Swampdoggie

400 calories, wow. Seems awful tiny. But good for you on your loss!

Jeez I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine how miserable and worried you must feel. What is your Dr saying about all this?

I get it. Hold onto that power!

Good for you. Jeez, its tough enough to be overweight and working on a change without having family be unsupportive. I congratulate you on taking the steps to get healthy in spite of them. Perhaps when they see its no picnic, and how great your health becomes after, they'll do a 180. In the meantime, get support here from informed, knowledgeable people who get it.

@@skyestarr88 Agree with ComeFly. I have had the ill luck to need many surgeries and this one was really an easy one in comparison. This surgery has been a godsend and I'm so grateful for it. I hope you will be too. Do relax. It will all be good.

I agree with Jamie. I was banded in 2008 and my parents were supportive but didnt think it was a good idea actually. My husband was supportive. I had the surgery and it didn't "take" for me. I thought long and hard about the sleeve, about a year I guess. When I'd decided I didn't want to tell my mom because its a more drastic step than the band, but to my pleased surprise, she thought it was a good idea. So did my brother who is a buff military guy, and that was suprising too. Maybe its because I'm older but my peeps have been focused on the better health weight loss brings and want for me whatever it takes to get healthy. In the end, it IS all about better health - the good looks are ancillary - and the statistics say the vast majority people who are overweight and lose WILL regain. So yeah, maybe when you're ready to talk to your older sister, you could focus on the health and regain issues. However, at the end of the day, YOU are all that matters, so you gotta make the decision that's right for you.

I m 7 weeks out and am not depressed (but I do take effexor) However, I tear up at the drop of a hat. I had to get off a country radio station because the sad songs were making me cry. Some commercials do too. What is up with that?!

What does the box on the profile page , gold for me and currently states 100 excellent, mean? I have 122 posts and 100 excellent. What on earth does that mean?

@@imsoglad56 Thanks! Helpful indeed

I was reading this thread the other day and realized either I'm lucky that no one has said anything to me about being overweight or about surgery (OK, well, except one Egyptian guy at a cardiology conference who said Americans befuddle him and asked how I could have so many degrees and still be fat. That was weird) or that I've mostly been blissfully oblivious. So I asked my 6 ft 180 lb gorgeous inside and out husband of 25 years if he felt surgery was the easy way out. He said, what are you TALKING about!? He truly had no idea that people think this way.

@@theotherfatgirl I want to suggest something and hope it will be taken as a helpful suggestion. Though its none of my business, and with full respect for you and your personal motivations, I wonder if you might want to change your screen nam. I suggest just because I believe that a brain locks on to thoughts, and therefore, with "fat" in your name, might create an unconscious hold. I know - a little new agey - and please take it for whatever its worth to you. (And I fully recognize that my own screen name is dorky but it relates to camping and I've used it since forever.) I love InItToWinIt and LosingIt and NewMe, SlimMe, HealthyMe, etc. Just a little thought and I hope you will not be offended.

I agree that people do not seem to get the kind of intruction they need, at least in this season - the only one I've watched. Also, I think the dr is a little lenient in doing surgery on people that clearly have not been in pre op compliance. Though probably he's denied some and we just haven't seen it. Its hard to be a human.

I told my family,both sides, and my 3 colleagues- we're a little group, like family (closer than some of my dorky family, actually and together 23 years!) I told a lot of people about my band thinking it would add accountability. Sincce the band was a flop ive been more cautious this time with the sleeve. Those who do know are completely supportive. I've never heard a single negative comment - maybe I'm blissfully oblivious- and assume!ing I'm successful with the sleeve I won't have a problem telling other people. Down the line.

Lastly (I swear) I can't see what I'm typing when I start a thread but can when responding. Thus the spelling issue in the title, but I'd still like to know why this is, whether anyone else has the same problem.

And while I'm at it, are we limited on the number of friends or is it my tablet? And why can I see who has visited the profile of everyone but me? Inquiring minds want to know.

I was banded at 43 and sleeved at 50. For me the band wasn't a good tool but also being older and wiser and so much less inclined to game it, I was more ready this time. I keep thinking of Bull Durham when Kevin Costner taught Tim Robbins " the rules ". I feel like I'm on the mound nodding my head that I understand.

Lord, I'm 50 and alcohol may be the hardest change of all for me. I love a mug of beer and miss my glass of wine to unwind at night. I know when I'm further down the road i'll be adding wine back in and probably LI iced tea too. I agree w @@ProjectMe that personal conviction seems more of a separator than age, just from what I've noticed, but I'm not really on any of the age forums. I so respect the 20 somethings making this change and commitment early on. I wish I'd not wasted so much time. @@Jkapp923 continue to do your thing proudly. Btw my darling 28 yo stepdaughter is living with us and she cracks me up every single day with her hilarious antics. I LOVE her spirit and her energy. I hope she enjoys her life to the hilt and keeps paving her own strong path. I wish I'd been as strong and people smart as her when I was her age.

Jeez I feel hungry so much of the time. Supposed to be at about 700 cals and I could eat 1000. Supposed to get 75 g protein and 30-50 g carbs. I don't worry about fat so long as it's healthy- avocado, nuts, yogurt with fat, butter, cheese etc (which I'm sure is why I feel like I could eat 1000 cals). I've been trying to hit the protein but the carbs feels wrong (high) to me at this point. Had my 2 mo checkup today and have lost 18 lbs since surgery; the rest was from the pre op. Dr was happy but I'm nervous about not making the best use of the six months honeymoon. This thread has been so helpful in reminding me that there has been loss, I do feel better, and it's not a race, it's a lifestyle for the long run. I appreciate all you guys' experiences; I always feel comforted and it does underscore how complex obesity is, as are our bodies.

It does get better. Hopefully tomorrow. It was for me. Hang tough.

I know. It's the pits. But you gotta follow your drs orders. I was allowed soft foods after 3 weeks and that last week was tough. But do it anyway. It's not only a question of following whatever instructs you were given, it also exercises your willpower muscle and that will be important down the road. Good luck and be strong :>

How ignorant. How shortsighted and foolish. What a shame, but you're clearly strong and don't need to be sidetracked by someone who's so uninformed. Hopefully your experience will effect a change in your surgeons practice so that someone without your knowledge and confidence won't be undermined by her. @@MoMo12onTheGo, you go, girl and stay on track with what you know to be necessary.

In response to earlier post, I can eat any doggone thing, no problem and sometimes I want to. I feel very little restriction. Trying to really watch amounts and drink enough. Also former bander. Not really able to exercise yet (unrelated illness) but getting there. As for me, I just can't weigh so infrequently. I get bad habits without the accountability. Trying not to worry about the stalls. I mean it's one or the other, right? If you weigh every day you encounter the stalls. If you weigh less frequently you gotta be vigilent. So you pick your poison.

I like morningstar veggie patties in a pinch.

Being a band to sleever with no success on the band, I was worried too that I'd be the exception, the one for whom the sleeve didn't work, or that I wouldn't be able to do what it takes. But it IS different and it does work (and I work at it too :> ). For me its slow - I don't feel much of a restriction so I have to be very mindful - but always downward. I am really delighted with the sleeve and extremely glad I was able to have the surgery.

Hmm tough call with a BMI that low. There is a thread in here somewhere about this issue and a lot of good pros and cons debated. As for me, with a lot further to go, the sleeve has been great, no complications. And I COULD (but I don't) eat anything; in other words, I have had almost no food issues. I know that's not true of everyone but the worst I get is a wookie bellow and on rare occasions a very small amount of nausea - which could also be chalked up to the crazy antibiotics I am taking for an unrelated illness (lyme). The other thing for me is that I've lost this weight many times but always gained it back. My expectation is that this will be a for-life change.