Slimsoon1988

My grandma called me today and told me last night I sounded sad and it made her upset the whole night. She asked me to try to sound happy when I talk to her because it makes her sad and worried.. That solidified my decision in not telling her! I feel better about my decision now.

The guilt of not telling my grandma is really getting to me. My mom passed away 2 years ago and we are basically all the family we got. My grandma has health issues of her own and I do not want to burden her with this surgery. My surgery is next week Wednesday, we talk every other day and as my surgery gets closer the guilt grows. We just talked on the phone and she sensed something was wrong, she kept asking what's the problem, and of course I said oh nothing. I really don't want to tell her because I know she wouldn't agree with it and will worry herself sick over me. I just had a full meltdown. I just don't want anything to happen to me in surgery. Ugh

The guilt of not telling my grandma is really getting to me. My mom passed away 2 years ago and we are basically all the family we got. My grandma has health issues of her own and I do not want to burden her with this surgery. My surgery is next week Wednesday, we talk every other day and as my surgery gets closer the guilt grows. We just talked on the phone and she sensed something was wrong, she kept asking what's the problem, and of course I said oh nothing. I really don't want to tell her because I know she wouldn't agree with it and will worry herself sick over me. I just had a full meltdown. I just don't want anything to happen to me in surgery. Ugh

Yes I hope to have an uncomplicated surgery, that would help.. Have you eaten around your dad yet? Or has he seen you and commented on your weight loss?

Welcome! From my research, I found that results vary. There is a Success Story Discussion page on this app. There you can read different stories and see pictures of folks who have gone through this; I find it to be very helpful. Know that this surgery is not a cure but just a tool. If you follow your surgeons orders and stick with Protein first you'll lose.

A month ago, I did a strict,unnecessary, pre-op diet to qualify for surgery. Once I got my surgery date of 2/25, I've eased off the strict diet and have managed to gain 7 pounds. Today I'm actually starting the real 2 week preop diet and it is MUCH harder the second time around. It's noon Im already sick from not eating. I def should not have gone off the strict diet I was on. My next weighin is 7 days from now. There is no room for cheating or slacking. My head hurts! How did I ever do this the first time?!? And why is this time so much harder?!? (Sorry needed to vent).

I'm not familiar with McDonald's smoothies but I just did a quick search on it. It only has 3g of Protein but has 47g of carb. So I'm going to say no. And if you are adding sugar, creme, and flavor to that ice coffee, I would also say no to that as well. The preop diet is high protein low carbs. So if you are eating/drinking stuff that is high and sugar and carbs then it is not allowed on the preop diet.

True story! I'm on day 2, the struggle is real.

I will try the vitamin water tonight. I'm on day 1

A month ago, I did a strict,unnecessary, pre-op diet to qualify for surgery. Once I got my surgery date of 2/25, I've eased off the strict diet and have managed to gain 7 pounds. Today I'm actually starting the real 2 week preop diet and it is MUCH harder the second time around. It's noon Im already sick from not eating. I def should not have gone off the strict diet I was on. My next weighin is 7 days from now. There is no room for cheating or slacking. My head hurts! How did I ever do this the first time?!? And why is this time so much harder?!? (Sorry needed to vent).

Yeah I've been getting the protein. I just think my body is in shock. I remember the third day being better.. My doctor's office doesn't have a preop diet I am just doing this myself so I lose as much weight before the surgery as possible.

A month ago, I did a strict,unnecessary, pre-op diet to qualify for surgery. Once I got my surgery date of 2/25, I've eased off the strict diet and have managed to gain 7 pounds. Today I'm actually starting the real 2 week preop diet and it is MUCH harder the second time around. It's noon Im already sick from not eating. I def should not have gone off the strict diet I was on. My next weighin is 7 days from now. There is no room for cheating or slacking. My head hurts! How did I ever do this the first time?!? And why is this time so much harder?!? (Sorry needed to vent).

A month ago, I did a strict,unnecessary, pre-op diet to qualify for surgery. Once I got my surgery date of 2/25, I've eased off the strict diet and have managed to gain 7 pounds. Today I'm actually starting the real 2 week preop diet and it is MUCH harder the second time around. It's noon Im already sick from not eating. I def should not have gone off the strict diet I was on. My next weighin is 7 days from now. There is no room for cheating or slacking. My head hurts! How did I ever do this the first time?!? And why is this time so much harder?!? (Sorry needed to vent).

How can I get info on when this group meets? I would like to attend a meeting one day!

Hello all. Just moved to Albany will be sleeved in / weeks. How can I get more info on the group?

2/25 here. Congrats!

If you are mentally ready then I say go for it. Due to my weight I have isolated myself, stopped dating, stopped accepting invitations to go out. Life is passing me by as I sit in my empty room eating away. I want a new life! I want to be happy! I want to be free of this weight! I too have fears but the prospects of living a longer/happier life out weighs my fears.

This is me exactly. I worked so hard to get down to the mandatory weight for insurance approval. Three weeks ago I got approved and a date for Feb 25th, which was a month and a half away. Since then I have completely lost my mind. Eating like I will never see food again. It also doesn't help that my hospital doesn't have a pre op diet. So with surgery in 2 and a half weeks I am determined to get back on track. I can't go back, I want to move forward. Today I've committed to get back on track. I'm going on a pre-op diet even though it is not required. If we don't change now we are only going to struggle more after surgery.

So great! I want to be less invisible and open myself up to love. I'm getting sleeved on the 25th and im ready to begin a happier life.

I'm the 25th too!!!

Mob wives and the Walking Dead!

My mom passed away a year and a half ago. I currently consider my grandma my only family member. I don't have a relationship with anyone else. My grandma is still distraught over my mom's passing and I fear if I told her that I was getting surgery late next month she would absolutely lose it. Although I've decided not to tell her I feel absolutely horrible about it. We talk on the phone every other day and each time I feel horrible that I'm withholding this big surgery. Although she hasn't cooked for me in months I dread the day that I'm post op and she invites me to dinner, which I'll find a way to lie out of. Idk what anyone thinks but I had to vent because I'm really struggling with this.

I think because I'm a guy she sees nothing wrong with a big man. She just won't get why this is a medical necessity. Although I currently do not have high blood pressure, heart diseases or diabetes, they all run in the family. I'm doing this surgery to take control of my life and change my family pattern.. I'm also 26 years old so I can def see her telling me to just stop eating and run more. Unfortunately, I can't see her understanding or really wanting to understand this surgery. If I told my grandma that I will be having surgery in 30 days she will def make it the toughest 30 days of my life. And going into surgery I want to be surrounded with nothing but positivity. Maybe after I lose the weight and looking healthy/good I may finally work up the strength to tell her.

I would say yes if she still wasn't dealing with my mom's death. She has become more overly protective of me since then. There is no way I can see her supporting them putting me to sleep and cutting out a part of my stomach. I think I just have the live with the lie unfortunately

No. I think she would be deeply offended that I hid something like this from her. She would think I should have consulted with her about this . I still remember when I told her I was going to see a nutritionist a month ago and she demanded that if they offer me diet pills I shouldn't take it because people die from diet pills, etc.. She would completely lose her mind if I said the word surgery.