dhrguru

Every time this topic is posted you get a myriad of answers--because it's a personal decision. I chose to tell family; not much of anyone else. When people comment on my weight loss I thank them and say I'm working on it. Haven't had a single person pester me beyond that. If you opt to shout it from the roof tops-- make sue you can let the Snide comments go.

One thing for sure- people will talk either way.

Update...I decided im actually going to go thru with it. I prayed about it and asked God for an answer, all the verses i came across talked about help, and answering of prayer. I know i have fought long and hard i now believe this is a blessing. Im terrified to put in all the work AGAIN just to gain it all back AGAIN i cant take another cycle of that. The definition of insanity is to do the same thing repeatedly and expect a different result. I went threw alot of old photos and FB post and seen a weight loss journey i went on back in 2007 2009 2010 and so on! That was almost 10 years ago! And im actually about 70+lbs heavier then i was then. So F it i have to try something new. I had to tell myself this does not mean im a failure or a quitter im a WINNER for taking control of my life! I know now this is not the easy way out. And im ready already down 20lbs since i started this thread! Lets do it :-)

Little tia

I think you've made a very, very wise choice. Now I encourage you to start or continue with therapy to work though the emotions that drive you to overeat/make poor choices.

I've heard thin, slimming down, skinny best I can recall. I'm now in the "how much more do you plan to lose" phase because-- I apparently don't need to lose any more according to others.

I add it to my chocolate Protein Shake. I've mixed it with Water to make into a Peanut Butter consistently-- it's good, but doesn't keep well. I couldn't be bothered whipping up a little each time I got a craving for Peanut butter. So I mainly use it as an add in to stuff now. I've tried it in yogurt, and oatmeal-- I don't love it or hate it that way.

15 months out and my incision above the navel looks like a second belly button too

Congratulations!! I remember your struggles and you did it!! Our surgery dates aren't to far apart I think... I'm at 204 today... so close!!

I like the idea of a vet forum that's closed in some fashion to deflect the newbie reptitiveness. My only thought/concern is that the group make up will seem heavily skewed towards those at goal/in maintenance vs those working towards goal still.

I read / post far less then I used to the further out I get-- this may be a reason to come back to BP.

My hips. I've always loved my hips, even when I was obese. I love laying on my side in bed and seeing how they curve to give me that hourglass effect.

Damn, I'm sorry they treated you that way. You'll have to develop some responses that shut down their busybody ways and shows you are strong in you decisions about what you put in your body. I'd suggest having a serious talk with your husband about him taking your plate... You are not 4!

This has not been my experience at all by the way. My family knows about my surgery and never comments on what/how much I eat (to my face at least). Don't accept it as the norm.

One of my incision did start oozing puss, but it wasn't a constant stream. I ended up needed antibiotics to clear the infection. Did you have a drain?

Starting weight: 337: 3 months 278; 6 months 255; 1 year 215

One-- you CAN be thin-- don't doubt that for a minute, but seek a goal that works for you!

My starting weight was 337, and I'm at 210 now. The worst of my excess skin is my wings (arms). I have skin on my stomach of course, but it doesn't 'hang' or otherwise protrude horribly/awkwardly. I can easily live with my stomach. I've gone from a 46dd to a 38D. Mine haven't take on the 'tube socks with rocks in them' look I've heard other describe. They hung before , just seem a bit deflated now. Nicely hidden in clothes/bras etc. like you, I'll never be able to afford plastics. Even if I did have a financial windfall, I'd hesitate in plastics. Arms would be my hands down must do-- anything else ehh.

My husband hasn't complained. He actually hasn't said a single word about my weight loss at all, so if he said anything at all- it'd be a pretty big deal. I can't say I've noticed anything flopping around.... But maybe I'm just focused on other things

Size 10 is ideal for me.

I don't have really any friends where I live. I am on my own but I do have a little family. I am having trouble with getting the rest of the weight off. I don't know what I should be eating at this point. Its confusing and I am still eating breads and rice and Pasta and starches. Am I doing that wrong.

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How many calories are you eating?

What worked to wean me off of "white carbs" pre op was to limit them to one carb per meal. (IE- instead of chicken, Mac and cheese and cornbread, I had chicken and cornbread.) Then eventually I transitioned my one carb to a vegetable. It's overwhelming to drop it all at once, so that's why I opted to gradually work things out of my diet.

You can also start using Protein shakes as Meal Replacements, but you will struggle with hunger initially.

Do you have a nutritionist?

Hi Tammy, I'm 13 months post op RNY. Your worries are normal, but trust me, for the most part, won't be a concern the further you get post op. Can I eat the food I love- yup 90 % of them. I choose not to though cause the foods I love is what caused me to be super morbidly obese. I can't tolerate fried foods, of fatty food at all. I don't drink calories at all, only Water or diet Snapple. O can tolerate sweets, which is bad cause that's my biggest problem- but again it's a choice to eat what my body needs nutritionally, and sweets arent nutrition. I've dumped a few times, and for me it's extremely subtle, not the writhing agony some describe. I really have to pay attention to realize it. Everyone's experience is different-- just giving you mine. A huge part of this is dealing with the mental-- I'd encourage counseling to sort though what ever is the driving force one use food to hide from, cope with etc. (I did years of therapy a few years before WLS it helped me understand why I had the attitudes towards weight and nutrition I had)

Tackle one thing at a time to not get overwhelmed. It will all be so worth it!

The days i tried brown rice... Never.again.

So when I searched you I see your an Advocare rep-- is there really a group or are you just seeking people to join this multi level marketing scheme?

What are you eating on atypical day? How many calories, what are you drinking? Are you exercising? We can "monitor intake" but still be eating the wrong things...

I just say "thanks, I've been working at it" and if they insist on knowing what I'm doing I bring up that I started running... It shuts most up as they aren't interested in it themselves

I'm getting mine done at Presbyterian, Dr. Korus he's very nice when you got yours done did you have to do the 3 month weight management

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My first consult was March 2 2015, My surgery was 4/28/15. No I didn't have to do weight management prior to, but of course weight was was encouraged to ensure a successful surgery. I lost 20# preop.

Chestnut hill, Dr Meilahn. No complaints whatsoever about him or the hospital- it was a great experience. If you have any questions let me know

Post op, one year out. Down about 125#.

I live in Philly!

Awesome job!

I'm a year out, my hunger has not returned. I do pay close attention for it, and any time I think there is a twinge of hunger I drink something first and I'm fine. I'm hoping to ride this out as long as humanly possible. Though my hunger hasn't returned, the honeymoon is over And my weight loss slowed dramatically.