gal friday

I don't eat pancakes at breakfast, they are so carb heavy and I'm too lazy to cook in the morning. For the first time in my life, I regularly skip breakfast. I'm not sure if that is healthy or not. I have Cereal for breakfast maybe once a week, since the surgery I have been (finally) gifted with the ability to do carbs in moderation!. Never sugary, I choose cereals with Protein in them (but not 'protein' cereals because they have such huge amounts of sugar in them) and I use almond milk to cut down on calories and carbs. I'm honestly more likely to have cereal as a snack. When I do eat breakfast, it's usually yogurt. I gave up bagels and english muffins long ago. DAE regularly skip breakfast? I have MS and narcolepsy, and I take a crapton of pills, so usually a few minutes of extra sleep beats out breakfast. I am curious if this could be related to the slowing of my weight loss.

Watching obese people is no different than seeing shows on little people, people with rare diseases, people who practice polygamy, people who have 19 kids. It's normal to be curious about the lives of other people around us, especially if they are taking on - and beating - difficult challenges. Considering how high the rate of obesity in our country is, I'm not surprised this show is popular - people want to see how those with extreme obesity change their lives, so maybe they can change their own.

She has a son my son's age. It's hard for me to empathize with her because of how negatively her behavior impacts him and his life. There are plenty of people who get their sh*t together on that show - they have setbacks, but I empathize because we've all been there, we're all trying but we're not perfect.

No question. I'll have to ask my friend if she had to pay for her surgery (I think she did), but his practice must have exploded since the beginning of this show. I worry he doesn't do enough psych evals with each patient, but they don't show that part so I can only guess.

There is a lot of fat people hate out there. This episode does not help. My friend was featured on the show - the very first episode - and the response from the general public was so overwhelmingly positive that she has been on talk shows, news programs, and is even a public speaker. I think the show can go either way as far as sensationalism. But I'm glad to hear that you have not encountered people who shame fat people and WLS patients. I don't take it personally, but hearing people talk that way is awkward.

Yeah that's the one. I saw that she had to go to Texas to get the surgery. There are 5 top notch bariatric surgery programs (including my hospital) within 30 minutes of her home, more than twice as many if you include Metro DC. I know why they wouldn't take her at my hospital - they don't typically do surgeries for people that obese (her BMI was 82.7, mine was 36.1), but some of the other hospitals DO perform surgery on people with weights that high. I wonder why she didn't go to them.

Of course she doesn't actually reflect on US, we're trying and succeeding. I just meant that uneducated people who fat shame and fat hate see her and think all WLS patients are just like that. We don't need any stereotyping than we already get. I'm really just mad because she has failed her son. I lost a son, he was stillborn, he died in labor, and I have a son who had a rocky NICU stay, and she just takes for granted the gift god gave her. I work my ass off to lose weight so I can be a better mom and model healthy eating behaviors, and she's a miserable excuse for a mom. Her son deserves better.

A woman on My 600lb Life who got sleeve surgery and was completely noncompliant. She's a total train wreck and makes all of us look bad. It's sickening.

I have a standing prescription for promethazine for rough days like this. I am 5 months out, and I have accepted that I'll always have spells of nausea, honestly I was a pukey person to begin with. Now with the promethazine (I'm allergic to zofran) I take one pill when the spell starts so I don't spend the whole day nauseous. I get on with my day and can eat and drink like normal.

I thought it might be fun to compare our meal plans for the week. Here's mine: Monday: Chili. I made a batch on Saturday. I am not the most confident cook, but I am really good at chili. I have actually gone back to (low fat) beef chili instead of turkey/chicken, because my Iron levels are low. (reduced fat cheese and bell peppers on the side) Tuesday: Tortellini salad. This is so fast and easy to make (bell peppers and broccoli are the veggie and they are in the salad. I roast the peppers and leave the broccoli raw) Wednesday: Spaghetti bolognese. Again, we are using beef (95/5) because of my iron levels, and I use Dreamfields Pasta to dramatically cut down on the carbs. (bell peppers on the side again, my 5 year old eats them like they are candy). Thursday: Lemon pepper shrimp with quinoa and broccoli. Friday: dinner out, I have no idea where yet. What about you guys?

What are chicken tips? And steak tips, I don't know what those are either. And blacktee92675 - now I'm craving sushi! I know what I am getting for lunch!

How bizarre of you to put words in my mouth. And you were a therapist? You have a great day, too. Either you can't keep track of who you are disagreeing with, or there are two therapists in this thread, because I'm the former therapist. But if there are two of us, hello therapist buddy! Earlier you said 'sorry for your loss', again I think there is some confusion - I have MS, but I'm not dying. I'm not professionally frustrated either - I'm a stay at home mom now, and I find that to be really fulfilling. I don't need internet forums for surrogacy for my former profession, because while I mention it when it's relevant, it's not how I define who I am. And I'm not here for drama either - I get enough of that with the MS. I came here because I was raised to know that you don't kick someone when they are down. Depression, frustration, and loss of willpower are not weaknesses, they are normal human responses to overwhelming stress and change. So when I see someone getting kicked when they are down, someone struggling to keep their head above Water being deliberately shoved back under the surface, I step in to provide defense and support. It's instinctual, a fundamental part of who I am, its been automatic my whole life. In a supposedly supportive environment, I don't know how not to do it. I responded flippantly only because it seemed that that's how the OP viewed the situation, based on their post. It was not some drama heightening technique, it just seemed to be the way the OP wanted discourse. I don't want pandering in this group, it does no one any good, but neither do I want people being vicious simply because being anonymous strips away consequences. I see it over and over and over on the internet, and while that is how it is some places, places of 'support' are not it, unless they are defined that way from the start - which this group isn't. "If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen." Yes, duh. But what if the kitchen had a big sign that said "when you are frustrated and exhausted and you just can't bear it anymore, come on in, you'll find support here." Be honest - if we were all physically in a room, and one of us was crying because of the stress and the overwhelming change in her life - would you tell her to leave, that she was too weak to be a part of the group? I'm just so done. It's so stupid, the more I explain myself, the less you'll listen. Really, I only still respond because there may be someone quietly reading who needs the support, who needs to know that someone empathizes with them and why they're here. Since this got moved off the main board, I probably don't have to worry about that anymore.

I didn't even realize there was a rant and raves section. Good call.

We all have bad days. I agree with BLERDgirl, that best thing you can do for yourself is to clean house and make sure that there is nothing laying around that can tempt you. I didn't have a pre-op diet, and I'm not much for candy and pizza (and I hate peanut butter, candy or not!), but carbonation is forbidden post-op, and I am addicted to seltzer water and diet sodas. So, I don't buy them anymore, and I gave away my sodastream so I wouldn't be tempted to make seltzer water. Not having carbonated beverages readily available makes it so much harder to cheat.

For everybody else, here is a more readable version of the internet trolling case study I posted above, I know that scientific papers can be kind of dry. Its an interesting look at individuals who like to troll, or just like to create drama/stir up trouble. Generally speaking, it is the anonymity of the internet that drives people to behave this way. Intellectual honestly has nothing to do with anything. That term doesn't apply to the situation, because no one is accusing people of being bullies/trolls/rude/whatever because of an intellectual disagreement. We are addressing someone's online behavior, not an intellectual opinion. Now I don't see any trolls in this thread, but I am seeing people who like to stir up trouble, who feed off of the drama. If you create drama wherever you go, that says a lot more about you than it does about the posters where you go. Being rude and confrontational is not something to be proud of. It's one thing to post your opinion in the original thread, but starting an entirely new thread, with such a dramatic title, is just a desperate plea for attention. Are you substitution confrontation on the internet for something else in your life? I'm not going to go ad hominum and guess what it is that might be lacking, but just suggest that you look at why you feed off drama. https://www.techdirt.com/articles/20140217/05122426247/psychologists-internet-trolls-are-narcissistic-psychopathic-sadistic.shtml Let me be clear. Nobody here is a troll. But I see some people who are willing to be deliberately hurtful if it gets them confrontation and attention. There is overlap between trolls and people who hurt others in pursuit of drama. Causing trouble wherever you go is not something to be proud of, but if it is, there are places on the internet where you'll fit right in. Cruelty is easy, compassion and empathy are hard. I bet the same people who are slamming people with depression as being thin-skinned and weak would struggle on the fat people shaming boards of the internet. There are people for whom destroying the psyches of other people is a life's calling. This place is supposed to be a haven for people like us. If you're so proud of being divisive, if you think it's sink or swim and everyone who has trouble transitioning shouldn't be here, I might as well link this thread over at reddit and 4chan so you can see what you look like to the rest of us.

Everyone needs to see my friend Melissa! She is season 1, episode 1, and she will be airing again this week. She'll totally and completely uplift and inspire you!

I have 4 tattoos, none of which were impacted by my sleeve. I have two on my lower back, one on the top of my foot, and one on the inside of my right leg, just above my ankle. The ones at the bottom of my back were most at risk I suppose (they are reaaallly low) and they look just the same.

https://www.academia.edu/6016545/Trolls_just_want_to_have_fun

Yes, that looks consistent with surgery where there was large blood loss, but it wouldn't hurt to call your doctor.

I'm not a doctor, but I would hold off, at least on the wild rides. Some of those rides keep you in several Gs for up to a minute, even more, and I don't know that newly healed sleeves are designed to handle that kind of physical force. My doctor didn't want me lifting anything more than 15lbs for a month. But if there are calmer rides, you could still come along.

Quoting myself to address your ad hominum tactic, it's clear you missed it above even though I basically laid it out in a bullet point. This isn't reddit. This isn't yahoo answers. This isn't 4chan. So I'm going to stick with compassion. You want snark, you want rudeness, you'll have to find that from me on a different corner of the internet. On support forums I provide support. The harshness I gave you after your OP was deliberate, and was as harsh as I'll get on here (except maybe when we are talking about Penny). You can provide whatever level of discourse you like, just don't fool yourself when you do it. Text or in person, mean is mean. If that's what you think people need, have at it. My posts will stand to let them know that support is out there. Feel free to reply, but I'm done, repeating myself isn't going to change your mind, and vice versa.

1. This is exactly the place for someone who is experiencing temporary difficulties coping - I don't think it has anything to do with being thin skinned. It's experiencing a major life change, and a bariatric support board is exactly where they should be able to find help. I'm not saying that everyone should be uncritical all the time, that is just pandering and is not helpful. I'm saying that there is no need to be cruel. 2. I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis the very day I started grad school. After 8 years, my symptoms were too severe to continue working. It would have been unfair to my patients to let my disability interfere with their care. I am still qualified as a therapist, I just voluntarily left the field because I was struggling under the weight of my MS symptoms.

My good friend Melissa was featured on My 600 Pound Life. She is one of the show's biggest success stories, and is now a public speaker. The show is definitely NOT scripted!

You are totally normal. First off, humans aren't designed to cope perfectly with major life changes like bariatric surgery. We experience a period of adjustment, and sometimes we need extra support. (I already have anxiety, but needed a temporary increase in my anti-anxiety meds after the surgery). In addition, emotions are biochemical responses in the brain, and sleeve surgery is a HUGE biological change for the body, and that can throw body systems completely out of whack. It can be severe nausea, major constipation (I got that), fatigue, and yes, even altered emotional responses. We need to learn good coping skills and master them fast, and some of us just need a little outside support. What you are going through is totally normal! I should know - I was a therapist, and I am still a patient too!

At the okay from my NUT, I sometimes eat bad foods. Occasionally I take my 5 year old to McDonalds as an after school treat, and according to my NUT, feeling deprived is a quick way to falling off the bandwagon. So what do I do? I lifehack it. I get the 4 piece chicken nugget kids meal. I get the apple slices as my first side, and tell them to give me a Cutie (a mandarin orange) instead of french fries. I get a light lemonade (just 5 calories and I swear it tastes the same is regular). I don't get any sauce for the nuggets, and I only eat two, even if I have room for all 4. Fortunately, I have a growing 5 year old boy, and he happily takes the extra nuggets off of my hands! I once had a Fresco menu taco at Taco Bell too! That's right, I just admitted to eating junk food. I'm not ashamed. By limiting quantity, making healthy substitutions, and not eating junk food every day, I keep myself from feeling totally deprived, which makes it that much easier to stick with my healthy diet the other 98% of the time.