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... and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! I rode on one of those just this last summer, now that I can FIT in a swing

My husband and I both had the RNY - me, 2 1/2 years ago and him 10 months ago. We love each other desparately, but we're feeling sexy and playful. Any other couples out there post gastric bypass who have experience in swinging? No judging, please 🤗

... and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! I rode on one of those just this last summer, now that I can FIT in a swing

Love, love, LOVE your response! The groups we've found are on the internet, Couples Next Door and Swing Lifestyle - warning, do not open these in front of minors or at work We've tried swing dancing, and it's fun, but no quite as exciting for us

I had my surgery 6/22/16 and my husband is scheduled for this Monday. We left some time for me to fulky recover, but we are going through this together, same surgery (DS) and surgeon. I originally had come to the decision, but he immediately said he should do it too. I just made it clear that he had to make his own decision for himself, not to make it easier for me or that it would be easier if we both did the same diet/surgery.
I think it would be extremely hard on us if only one of us did this, however. We are both looking forward to our new selves and planning trips for the next few years. Disney World, the Bahamas, and more.

I had my surgery July 2015 and my husband will have his December of this year. I definitely think it's a good idea to have the surgeries at the same time or at least close together. At first it wasn't hard to resist the temptations he occasionally subjected me to, but after about 6 months, When I started getting hunger pangs again, it became more of a challenge. As a matter of fact, just last night he brought home a pint of Ben & Jerry's. When he does that I tell him he's not being very supportive. I think you all are making a good decision to do it together

I see a huge difference - look, you hardly have any back fat left!! Hate back fat - lol! The big question is, how do you feel? I'm more excited that I have peace of mind, not mentally beating myself up anymore because I was eating unhealthy food - and too much of it - at every meal! It feels good to be living a healthier lifestyle, right?!

I see a huge difference - look, you hardly have any back fat left!! Hate back fat - lol! The big question is, how do you feel? I'm more excited that I have peace of mind, not mentally beating myself up anymore because I was eating unhealthy food - and too much of it - at every meal! It feels good to be living a healthier lifestyle, right?!

James, thank you so much for your story and your thoughts. I really enjoyed your article and am going to try your essential oils experiment. I too have been plagued with a terrible sweet tooth all my life. Whereas people get sick eating too much frosting, the more I could down, the happier I became...until I would come out of a food coma and be so upset with myself, I could hardly stand myself. I say this all in the past tense because 9 1/2 months ago, I had a gastric bypass, RNY. It was a miracle - I couldn't even stand the THOUGHT of eating something sweet! But I feel a change a comin'. That grazing they talk about is no joke, and though I stick to a high Protein diet and exercise and lift weights, I'm finding that sweets are starting to look good to me again, mostly baked goods. Right now dark chocolate and Desserts made with lemon are tasting good to me, but At the occasional b-day party I've tried cake, and even though it makes me feel sick to my stomach for a while, it still tastes good And I have not had a single dumping syndrome incident SO, I am deathly afraid of what is to come, but I am going to try my hardest to maintain this 125 pounds I've lost. It would be a lot easier if I thought I looked AMAZING after this weightloss, but now I have saggy skin, a small rack and a terrible varicose vein to deal with. I'm 44, but my naked body looks like I'm 70 oh, well, thank God I'm married - lol! Anyway, thank you so much. Your story meant a lot to me. Blessings

You're right - one day at a time! One other thing - Do you weigh yourself daily? If so, as hard as it will be, you might try switching to weekly weigh-ins so you're not as focused on the weight loss aspect of your new life. ☺️

This is the first time I've visited this forum. I was looking for a place to share my story with other RNY patients, and here is where I landed. So, first off, the basics.
I had bypass surgery 6 years ago at the U of W Hospital. The surgery was straight forward and I suffered no complications.My pre surgery weight was 355. During the first year post op I shrank to 217 (which contrary to all obesity tables was thin for my build). I was 60 at the time of the surgery. During the first year, I ate whatever I could tolerate, and drank no alcohol at all.
I was pretty gruntled over the results. I tossed by CPAP, as the decrease in fat around my neck cured me of the obstructive aspect of my apnea.
I was on a low dose of blood pressure meds, and I no longer needed to continue that med, as my BP dropped with my weight loss. I never could tolerate sugar after the surgery and found I really needed to limit any carbs a couple of hours prior to doing physical activity to prevent lightheadedness--although, I continued to eat a lot of high carbo foods.
After the first year and the highly satisfactory weight loss, I started reintroducing alcohol. I had, for over twenty years, been a daily drinker-- usually a couple of cocktails in the evening with friends.
I found that alcohol after surgery was different. I got drunk much faster, sobered up much quicker and never suffered a hangover, no matter how much I consumed. This was great fun, as I'm by nature a happy drunk, pleased to make people laugh and enjoy the company of friends and alcohol together. This behavior went on and I started to gain weight. I wasn't overly alarmed by either my alcohol use or my weight gain, as I had been told that studies indicate that RNY patients suffered a 10% weight regain after reaching their highest weight loss.
Well, pressures of life mounted, I daily traded in the Stock Market, and found with the advent of the Fed's QE programs and the advent of ALGO trading, my trading strategies suffered considerably. Over the course of the next 3 years I lost $10s of Thousands of dollars in the Market. So, I sat at the computer 14 hours a day watching the evaporation of my money as it went to money heaven. It was disturbing and depressing--to say the least. My alcohol consumption increased, as my activity level decreased. In fact, I started adding a daily bottle of good
red wine with dinner to enjoy and make me feel better.
This escalated over the months. On top of my own Market disasters, our Family suffered some terrible tragedies and losses in the course of an 8 month period in 2014. My Wife, of 46 years marriage, had suffered clinical depression bouts and hospitalization a number of years ago.
With the family loss, I constantly worried about her mental health, and as she increased her wine intake (she is on Wellbutrin), I viewed it as not a bad thing, as it helped her cope with the immediate pain and depression. My weight gain continued. I found myself back on my BP meds. and, back on the CPAP machine--which I hate with a passion.
Finally, towards the end of 2015 we had a discussion about our health and what to do about it.
On Jan. 1 we both stopped drinking and started dieting. At that point I had ballooned up to 278! I was embarrassed by my weight gain and felt I had failed myself and my Wife in my presurgery promise to get healthier in order to have longer and happier life together.
So, on Jan 1. I got the Fitbit App and went on a 1500 cal. a day eating plan. I cut out alcohol, all starchy foods, most meat and very little fried food prep. I take a couple of Premier Protein drinks a day and eat a lot of raw veggie salads.
I have to say, I couldn't be happier. Since Jan. I've lost 32 pounds and have a goal to drop another 30 pounds before Fall, I've put away my CPAP machine, I sleep better and have less aches and pains in my joints.
My wife has also lost weight, although only 8 pounds, which is very visible on her, as she wasn't overly sized to begin with. I have to admit that I have an easier time with the diet, as I don't experience hunger pains, and often view eating as necessary rather than desired.
My activity level has markedly increased. I've started woodworking again (just finishing up a stunning dining room table of solid black walnut) --I had stopped for about 6 years. And I am currently building a deck on the south side of the house that I had been putting off for the last twenty years!
I wanted to share this with others in the hope that it might inspire anyone that fallen into a similar situation and despaired of regaining their health and happiness.
So, my first recommendation is the Fitbit App to monitor and track your food intake. And, to be honest, the first week of big change like this is a bit of a hurdle, but, put your head down and power through this period and you'll find it will be easier going forward. Life will get better.
Best wishes to all.

I see a huge difference - look, you hardly have any back fat left!! Hate back fat - lol! The big question is, how do you feel? I'm more excited that I have peace of mind, not mentally beating myself up anymore because I was eating unhealthy food - and too much of it - at every meal! It feels good to be living a healthier lifestyle, right?!

You're right - one day at a time! One other thing - Do you weigh yourself daily? If so, as hard as it will be, you might try switching to weekly weigh-ins so you're not as focused on the weight loss aspect of your new life. ☺️

Being overweight is a shared trait in my family. I've struggled... we've all struggled our whole lives... My sisters and I were trying to talk my father into getting weightloss surgery. He was too ashamed and embarrassed to ask his doctor about it. He thought that he should've been able to do it himself, and that asking for help would make him weak. This past May he passed away in his sleep. He was only 58. There is no doubt in my mind that this surgery would have saved his life. My dad should still be here. In the midst of this heartbreaking time in my life, I've discovered I was just like him. I love my dad (he will forever be my Superman), and I never in a million years would have thought that being like him was a bad thing... I never had considered getting weightloss surgery for myself because like my father, I thought I should be able to do it myself. I've tried... and failed... and tried... and failed so much that I kind of lost faith in myself. I've realized that asking for help is the most courageous thing I can do. It can save my life like it should have saved my father's. My sister and I are scheduled to get gastric bypass surgery in Mexico on September 25th. I'm very excited about starting a new life with a new lifestyle, and I know that my Dad will be watching. I'm determined to make him proud.

I understand the depression situation. I'm 6 weeks post surgery, and I feel like my little mood stabilizing pill has become less effective, too. I'm pretty sure the key for both of us is exercise. It's Monday, a great time to set goals for the week. Start small, maybe just a walk around the block today. Then tomorrow or Wednesday you will be proud to have gotten moving and will make your walk a little longer. By the weekend you will be feeling stronger. Then plan a FUN activity you would enjoy for the weekend - definitely not cleaning your house - lol! You will be surprised how much better you feel when you get active - it's the best cure for depression, AND I bet you see the scale drop next week . Do you have a FitBit? I could use a challenger

I understand the depression situation. I'm 6 weeks post surgery, and I feel like my little mood stabilizing pill has become less effective, too. I'm pretty sure the key for both of us is exercise. It's Monday, a great time to set goals for the week. Start small, maybe just a walk around the block today. Then tomorrow or Wednesday you will be proud to have gotten moving and will make your walk a little longer. By the weekend you will be feeling stronger. Then plan a FUN activity you would enjoy for the weekend - definitely not cleaning your house - lol! You will be surprised how much better you feel when you get active - it's the best cure for depression, AND I bet you see the scale drop next week . Do you have a FitBit? I could use a challenger

I understand the depression situation. I'm 6 weeks post surgery, and I feel like my little mood stabilizing pill has become less effective, too. I'm pretty sure the key for both of us is exercise. It's Monday, a great time to set goals for the week. Start small, maybe just a walk around the block today. Then tomorrow or Wednesday you will be proud to have gotten moving and will make your walk a little longer. By the weekend you will be feeling stronger. Then plan a FUN activity you would enjoy for the weekend - definitely not cleaning your house - lol! You will be surprised how much better you feel when you get active - it's the best cure for depression, AND I bet you see the scale drop next week . Do you have a FitBit? I could use a challenger

I understand the depression situation. I'm 6 weeks post surgery, and I feel like my little mood stabilizing pill has become less effective, too. I'm pretty sure the key for both of us is exercise. It's Monday, a great time to set goals for the week. Start small, maybe just a walk around the block today. Then tomorrow or Wednesday you will be proud to have gotten moving and will make your walk a little longer. By the weekend you will be feeling stronger. Then plan a FUN activity you would enjoy for the weekend - definitely not cleaning your house - lol! You will be surprised how much better you feel when you get active - it's the best cure for depression, AND I bet you see the scale drop next week . Do you have a FitBit? I could use a challenger

Thanks. I know you're right. Sometimes it helps to hear someone else say it. I use Garmin instead of FitBit. It's a gorgeous day today. I'm just finished work so I think I will go out and get some Vitamin D and exercise.

Hang in there - it gets better!! You will likely be able to tolerate your favorite foods; it's just that you will only eat small amounts of them - and the best thing is, you'll be all right with that!

You're right - one day at a time! One other thing - Do you weigh yourself daily? If so, as hard as it will be, you might try switching to weekly weigh-ins so you're not as focused on the weight loss aspect of your new life. ☺️

I see a huge difference - look, you hardly have any back fat left!! Hate back fat - lol! The big question is, how do you feel? I'm more excited that I have peace of mind, not mentally beating myself up anymore because I was eating unhealthy food - and too much of it - at every meal! It feels good to be living a healthier lifestyle, right?!

From my experience, exercising helps you lose inches but not necessarily weight, just so you don't get too upset if that still doesn't help with the scale. Of course, this Protein thing is a whole new world for me - I'm only 3 weeks post op, so I could be wrong about that. Any regular exercisers out there who want to advise us on that?

You're right - one day at a time! One other thing - Do you weigh yourself daily? If so, as hard as it will be, you might try switching to weekly weigh-ins so you're not as focused on the weight loss aspect of your new life. ☺️

I see a huge difference - look, you hardly have any back fat left!! Hate back fat - lol! The big question is, how do you feel? I'm more excited that I have peace of mind, not mentally beating myself up anymore because I was eating unhealthy food - and too much of it - at every meal! It feels good to be living a healthier lifestyle, right?!