I've posted a few rants about my husband since WLS.
Did my marriage change, no. My marriage is the same, my husband is the same. He rarely ever gives compliments, and almost never speaks to or acknowledges my weight loss so far. Though it bugs me, he has been the same person. It would be nice to have a cheerleader in him... But it's just not him.
Have I changed, in small ways. I put my exercise as a priority, so that affects things to as small degree. I'm less motivated to cook a family meal since its rare all of us can/are willing to eat the same thing. I'm more eager for him to work in his weight cause I know how much better he'd feel, but I'm careful to not badger him as he'd never once badgered me.
I know I've changed the dynamic of our relationship, he was the thin one when we met. I was the obese one, but now weigh less then when wet met. I think he always expected to lose the weight first. I wish there were more 'active' together times with us, but we still have fun the ways we're used to.
We Celebrate 15 years married next Monday. We're staying home, In bed for the day; can't think of a better way to spend our anniversary. :-)