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@@ML573663 wrote: "Do you think it helps or makes your weight loss slower? That's just my fear."

You're be free of fear if your goal is reasonable. Can you live with a goal "To lose weight?" I'll make a crazy-wild guess that you were obese for quite a while. Is there really an emergency now to lose rapidly? If you eat well, you will lose. Make it a joyful process -- eat cheese.

Take over the cooking or cook for yourself. You'd be doing yourself harm not to take charge of what you need. No matter what, you have ultimate responsibility for your weight loss and your life.

A number of questions come to mind regarding your partner and your relationship. The main ones are whether she gave up on losing weight and whether something else is on her mind. If you haven't, why not talk to her without demands and accusations?

cheese is a reason to live. To answer your question, in moderation. Unless a cheese is lowfat from the day it was first produced, why give up the real thing? Most are god awful in lowfat versions. Eat the best-tasting whatever-it-is. When I do, my soul sings and I don't even want all that much.

@ plays dominoes with the pepper-dotted cheese before tossing the pieces into the pot. He gives me the cheddar.

@@BubblesOhSoSleeved, if it makes a difference, you're far from the only one to be let down by people you thought you could count on. The subject comes up almost daily.

Simply let those people know they let you down and that you were asking for support, not opinions, that you're fully aware of what's right for you. For good measure, end the brief discussion by telling them the topic closed.

Not that it's likely to change your view of things, but most people who are negative fear losing something. Often they are significantly overweight and don't want to be the only one

Focus on yourself. The whole thing is about you, your life, your health and your future, not to mention your gorgeousness. Screw 'em.

@@sarahb309, I may be old enough to be mom of @@The New Kel -- but you may not call me by that other name.

Kel is so right. Instead of thinking in terms of people, pursue your interests and there you'll find kindred spirits. The interests and activities are the starting point, you and others will find wider common ground. Conversation will be easier and provide opportunities to suggest a coffee after the meeting or whatever the event.

As to your saying "I don't want to be friends with people who only like me b/c I lost weight," that's reasonable. It's sad that there are those who might start coming around because of it. There are plenty of others, though. Always remember that choosing friends and associates is a two-way street. You don't have to settle.

"I'm just nervous of being rejected! I am making the resolution of putting myself out there!" Nervous is normal. Lots of people of all weights feel it. It's part of being human. I have no way of knowing if you ever were "rejected" because of your weight. Something I do know is that, when a person is extremely self-conscious about any aspect, her own discomfort level can make others uncomfortable. Sure, your body is part of the package, but there's so much more -- your mind, personality, humor, curiosity and all the rest.

Have faith in yourself. You have cause to have faith.

@@LipstickLady, I appreciate that and I expect that, given a good night or two of sleep, I'll take the route and focus on the important things. I'm just feeling damned irritable about everything. ............ Yeah, I need some time. I just googled the program needed, K-Pacs, and it is free and downloadable by anyone. I'm not going to download it because it's most unlikely that the CD of my images has been sent anywhere.

I've been aware that Kindle hasn't been around for some time and, sheesh, now am seeing her farewell for the first time. Shall I speak about her or to her at this late date?

Kindle, you're good. Your comments were always well-considered, well-written and valuable. While your reason for leaving is most understandable, I wish you'd stayed and rebudgeted your expenditure of energy. It's not always easy to stick with the resolution, but it gets easier. If not that, there are vacations. I do hope you'll show up again.

All good wishes to you.

This isn't really a rant, but none of the other forum options are better suited. Ordinarily I'd make my own decision without discussion, but circumstances are clouding my thinking in general.

Punchline: I requested a 2014 CD of radiology images with the written report from the radiology facility. I received a written report about another person and was unable to open the CD (it needs some sort of special program) that came with it to find out whose name is on the images.

Details:
- I made the request by phone two days ago for the materials. I was told it would take three days to process the request [and then however long once in the Post Office's hands].
- The materials arrived today; postmark is two days ago. I saw another name/dob/date of service on the written report. My laptop doesn't have the special program needed to open the CD. Someone had written my name/dob/date of radiology on the CD itself; this has no bearing on the actual content.
- Phoned the radiology facility and discussed their error. The woman who got my call (same one I made the request to) sounded upset. She asked me to shred and seemed about to sign off. I reiterated that I need my things and that I want to be sure no one thinks my request has been fulfilled. She said they'd be sent.

Question: Would you report this to HIPAA or let it go? I a couple of hours have passed since I opened the package and my concern, irritation and anger have increased. I keep leaning more toward filing a report.

I used quotation marks on "disorder" as I don't really know about that -- whether the term is meaningful or real, et al. A rose by any name, however, may be useful around here.

http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/eating-disorders/binge-eating-disorder/ss/slideshow-binge-eating-disorder

Glad to hear you say that. Step aside, @@pvechiola is on tap.

@@jenn1, there's nothing wrong with making money, but, as you say, it matters how it's done. The pills are unethical. I think the board thing is, too. My knowledge of the workings of exercise has limits and I may be wrong, but wouldn't dancing the twist do the same? Or pulling one's hula hoop out of mothballs? At the very least, a new hula hoop would cost far less than the board.

...but we make the sacrifices ...

N.G. attitude. Please reconsider so that your excitement over your upcoming surgery stays with you after surgery. "Sacrifice" is being unhealthy, unhappy and generally uncomfortable because of self-imposed obesity. Giving up the obesity is a positive claim, a taking in of good things, not a giving up [fill in the blank with the name of your preferred grease or starch].

Once upon a time, not really all that long, long ago, commercials for such products were on in the middle of the night. Now they're prime-time. TV is scratching in the dirt in Desperation Gulch.

@@LipstickLady wrote: "Sorry to say, but I still think this is a a bit on the P/A side although I do think honesty is best. This kind of feels like a guilt trip and again, this was your decision, so it's not fair to your friends to make them feel bad about their decisions. If you can't go along with it, simply opt out of social situations until you can. If you choose not to opt out (I didn't), bring something diet friendly for yourself and eat when they eat."

That's well-suited to some, depending on personality and emotional maturity of all parties involved. Others will be fine and happy with rejoining later. It certainly helps if everyone knows in advance that there'll be a break. It certainly doesn't help if the surgery person goes off to sit and sulk; use the time well.

I just can't wait to chew something again.

That one is reasonable. Good news is that it will happen, so keep your teeth in good working order.

You have the "right" to feel as you do. The question is whether the feeling is reasonable. Your friends asked for your input iand you withheld the truth. There's no way of knowing whether they'd have skipped pizza, but you had the option of going off to do something on your own for a while or staying and drinking your liquids. Majority rules and the world isn't going to stop for you. You say you wouldn't have "done" that to them. They really didn't "do" anything to you.

@@Monigirl76, I don't really recall, but I imagine the opening would be in front. In either case, take a second robe and put it on over the first in the opposite direction until it's time to take it off.

Aha, you're the one! The one pleased with her rate of loss, that is. A kiss upon your noggin, Sane Heroine..

@@Monigirl76 -- They uncover only the areas they need to get to once you're on the OR table.....If you asked because you have a particular concern, people here may be able to fill in a little more about it specifically or you can discuss it while you're being prepped for surgery.

@@suzzzzz -- I think your note above will be helpful in general. Any shred of dignity can be soothing for many people.

@@DisneyMom2El -- The sanitary and safety aspects make perfect sense. They never occurred to me before.

For one of my endoscopies or something, once in the OR, I told the doctor and the others not to talk about me when I was out. They laughed, but I was dead serious. How could they not have known?

Funny, but I feel let down anyway. I was hoping to read that you dropped once more for old times' sake.

Most people do. You'll have gas (air bubbles only if you're a diver) until it runs its course. Nothing to worry about.

Complete your preparations for going to the hospital slowly over the two days; draw things out so that you're occupied most of the time over time. On the morning of your surgery, change the sheets before you leave the house as your last, official activity. It's another of the mentally non-taxing tasks to keep your mind occupied and you'll arrive home to a fresh bed. Also remember that nervousness is a sign of nervousness and nothing else. In other words, let it be.

If all that fails, drugs.

(P.S. Stretching out the last, little tasks also should remind you that your taking care of what needs taking care of. You're capable and in charge.)

I will try the support group. I hope it helps.

You also have Bariatric Pal. There are quite a few solid people sharing support and good info and ideas.

It's the barley that will get you every time.

Stop the fretting and flapping around. Cut out the empty carbs. Not all carbs are empty. Guilt is an empty carb. "Poor me, I'm so bad" does nothing for you, much like wearing an unflattering hat. Allow yourself to be a flawed human and give it your best.

Sounding like a hot mess is not such a bad thing. It says that you're living in a state of reality. For now stop thinking about weight loss. You will be a star. Your mother died not quite three days ago. The world is out of order. Having people swarming around is in part keeping your mind occupied. When things quiet down in a few more days, you'll face what it really means not to have your mother within reach. This is a time for you to calm yourself as best as you can while you feel your feelings and think your thoughts. Give yourself a break. Great that you haven't touched the junk food. Stay away from the coffee for now. You may want to call your surgery practice for a recommendation for an o-t-c product for the Constipation. You will lose weight, I promise with a hug.