CravingABetterMe

I just found this info on my UHC member page. They have a lot of hoops to jump through, but they DO cover it!
(copied from UHC)
Bariatric Resource Services (BRS) is a surgical weight loss solution for those individual(s) who qualify clinically for bariatric surgery. Specialized nurses provide support through all stages of the weight loss surgery process. Our program is dedicated to providing support both before and after surgery. Nurses help with decision support in preparation for surgery, information and education important in the selection of a bariatric surgery program and post-surgery and lifestyle management. Nurses can provide information on the nation's leading obesity surgery centers, known as Centers of Excellence. Access the Bariatric Resource Services Centers of Excellence programs at 1-888-936-7246 or visit www.myoptumhealthcomplexmedical.com
All authorization information and enrollment for bariatric surgery must be initiated through United Resource Networks (U.R.N.). Covered participants seeking coverage for bariatric surgery should obtain prior authorization U.R.N. as soon as the possibility of a bariatric surgery procedure arises (and before the time a pre-surgical evaluation is performed) at a bariatric surgery center by calling U.R.N., at 1-888-936-7246 to enroll in the program.
Guidelines
● 3 month (consecutive) supervised weight loss program with physician
● Nutritional evaluation
● Psychiatric evaluation
● Letter of recommendation from bariatric surgeon and another physician.

Thank you everyone for your support!
I had the surgery this afternoon and will be going home from the hospital tomorrow I hope. I feel SO relieved! (And drugged up like crazy).

Thank you everyone for your support!
I had the surgery this afternoon and will be going home from the hospital tomorrow I hope. I feel SO relieved! (And drugged up like crazy).

Thank you everyone for your support!
I had the surgery this afternoon and will be going home from the hospital tomorrow I hope. I feel SO relieved! (And drugged up like crazy).

Thank you everyone for your support!
I had the surgery this afternoon and will be going home from the hospital tomorrow I hope. I feel SO relieved! (And drugged up like crazy).

Just reading your story. Congratulations on going through with the operation. It is a huge deal for all of us but feeling unsupported by a loved one does make it that much harder.
I am 58 have 3 adult children and 3 grandchildren. My children support me but my husband doesn't really. We have been married 35years but he has always sabotaged every diet I have been on because he likes to win.. I know this sounds strange but he thinks if I loose weight and get fit I will be able to walk faster or even jog faster than him. That I will get the attention..to tell you the truth I think he is jealous.. He comes from a highly competitive family I dont...The thought of me loosing 12pounds or more in one month horrifies him because it's not him!
I have been to see a shrink because I wanted to make sure I was doing this op for me and not to annoy my husband.. Odd thinking isn't it..but honestly all our married life has been competitive from jobs and salaries etc.. Weight he has always won..nervous energy skinny..
I am having this operation not to annoy him but to prevent my joints getting so bad he has to push me around in a wheel chair or I have to use a mobile walker.
I could become diabetic and my Hashimotos could become uncontrollable. I am having this op for me and me alone He can either support me or get lost.. But I like you am determined to prove to myself and him that I can put myself first and put my health first.
As far as exercise goes I found swimming and bike riding so far don't hurt..post op not sure.
It's hard being married to an A hole isn't it! Just keep a sense of humour... Just to really p him off...lol...

Thank you everyone for your support!
I had the surgery this afternoon and will be going home from the hospital tomorrow I hope. I feel SO relieved! (And drugged up like crazy).

Thank you everyone for your support!
I had the surgery this afternoon and will be going home from the hospital tomorrow I hope. I feel SO relieved! (And drugged up like crazy).

Yay for you that you went through with the surgery! What a great gift to yourself of better health! You will feel better and better every day. Congratulations.

Yayyyy!!!!!!!!!
SO glad you had the surgery!!!!!!

Thank you everyone for your support!
I had the surgery this afternoon and will be going home from the hospital tomorrow I hope. I feel SO relieved! (And drugged up like crazy).

Thank you everyone for your support!
I had the surgery this afternoon and will be going home from the hospital tomorrow I hope. I feel SO relieved! (And drugged up like crazy).

just keep in mind the first week is the hardest, it gets easier after that. I had to keep telling myself the first week that the pain and the not eating was only temporary to get through it. youll never eat like you used to but you get used to it. so glad you decided to have the surgery, its so worth it, ive lost 35 lbs in 2 and a half months. ive still got 20 more and im sure ill get there. I hope you enjoy your sleeve.

Thank you everyone for your support!
I had the surgery this afternoon and will be going home from the hospital tomorrow I hope. I feel SO relieved! (And drugged up like crazy).

Thank you everyone for your support!
I had the surgery this afternoon and will be going home from the hospital tomorrow I hope. I feel SO relieved! (And drugged up like crazy).

Please have the surgery for yourself. It doesn't matter what he thinks. This is for your life and your health. He is not thinking of your welfare so please think of it for yourself. Please don't let him bully you into losing this opportunity. It's the best thing I ever did.

Cravingabetterme. I didn't loose the weight all that fast, especially since August 19. I started checking into the surgery probably around last Christmas and went to seminars in January. Checked our insurance and had to wait 6 months, they were hellish. I did weigh in as heavy as possible in January to meet their initial weight requirements.
I decided to eat as if I had the surgery for the six months and insurance worrying helped me to be active. Jan end 219. March 200 aug 185 or so oct 165 nov 150s all of nov and most of dec to get to 140. Around 4 lbs a week but people from our August group have lost 80 lbs in 4 months.
I'm in my sixties and January we bought me a walker because my health was taking serious down turns. It has made major positive results.
Keep in touch. I think being positive helps your recovery, but I have had my moments but no regrets at all.

Thank you ladies for the support =) It really means a lot!
Imm300missouri, congratulations on getting to your goal! How were you able to do it so fast??!

I pretty much agree with what has already been said. You have to do what is best for you. Instead of letting his words kill your spirit. Maybe you should try using them as your motivation. Let the push and fuel you. He says you have commitment issues. Well... prove him wrong. It is definitely about your mindset. Start there and it will fall into place. At the end of the day, you have to do what is best for you. The sleeve saved my life literally.

Continued......basically I knew I wouldn't keep a diet like this without help and all the weight would come back. You need to make this decision for yourself and your health. He doesn't have the knowledge you do. This has to be your decision alone.

have the surgery, your confidence and self respect go way up afterwards not to mention if you have any health problems they usually resolve themselves right after surgery. You will not regret it.

This is from a guys point of view...
It sounds like he has the issues. Insecure? Manipulative? But certainly unsupportive. Or at the very least not supporting you in the right way.
I will give him credit for acknowledging (barely) what you DID accomplish......which was no easy task for any of us. Like the rest of us, you need this surgery to complete your loss. It works and is worth it. Do it and enjoy the results.
As said before, no one works out every day, I don't. It's better not to lie to the doctors or nutritionist but I can understand....I might have exaggerated my activity level once or twice.
Let us know in four.....now three days. It might be the best decision you will ever make.

Thank you ladies for the support =) It really means a lot!
Imm300missouri, congratulations on getting to your goal! How were you able to do it so fast??!

I was going to go with "douchecanoe" but "asshat" works also.

Maybe he's scared you'll lose the rest of the weight and get more confident and thus less easily manipulated. In other words, I'm saying have the surgery!