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...you go to the doctors and have to put on a gown for x-rays and its the regular size not the XXX LG size.

@@HopefulMe2016, I hurt that you are unable to talk with any of your BFF's or share your true feelings with them enough that they would be understanding. I will add that maybe you should kinda drop some ideas of how you feel to gage how they think of the idea of WLS. Talk about the issues you have been experiencing.
-Maybe because we tend to put on errs that everything is okay pple don't know and that's when judgement comes in. I use to be like you and realize they won't know until I speak up and out (break out of my own shell).
-I do feel your pain and just as its mentioned above we are here as supporters of one another.I do pray your strength through this journey. Also I'm glad to read that you are receiving counseling for one thing as this journey will allow you to open on other areas of your circumstances. Congratulations on the beginning of the new you.

When I wear my keys around my neck to walk the dog. I don't have to lean into the door anymore. I have plenty of room because my stomach isn't in the way anymore.

You Know you have lost when
the bathtub Water actually covers your stomach .

I needed a reminder as to why I made this decision!

My number 1 is I can't keep up with my kids
2. back and knee pain
3.cant wear cute clothes
4.i always wanted that little space on both sides,you know the space between butt and arm rest of airplane seat.
5.want my husband to

I wasn't going to have the surgery because I was losing weight naturally since attending the Healthy Balance class Givin by Kaiser. But when I saw the Bariatric Dr ( NOT the surgeon) he explained to me how my diabetes can get worse the longer I have it an that having the surgery can cause my diabetes to go into remission. He used a very sensible illustration of termites being confined in 1 part of my house & how I may be okay with that and not being willing to pay the money to get rid of them. But what if of those termites started to move out from that spot? Now you will have to pay more money than you would have if you would've takin care of it when it was just a small area that was infected. He helped me to appreciate that I should focus more on the health benefits of the surgery than the weight loss part!

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LMBO! Just as Phat2016 stated, I now need to get more panties as mom use to say wear your good ones outside in case you get in an accident, I would hate for the doctor to see what I'm wearing now.

Still a work in progress

How many pounds would it be to gwt to 40bmi?
I would have food funeral now and then I'd wear the heaviest clothes with rolls of quarters stuffed in my bra and pockets.
Nope, not kidding.
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My father dying from obesity related heart disease.
HW 341 lbs
07/19/16 - 298 lbs
08/09/16 DOS - 286 lbs
CW 270 lbs

@@jessjames That's how my Nana lived - her bathroom cabinet mirrors were always open so she didn't get a reflection of herself (old). I find myself doing the same. I can't look in the mirror while getting my hair done either.

I avoided mirrors and my own reflection like the plague, I would open my bathroom cabinet when I had a shower so that when I got out I wouldn't catch a glance of my body in the mirror.
I became a recluse and I decided.. No more.
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For me it was that I couldn't walk through a store to get simple purchases. I just was in Hollywood, CA and walked 6.36 miles and did 20 flights of stairs in 1 day. Before surgery I couldn't walk 6.36 yards without stressing, huffing, puffing and being in pain.

Well, I lost about 80 pounds and started running. I eventually worked my way up to running marathons! I was so proud of myself! I was feeling great! I was down to 175 pounds. Then, Hurricane Katrina happened. I'm a New Orleans firefighter and an Army veteran. I lost everything, like so many of us. I saw things and saw people do things not to think of. I lost my motivation. I started cheating on my wife and got divorced. I had a 6 month old baby at the time. So, I turned back to my comfort, food. Fast forward a few years, and got a lot of counseling. I was feeling much better about myself but I couldn't shake the weight. I met a beautiful woman who loved me despite all I went through. We got married and have 2 wonderful kids together. She accepted my first child as her own. Our youngest was diagnosed with autism. She's so much to keep up with! I was weighing 303 pounds, on multiple blood pressure meds, heart medicine from a heart attack I had in 2011, sleep apnea with a cpap machine, and meds for anxiety and depression for panic attacks I have due to PTSD. It was time. I needed this according to my doctor. The straw that broke was being on vacation and barely being able to ride and rides at Universal Studios without workers forcing the harness on me and me hardly being able to breathe. Just seeing the embarrassment on my kids faces pushed me more than anything. Now, I'm only 2 weeks post op but I've already lost 24 pounds. I sleep and feel so much better! And since no one else will say it... sex is so much better now too!!!

My final straw was during my daughter's wedding prep, her soon to be father in law complained about his weight, #250. He had no idea I weighed what he did, he'd never insult me on purpose. I didn't think I was as big as he was. He was much taller, so I'm sure he wore it better. But also, I've had 2 kids graduate and I've always wanted those pictures to be of a skinnier me, I wasn't thrilled with my 250# body in their forever pictures. One graduation this year as well and I'm glad to know I'll be much healthier!

I've had a lot of last straws... I'm only 34 and I'm tired of being fat. As I get older, it just gets worse. I am now pre-diabetic, have hypertension and sleep apnea in addition to multiple other health issues. I have 4 kids and I want to be active with them. I think the real turning point was when my son's classmates told him I was fat. Oh, and I keep getting asked when I'm due.
I've been approved for surgery. I have my meeting with the doctor on 08/09 and we schedule the surgery that day. It has been about a year long process. I did six months of visits with my PCP, an EGD with my surgeon and a cardiac clearance workup with my cardiologist. I also did my psych eval back in June and met with the dietitian at that time.

Wow - I've been reading a lot of these stories and some reasons are familiar, but even the ones that aren't really resonate with me.
For most of life - from my teens to my early 30s, my weight went back and forth over the years and I usually ranged from a size 10 to 14/16. Not obese, but always overweight. But I was an active overweight person, and I felt much healthier than many of my skinny friends who did not exercise and ate junk all the time. I did hit a healthy BMI when I was 24 from all the dancing I was doing, but knee problems forced me to quit and the weight slowly crept up. I did manage to stay under 200 pounds until about 8 years ago the weight started to pile on and nothing I did would last long. WW, Southbeach diet, etc worked for a while, then I would stall and the weight would come back + more. I was depressed and the weight gain just made the depression worse. I remember my personal trainer talking to me about what I needed to do if I was serious about losing weight and I walked out on her - I was angry that she thought I wasn't doing my best, but at the same time I didn't want her to see me break down in tears. I never went back.
Like many people here, I had a lot of "well, I'll never let myself get to _____ weight," but it has happened time and again. The first WGD (weight gain defeat) was hitting 200 lbs. Around the same time, realising that I had stop fighting myself in the regular stores - the size 18s were barely fitting, and department stores like Sears had nothing I wanted to wear - and walking into a dedicated plus-size store for the first time. Walking from the parking lot into the store was really embarrassing, but once I was inside I was surrounded by clothes that fit and very positive people around me. Then I hit 220. Then 250. Now I'm fluctuating but hitting a high of 275. Over the past 10 years I have gained, with consistency, 10-15 pounds a year and nothing I do seems to stop it. My overall activity and eating patterns haven't changed (except when I try a new diet or exercise). I don't drink alcohol or any carbonated beverages anymore, no junk food other than chocolate (!), and I still get over 10,000 steps a day.
I had a couple of minor health problems last year that really reduced my ability to move and exercise, which is why I've gained so much in the last year (at least 20lbs). At the time I realised that I have no one to help me. I'm single and live alone. Most of my family and close friends are 1000's of miles away. I thought about "what if I die here" (in case of a worse case scenario - some recent events that happened to other people made me more aware) - because being an expat means you can't rely on what you know from home - and realised that it would be much cheaper for my family to cremate me, rather than to have my body flown home (airlines charge by the kilo). But even then, there was no "straw" that broke the camel's back. I woke up one morning, decided to (randomly) research weight loss surgery in Japan, came across a post from this site, and I haven't looked back since.
Maybe my brain, my subconscious, whatever, was quietly making a list of problems that I just couldn't ignore, so that when I woke up that morning about 6 weeks ago, it knew that I needed to start making some real changes in my life and that this would be the best way to do it. Now that I've decided to do it, this surgery, this new life plan, has become my new obsession. It's the most positive thing that has happened to me in a while, and I really hope it works out!
None of these is the straw, but they've all contributed:
Living in a country where absolutely no clothes fit me (I don't even know where obese Japanese women get their clothes - I have a feeling quite a few make them) As a result of the above, spending a ton of money on online shopping and shipping, knowing that it's not worth returning if it doesn't fit, and having to make do with what comes Also because of the above, spending a lot of time looking for stores with plus-size sections when I do travel abroad because I need clothes - bottoms fall apart in the heat and humidity here, and tops seem to shrink with time Worrying about fitting into plane and train seats when I travel Having to bring extra clothes when I travel in case things (especially pants) get ruined by the dreaded chub rub Having to deal with extra heavy or larger suitcases because of my bigger clothes Having 90% of my shoes not fit anymore because of the weight gain and edema (especially in the summer) The looks I get from people all the time. It's not disgust, more like amazement - how can somebody be that big? She must eat 24/7! The fact that people feel they can comment on my weight at any time - from my little nephew asking me why I was so fat, to a Buddhist monk in Burma commenting on my need to exercise more and eat less (!). I'll never see the monk again but I hope the next time I see my nephew he won't even remember asking me that question. My brother laughing at me when we Skyped over Christmas. He hadn't seen me for a few years and he had no problems making me feel humiliated when I was already so depressed. His "just eat one meal a day like I do" didn't help either Friends "forgetting" about me - I get a lot of excuses when I ask people to do things, but they never get back to me about getting together when a time is convenient for them Still single. I've accepted that part of my life but I also want a chance of happiness with someone. That will never happen while I'm in the obese part of the BMI. The only time men seem interested me is when I weigh less than 150 pounds, and it's been a long a time since I was that low. Realising that, over the past 6 years, I have missed 2 family reunions and have avoided visiting friends from a thinner time in my life because I don't want to see the look of shock on their faces when they see the current me. Every time I see that look (like "what the he!! happened!") it's just so depressing Also realising that I keep postponing trips and activities I want to do because I know my weight will either prevent me from doing all that I want, or will really get in the way Looking at photos of myself with my students or other people and realising I am more than double their width Hitting 275. That's a big blow and I definitely do not, cannot, will not hit 300.

When your son's friend says wow you look like when i first met you as a kid!

I recently have had several moments where it has hit me that I am doing great. Crossing my legs comfortably was my first realization, have seen several classmates that I haven't seen in at least a year and they all were asking me how I had lost the weight and lastly going shopping and fitting in a size 10. I still need to lose 24 more pounds but I feel amazing and I am finally enjoying life again.

When your boss asks you to instruct residents on physical fitness (cardio/strength training) as new job duties.

With me, I was a 26/28 and now an xl and a size 16 in pants. What a difference

Just enrolled for WLS today! Can't wait to list my "moment" here.
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When you can't stop crossing your legs when your sitting. It feels so natural to me now. ☺️ When you are able to wear clothes sitting in your closet for years and now they are fitting big. ????
When your concerned about your wedding band falling off your finger. ????
When you look in the mirror and cant beleive the changes but say damn I am looking good! ????????????????????

When you get home and realize that you purchased the wrong size in a shirt and your friend says, "It looks like it'll fit" and she's right!
As an adult, I've never fit into a size medium before! I thought the sizing must be completely off so I went shopping the next day and wouldn't you know it, I fit into size mediums at multiple stores!