dhrguru

@@dhrguru Does he not want to get the surgery himself?

No, he doesn't. He doesn't feel he needs it... And I can understand that feeling since I was there once myself too.

A small part of me wonders if some used that pantry specifically because they offered this type of food.

Seems irrational, but I certainly know people who would do that.

I'm glad your financial outlook is improving though.

I'm almost 4 months post op. Even before thinking about surgery, there were small steps I would take to try and 'preserve' what health I had. (Ie- drink Water, diet soda, bring lunch vs buying it etc) All the while I would hope my husband would adopt something for himself too... But he's his own person. He's never berated, bullied or lectured me about my weight, and I try and do the same for him.

But, part of me wonders if he was kind of 'enabling' me, or simply not doing me any favors ignoring the 'elephant' in the room. But, it's nearly impossible to approach this topic of weight without seeming like you are 'fat shaming'.

I see how physically unhappy he is with himself. And how unhealthy he is, cholesterol issues, elevated A1c, sleep apnea, joint pains etc. I love him and want us to enjoy growing old together, but we're too young for all that! Guess I can only pray that he chooses something that helps enhance his quality of life at some point. I ultimately had to make this decision on my own, So I need to transition my worry for him to love and appreciation for his support of me.

I have to say, this topic kind of concerns me. I've always thought to myself that if I could find something - surgery, pills, anything - that could remove my hunger, I'd be able to lose the weight and keep it off. And so that's one of the biggest reasons for me getting this surgery is because I was lead to believe I would no longer feel hunger after surgery. So hearing that people are still feeling hunger after surgery isn't good.

How common is this? Is this with one particular type of surgery? Is this after some amount of time?

the way my surgeon explained it to me, was that your hunger does disappear after surgery for a while, but eventually your body finds a way to restore what surgery 'interrupted'. But I've read so many folks who said they were hungry right away after surgery, with either surgery. Seems odd to me since the nerve in your stomach are cut... But who knows.

I've written off my gurgling to be just that, random gurgling; so I don't think I've felt genuine hunger yet.

Calling out the reason I have lost so much weight, bariatric surgery. I have dieted, exercised, literally struggled my whole life with weight issues until getting surgery and bam! I am the thinnest I have ever been with little to no effort 6 months out. I am not even hungry most the time, I just eat for old reasons like when I am happy or sad or socializing or if the food is really good. WLS has done for me what diet and exercise couldn't, too bad insurance won't cover for everyone... No one needs a huge stomach...

While I echo your praise of WLS success; some of what you said concerns me. Eating for for old reasons, like happy or sad, is what got many of us here in the first place. And no effort, I wish... everyday is another level of effort for me.

Enjoy it, but Be careful... The honeymoon won't last forever!

You said gurgling

That sounds like you need Pepcid especially if it's in your chest and makes you vomit clear bubbles.

The length of the process is determined by your insurance and your surgeon's requirements. Call your insurance, or check thier website to learn the specifics of your plan.

My seminar was over 5 years ago, so I don't recall details... But like with anything in this journey it will vary a lot from person to person.

I had to get an ultrasound, upper gi, bloodwork and pulmonary clearance before surgery. The doc asked me to lose weight, but nothing specific.

When I buy I generally buy one item at my current size and anther item one size smaller.

Lisa, Ken, and I are headed to AC today to meet up with a bariatric group based in Philadelphia who are having their annual meet and greet in Atlantic City. We're interested in getting to know these folks...they are very welcoming to newcomers but I'm also checking them out to see what we might be able to take away from this experience to try to have our own meet & greet.

I will be communicating with Alex to determine if a similar event can be organized for us as well. Just curious...let me know who on this site would be interested in something like this.

We have people from all over the country plus folks from outside the US as well so some would have to come a long way unfortunately. I have however, seen on the FB site for this event today, that people are coming from up and down the Eastern Seaboard and even from Canada.

Again...if you can respond and let me know if you are interested in trying something like this, please let me know so I can gauge if there's enough interest to follow up.

thanks all!

I'd be interested. I live in Philadelphia.

Looking over my vacation pics and actually liking how I look in every single one of them!!!

...it's not his fault I can't drink when they do at meals and this was my choice to do surgery, but I so wish he'd be a slight bit more conscious of how it's different for me. I tried talking to him, and of course he was like how is this his fault....

Yup. It's tough. I fight this battle with myself all the time. It's no one's "fault" but my own. I can eat or I can drink but I cannot to both. That makes events like Water parks, theme parks, mud runs, fitness camps, etc. difficult and frustrating.

I went to a four day martial arts camp and we had about an hour for meals. We had little time for hydrating during camp and it was one of the most difficult things I have had to do post op.

I have finally learned that I will always have a Water bottle with me and drink at every possible moment or suffer the consequences silently. It's my problem 100% and when I am not prepared, it's no one's "fault" but my own.

Doesn't make it easier, though.

Exactly! I'll be prepared next time, no doubt!

Thanks for the input everyone. This vacation was a stretch financially, so I'm trying to pinch pennies. I don't want to buy another Water bottle at this point. Luckily I found a gas station that has $.79 fountain drinks, and they habe a crystal light dispenser too. The cup is Styrofoam so I've kept it to add more ice/water to wherever I can find it.

Stress isn't good for your weightloss. I don't know what being married is like so I can't really comment on the husband part, but you have to just work out a solution for your Water on your own. No one who hasn't has surgery is going to understand. Before surgery if I was short on water at the end of the day I would just chug a 2 liter of water. I can't do that anymore and its hard to get all my water. I used to drink 80-120oz a day I struggle to get in 64 now.

Stress isn't good for anything! ????

So I'm on vacation with the family. Overall I've been doing really good, still aiming for for Protein first, and with all the walking I'm getting well over 10k steps a day.

The problem? Drinking!! (not alcohol..) So every meal we eat out, but of course I can't drink at the meal. I do ask for Water to go where I can, but it's also 100+ degrees here daily, so I drink it fairly fast before it gets warm. (I was dumb and left my hyroflask home, never again!) So I'm well below what I need in Water, and buying a bottle each time is too costly $3 for 16oz adds up fast! Never mind my hubby is always walking 10 steps ahead of me and never hears me when I say I need to stop to get a drink. And not having a drink available has me way off for Vitamin consumption this week.

I really tried to cope on my own, it's not his fault I can't drink when they do at meals and this was my choice to do surgery, but I so wish he'd be a slight bit more conscious of how it's different for me. I tried talking to him, and of course he was like how is this his fault. Bring hot and thirsty doesn't make for level headed discussions.

So a valuable lesson learned for me this trip, eating wasn't nearly the issue I thought it would be... Drinking is!! I will forever bring my hydroflask and some crystal light packets to make sure I have some portable hydration options.

So I'm over 3 months post op and I'm wondering if my hunger is starting to return. I'm wondering because, with all the dang gurgling, I can't tell if this is hunger's "new sound" after surgery or if it's just general gurgling that comes with bypass. IE- this morning after my run I noticed it.

I drank some Water, and it calmed a bit, but it was also time to eat Breakfast. Can't tell if it's coincidence or hunger??

So was you hunger sound the 'same' once it returned, or did it take on a sound/feel??

Glad it's going well. Keep at it!

That's awesome! Congrats.

I had second thoughts five years ago when i first sought out surgery. I Was unhappy with my weight, but didn't feel strong enough that I needed such a drastic, permanent change. In reality... I just wasn't ready and I'm glad I backed out then. Other factors (wasn't a fan of the surgeon at the time) helped, but after now having done surgery, I knew I wouldn't have be ready for these changes then.

I had bypass in April. Regarding down the road complications...i took a long hard look at family history, knock on wood-- we're a fairly healthy bunch. No one in my family relies in nsaids, sure it may change for me but at least I know it's unlikely. Re nutritional deficiencies due to malabsorption... If I do my part and take my supplements and follow up with blood work as prescribed it shoulnt be an issue. And so far I don't dump, it could change but the'fear' of the unpleasant side effects keeps me on track. Just think of all the complications remaining overweight/obese can add in your life. (Diabetes runs rampant in my family...i wanted to avoid it at all costs)

Your situation is a bit different since you have to wrap your head around a whole new surgery. Second thoughts are normal though... Only do what you are ready for. Maybe just follow the supervised diet for a few months and make a decision at the end of it??

Good luck!

Ugh sorry, didn't realize this was the men only board.

I used to share that love of Oikos vanilla greek yogurt. But I always need to pair yogurt with a carb, since i never was a fan of yogurt. I decided to give up yogurt to let go of the carb need to tolerate it. But I've digress...

My must haves are:

Eggs/egg beaters

cheese sticks (Colby-Jack)/cheese

Cashews

Peppers, Tomato cucumber, spinach/lettuce

tuna

Canned peaches

lunch meat

meats (chicken, steak/today, pork)

Water/diet snapple

This thread always fascinated me. I often wonder if people are in the wrong size (like it's often stated so many women are in the wrong size bra). I think it's a little subjective too... Some may go for a tighter fit, others may opt for the comfort of a looser fit

I don't wear jeans in the summer, but my jeans and dress pants generally run the same, so my stats ate:

Height 5'6"

Weight 278

Pants size 20, quickly creeping towards an 18.

My nutritionist smokes... It's hard to follow advice of someone doing something so incredibly harmful to themselves.

But I like that she is kind of causal about things...IE doesn't preach carbs are sinful. She uses a realistic, practical, liveable approach-- so outside of the smoking-- I'm good with her.

Thank you Kate! I received your virtual hug and return it in abundance. And ditto, you are one of the nicest, funniest people on here. Thank you for your words of support, they mean a lot!

Waiting for the doctor to get my first update. I'm still astounded that I haven't eaten anything since Monday, and that was Clear liquids only, nothing after midnight, and yet I'm not hungry or thirsty. All these things I expected but stiff astounding when it's you.

How are you doing at home now?

Good Luck!!

You are going to do great! Don't forget to walk walk walk, sip sip sip!

Can't wait to hear back from you when you feel up to it!

glad to know it's going well for you!!hope your home soon!

I'm 38 and lose 2# a week on average, but haven't got any stalls yet (@ 3 months)

Amen, and hallelujah! Some days my mind says I'm gonna eat XY and Z... My body stops me at X though.

I've was expecting losses of 7-10 pounds a week for the first month post op.... My nurse practitioner promised the pounds would "melt away" in the early weeks.

Not so for me!! My two big losses in the first post op month was 8# & 6#. 2-3#'s a week has been what my body has been sticking to ever since. I'll say I was bitter that the melting promise didn't happen... But it's been consistent losses and no stalls (knock on wood)!

My surgery was 4/28.

HW 335

SW 315

Weight as of last week 280.2