chunckylady

I feel like my band to sleeve revision is giving me a 2nd chance. I had the band in 2008 and did really well the first year to 18 months until I got a fill that was too tight. From there I went downhill, eating slider foods and my bad habits all came back to where I gained almost all my weight back. I'm 4 weeks out and I'm back to the beginning eating healthy and small portions I know that I'm going to have to work hard but I feel like this gave me a second chance

I was told that once a band is removed, you will be RAVENOUS! So may be VERY difficult to lose on your own.
They should treat the H. Pylori, prior to surgery, as that can greatly affect healing. They treated mine, then re-tested to make sure.
I LOVE my sleeve and highly recommend it. As long as you follow your doc/NUT guidelines, it is a wonderful tool.
I went from 275-ish (HW), 230 (SW) to 115 and have maintained for over 2 years.

I had a "secret lap band" in 2008 and it was REALLY hard not telling people. only my parents and husband knew of the surgery. The fact that everybody knows me for my hefty eating habits made me self conscious during holidays and dinners with friends and family. This made me try to be discrete and I would eat more than I should have with did not help me in the long run. My band slipped during my last pregnancy (less than 1 year post-op) and I've had reflux issues and weight gain. Now I weigh more than I did at 9 months pregnant and I'm preparing for a revision surgery to get the sleeve after the band comes out. I don't want to hide this surgery, I don't want to come up with excuses for not eating, not being hungry and actually even eating more than I should. Who cares what people say, EVEN IF IT YOUR MOTHER, we are adults and this is a medical decision for our health.

I've only told husband and two kids, who basically needed to know because they live with me. I haven't told my parents, haven't outright told my co-workers, my brother, etc.
My parents and brother would probably be really supportive, but I didn't want to because I felt this was my own thing and none of their business (we're a dysfunctional family, very long story). My mom has actually been asking me to get a surgery like this for some time and my brother's wife confessed to me she will be getting this surgery. So I know I'm in good company, even if they don't have a clue what I'm doing.
I forbade my husband from telling his family, and will have to Force choke him if he does :-P His father, in particular, is sexist and judgmental, and I absolutely don't feel like fielding his questions/ignorant insinuations as to Why were you so lazy and didn't just diet and exercise? and I don't want my tax dollars to pay for your $XXX procedure, damn Obamacare blah blah blah

You can't control how anyone reacts.... I've only told my parents ( my mom is from NYC, so she probably told the while neighborhood, I truly don't care)my husband and kids... To me it's not a secret, but a personal choice for me to be healthier.... Are you ok hiding in a hotel room after surgery? You may want to sit down and TELL not ask, her what you've chosen to do in order for you to be healthier...don't go seeking her approval, you may not get it, that's her issue.... But don't hide! This is the beginning of your next chapter!!!! ❤️

I'm in a similar circumstance. My mom is super opinionated and sorta cynical. Lol. Family is important, but they have thier own views and will not always agree with our decisions. And its ok. Everyone including us has the right to go for what we want! As long as you know your doing it for the right reasons. I would tell her. Let her know that it's important to you and how much it would mean to have her support you especially during recovery. You shouldn't have to go to a hotel. God forbid that something went wrong in surgery, your mother wouldn't be able to figive herself of not knowing and not having the choice to be supportive because she was in the dark. Good luck! you can do it!