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I just got my date today March 25 !!!!

*First is my MAJOR scale victory, I am 100lbs down as of Sunday. Hw 290, Sw 282, Cw 190 from a size 20/22 to a size 8/10. Shoe from size 9W to an 8 regular.
*I no longer snore at all, which is big for me since it recently started and was so loud and disruptive to both my family and I. Now, nothing at all, they say im so silent they wonder if im breathing. I sleep so much better and more comfortably.
*Also, the late night cravings have gone away and I never wake up at night anymore so no more late night snacking.
*I no longer have pain from my Fibromyalgia and have stopped my medications completely!!!! I hate meds!!
******Sad to say that I have had serious negative responses to "MY LIFE" decision, here are some of the daggers in my heart...
-I've had family tell me, I didn't need the surgery, I was pretty enough even though I was "BIG"! As if I am so vein that I would do something so serious to my body just to look good...smh
-I was told, "I don't like this on u, it's not YOU, you're not meant to be this small"...SMH
Then, "I could never make myself sick every day just to look good". WAH? Who's that, I'm not sick at all...uneducated speakers make me wanna vomit if that's what u mean...UGH.
-another family member, "don't lose no more, we have enough crackheads out here, wouldn't want people to get the wrong idea". WTF???
THEN THE ABSOLUTE WORST OF ALL.....
-My husband threw me a big party when I hit my first goal of 200lbs. I invited all my favorite girls to a Glam Session to do makeovers and a photo shoot (my first pics public photos other than on BP) as a girls night but also as a celebration of my successes since at that time, I had also gotten a raise at work (Which is also suspect), a new luxury apt and a new car. I struggled over 2 years to gain these things from a 1 bedroom box apartment and no car to the new life that my hard work paid for. Do you know one friend was heard saying, "Why she gotta show off, now she think she something special because she lost weight, who's gonna shrink her head?" This hurt me the most because my husband offered me anything I wanted to Celebrate and all I asked is that he treat me and my girls, 17 of us to catered food from Carrabbas (My Fav), dj for the room, make up sessions with Mary Kay, we had a pure romance presentation, a man that was selling jewelry to enhance our look and a photographer to document the whole evening and take personal photo shoots as well, all this at no cost to them and this man made that happen just to celebrate me and my accomplishments and I was extremely thankful beyond belief but also so hurt by not only the person making the comment but the 4 that entertained her, 2 by saying, "that's alright, when she fall, she gonna fall hard" "she got a new 2014 car but just asked me for $60 bucks just last week, she's a phony" -this was when I lost my bank card and had to wait for another and she was with me so I asked her instead of calling my husband. Lesson learned!
Basically I learned that people are not always who you think they are. Thank God I did what I did for me and not to impress anyone or seeking anyone's approval. I am happy with my decision and since I've noticed that ppl seem to be down for you as long as you stay down in life...on their level perhaps but the minute you move up, now your not good enough for them. I have since been uninvited to 4 events and the excuse was, " Oh I thought You'd be busy or traveling" REALLY? I was suppose to be celebrating but I literally cried for 3 days. Beyond the gains (materials) and the losses(weight), I thought I had support. I learned an ugly lesson that day and here's some I wish to pass on...
Make your moves for YOU!, Seek only approval from YOU! Make sure you have a true support system. Then my daughter sent me a comment picture that reads,"Don't dim your light simply because it's shining in their eyes" That's for you too. Be positive and don't let the haters tear you down.
I don't have a positive relationship with my family, been on my own since 16, so these women have always been around but now that I can't even share my life losses or gains with them...my husband is taking me away from it all, no more pain, no more tears, no more haters, we are moving to California, his home town and I will make new friends and hope and pray to share a good life together. He even says we will renew our vows so I can get a new dress vs the size 26 I had to wear in Jamaica. After 18 years, we will renew our vows in Santa Monica!!! Haven't told any of them yet but I bet they act like they care... but they probably don't and who cares, I'm over it!! It will be a last minute goodbye and an AWESOME 2015!!!!

I am happy and I will continue to be, I could have uplifted others but I will reach out to the real ones and help bring them up and we can pray together for those too busy hating on others to ever come up in life!! Good riddance to em'...
Love you guys, needed to get that out!! Thanks, whew!

I ate cream of every kind of Soup I could find in my full liquid stage. I diluted it with Water or milk, strained out the chunks and added Unjury unflavored Protein Powder. My big thing was I never drank/ate anything that didn't have Protein in it. Even made popsicles out of Protein Shakes. After I hit 60g each day I would add in some herbal Decaf tea or juice or Vitamin water if needed to make sure I hit 64oz fluids.

I had surgery a few days ago. I've been pretty open about it, as I am with most things in my life. I hate to be the subject of gossip, especially at work, but do feel better if it is a least somewhat factual. I think everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I only have to listen to those opinions of those that really care about me, others get to express what they want, but I don't have to take it in. Gotta do what is right for me and my health.... I think most people who have expressed an opinion to me are doing it because they care, ok some are jerks, but most just seem worried for me. I thank them for their thoughts and concerns and then go about my business. No one has so far said anything mean or cruel. That day may come, but those people don't matter to me.

my fav one is... "your husband must be all over you".... my answer now is "Why because he was repulsed by me before?" and just stand there & wait for them to correct their statment. I dont know why this one comment bugs me.

What does NSV mean
~Leticia **HW: 259**PreOp: 216**SURG: 3/21/13 **Discharged @: 221**14 days post op. CW: 203.8 lbs<br />---THE WORSE PLATEAU EVER ---

So many... I use a normal towel after I shower instead of a beach towel. I use a normal public bathroom stall instead of the handicap stall. I cross my legs all the time. I don't sweat as much. I am never out of breath. I can run up the stairs at my house instead of hanging on the banister all the way up. I'm in single digit clothing. I don't dread being in a picture... In fact I'm front and center now. So many more.... I smile all the time now!!!

Thank you so much !

I was 57 when I had WLS and definitely went with the VSG. I didn't want to deal with dietary supplements for the rest of my life which is what happens with Bypass. The sleeve leaves an intact digestive system so malabsorption isn't an issue. I take two OTC Multivitamins, two OTC B12 and one OTC Biotin per day. No major expense (I can get them at Walmart).

I am only two weeks out, but I would say that if eating food is a priority, this surgery may not be for you. Weigh all costs and consider all avenues because you cannot get your stomach back. This is a lifetime decision.

I WISH my sleeve was sensitive. Lol. I must have rock gut. I have had no problems with anything. And I am six months post op.

Congrats you look great ! .. can't wait to start my journey

I understand what you mean, and I know it can be frustrating. When I was about 40 lbs lighter, I considered wls, but so many people kept saying "you're not big enough for that" or "that's too extreme for someone your size", and eventually I decided not to pursue it. Fast forward 4 years and I've lost and gained and lost and gained more, and now I'm 45lbs heavier wishing I'd followed my own path and gotten this done years ago. NO ONE has to walk in your shoes. It would be easy for me at 245lbs to say "I wouldn't have surgery if I was 200lbs", but I'm not the one who has to live your life. Don't let people who don't have to live your struggle tell you how to get through it. Best of luck to you.
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I have told my close family members, boyfriend, boss, one Co worker, and 2 best girl friends. I have never felt more support in my life. I'm truly greatful that everyone thinks this is such a great decision and are willing to support me .
I don't want to tell everybody bc frankly it's not their business and I don't want to hear any negative comments . But once the surgery is over , if a friend does ask I will be honest . Most of my friends are over weight , but scared of the thought of having surgery. But i think if they know I went through it , and see how well I'm doing I can maybe help them along their journey .
I'm a social worker so i'm always trying to find a way to help others. I just want my journey to be positive along the way with no negative energy.

I have told my close family members, boyfriend, boss, one Co worker, and 2 best girl friends. I have never felt more support in my life. I'm truly greatful that everyone thinks this is such a great decision and are willing to support me .
I don't want to tell everybody bc frankly it's not their business and I don't want to hear any negative comments . But once the surgery is over , if a friend does ask I will be honest . Most of my friends are over weight , but scared of the thought of having surgery. But i think if they know I went through it , and see how well I'm doing I can maybe help them along their journey .
I'm a social worker so i'm always trying to find a way to help others. I just want my journey to be positive along the way with no negative energy.