or sagging skin, those things can be fixed once you've stabilized your weight loss.
Your health should be your - and his - first priority. Your appearance is a distant second, especially since you don't know for sure that you'll even experience a significant issue with your boobs or really bad skin sagging. Appearance is temporary anyway!
You should sit down and have a serious talk with him about the difference in him loving you for you, and loving you for what you look like, and that you feel like he isn't being very supportive of your efforts to feel better and be healthy. And that it seems like all he cares about is big boobs and fat rolls, and doesn't care if you are in pain, sick, or die at an early age. It is something that you both need to work through (and maybe look into marriage counseling for some help).
My husband finds curvy/fat girls attractive as well. He was worried for a bit at the beginning, but he wanted me to be happy and healthy. He has been supportive, because he realized that I was getting sick and hurting from all the excess weight. He has been exercising and eating similar to my routine, and he's lost weight with me so it's been really great.
I don't want to be tiny, so my goal weight is still going to have me a bit of a chubby gal, but I'll be healthy and in shape. I'm just over halfway on my weight loss and no signs of my boobs deflating at all (cup size exactly the same, but my band size has gone down from a 44 to a 38 so far) and minimal skin issues. It may take a year after I stabilize to see how my skin looks, but in the event that I have any significant sagging, I'll take care of it then.

Hi everyone, I have been on my journey for over a year, digging for information, with my PCP, the insurance and me in general. I am so ready to have surgery, mine is now scheduled for September. My husband really likes big women, he always tells me how attractive I am, he buys me beautiful clothes, lotions, etc. But I try to tell him since gaining over 100 pounds after an auto accident, I don't feel attractive. I don't like what I see in the mirror, I hate walking from the car to the house and becoming a ball of sweat. I feel my hygiene has suffered because face it with little dinosaur arms you can't always reach the important places. I dislike paisley clothes. Last evening as he was reading in the forums he said OMG, Deflated boobs, I'm done, that's it I'm going to bed. I do not know where he was reading but I guess someone mentioned it. My daughter (whom is looking at surgery too) called last night and said well you know Mom, I've had three or four friends who have had this done and one thing I've noticed is they look like they have aged 10 years, they look old. My husband said yeah that is true. Then when I explain what I look at in the mirror, he said How will you feel when you look in the mirror and see all that skin hanging. So then I second guess my decision to have surgery. But it is fleeting. He said But I support you in this 100%.
My journey has been well over a year. Monthly doctor visits, I swim every morning, I really try to eat slower and watch my consumption. I want this so bad, I want to be healthy. I quite smoking a year and a half ago too. From my accident (I was rear-ended at 60mph) I have a bad back, I have 3 cervical disc that are bulged, I have two bad knees and the osteoarthritis is eating my joints away.
I want this, I NEED this, but most of all I am going to accomplish this. I wish I could feel different about my husband's reactions.

Hi everyone. I have been at my journey for over a year a half now. My insurance is Uniform Medical through Regence. My doctors say it is one of the best for coverage. I guess I trust them. My insurance company required 6 months of supervised weight loss management with my PCP. Everyone month I went to my PCP and we reviewed what I had done, what I planned for the next month and then he sent in the info to the insurance. I finally obtained my approval, had my psych eval, met with the dietary person, the exercise person etc. Set to go. My surgery is scheduled for Sept. 9 and I have to say I am excited, and nervous. My family is supportive although I continue to hear about the extra skin and how these types of surgeries make you look old. Yeah, Yeah almost there, but then......Yuck I don't want to look old with flabby skin. Trying to find balance.

I live in Seattle and my surgery is in Edmonds at Puget Sound Bariatrics. I was starting to get jealous of all of the Houston people in the group… nice to have a neighbor!

Hi Sjfink! I live in Marysville and my surgery will be in Everett. I have not started my pre-surgical diet yet. We have a family camping trip next week and while I am very careful about what I eat. My shakes and Soups will begin when I come home.

Welcome magicalwoman! Fellow Washington state employee here… Regence UMP has been great for me. My surgery is scheduled for 9/8. Where in WA are you/where are you having your surgery?

Hi everyone. I have been at my journey for over a year a half now. My insurance is Uniform Medical through Regence. My doctors say it is one of the best for coverage. I guess I trust them. My insurance company required 6 months of supervised weight loss management with my PCP. Everyone month I went to my PCP and we reviewed what I had done, what I planned for the next month and then he sent in the info to the insurance. I finally obtained my approval, had my psych eval, met with the dietary person, the exercise person etc. Set to go. My surgery is scheduled for Sept. 9 and I have to say I am excited, and nervous. My family is supportive although I continue to hear about the extra skin and how these types of surgeries make you look old. Yeah, Yeah almost there, but then......Yuck I don't want to look old with flabby skin. Trying to find balance.

Hi everyone. I have been at my journey for over a year a half now. My insurance is Uniform Medical through Regence. My doctors say it is one of the best for coverage. I guess I trust them. My insurance company required 6 months of supervised weight loss management with my PCP. Everyone month I went to my PCP and we reviewed what I had done, what I planned for the next month and then he sent in the info to the insurance. I finally obtained my approval, had my psych eval, met with the dietary person, the exercise person etc. Set to go. My surgery is scheduled for Sept. 9 and I have to say I am excited, and nervous. My family is supportive although I continue to hear about the extra skin and how these types of surgeries make you look old. Yeah, Yeah almost there, but then......Yuck I don't want to look old with flabby skin. Trying to find balance.

Hi everyone. I have been at my journey for over a year a half now. My insurance is Uniform Medical through Regence. My doctors say it is one of the best for coverage. I guess I trust them. My insurance company required 6 months of supervised weight loss management with my PCP. Everyone month I went to my PCP and we reviewed what I had done, what I planned for the next month and then he sent in the info to the insurance. I finally obtained my approval, had my psych eval, met with the dietary person, the exercise person etc. Set to go. My surgery is scheduled for Sept. 9 and I have to say I am excited, and nervous. My family is supportive although I continue to hear about the extra skin and how these types of surgeries make you look old. Yeah, Yeah almost there, but then......Yuck I don't want to look old with flabby skin. Trying to find balance.