Laydee_G

4 pounds lost on today's weigh-in. 255 now. Happy...

It will do but don't be afraid to ask for pain relief. Xx

Aah, yes you are going to feel a little sore and uncomfortable but the worst part is over. Your life has begun anew and so CONGRATULATIONS!!! Try to be mobile: just a little escorted shuffle to the toilet is a good start. It really helps with the healing but take things at your own pace, there is no rush. All the very best in your recovery and journey to the new you!!

Hi Laura, I didn't realise you're at pre-op but the principles remain the same! You also have time for yourself to prepare emotionally too. Best of luck and keep posting! Xxxx

Yes you do!!!!

First of all really well done and welcome to the club!! Head hunger can be hard to deal with at first but remember it's your stomach that's been sleeved, not your head. Twelve days is a long time for the head hunger to kick in; I was two days post op and longing for a full English Breakfast and from my hospital bed I was watching every food program the TV had to offer! How mad was that????!!!!! First thing I did was ban myself from watching food programs. The second was to get here, read posts and get reassurance that I was ok. You have reached out in the same way and this is one of the key aspects to the emotional healing that also has to take place with being sleeved. You can't do the old things that got you to being sleeved in the first place. That life is over. Your head knows it and I think there are feelings of loss for the old life we had. Turning to food was easy - even if the consequences were hard to bear but trust me, the benefits of coaxing the head and emotions to work with the sleeve are fantastic!!! But it requires work: you know yourself best and listen to what you need and give it to yourself (trust me, it's not food!). Talk it out with a trusted friend or counsellor, use this website and as you heal physically get into walking and exercise. These help keep the head distracted and de-stressed. Good luck - and keep updating xx

Well done on your achievement!!! It takes longer for the head to catch up to where the body's at: after all, it's your stomach that's been sleeved, not your head! However, this is the time to start anew and change old and unhealthy patterns of behaviour because the old ways feed stress and depression too. Right now I want to eat a tuna melt: why? Just because it's late, I ate very little today, I'm excited but also stressed about going on holiday in a few weeks and my head is trying to justify what it wants. Instead, I'll get a hot drink then read posts and respond. Reach out don't eat it out! Just by posting your feelings you took control and you also helped me, so thank you. I hope this response helps and keep posting!

Welcome to the start of the rest of your life! Hope all goes well with the surgery.

259 today. Yay!!

259 on 8th June.

Today's weigh = 262

Thank you for this: I'm in. Goal is 252

Hello Fellow Sleevers, It's been a while since I have been active on the website and it's really good to be here :-) Life is progressing well even though I've had a few stressful moments (like the possibility of job redundancy - which didn't happen this time!) I have stayed positive, calm and faithful to my Higher Power in the knowledge that these will get me through anything and food won't!!! Of course, losing weight and being in less discomfort and pain has had a massive impact on my life; I have the energy to walk at least 10,000 steps every day, I Zumba, swim, use the gym and am starting to feel ready to start running. Most days I want to jump for joy at how good I feel and this is what I call living on Positivity Street. Taking care of myself means looking after number 1 and so my new address is: 1, Positivity Street. It also means I'm finding neighbours who live on the same street mentally/emotionally because this is my new location having moved out of Depression Drive. Sadly, I have said sad goodbyes to those who still live there but I hope they will move to the sunny side of town someday soon. I haven't turned my back on the loved ones who see life with a dark cloud over them, but in order to keep progressing in health and life, I have to move on and be with those who are in the same space as myself, because it is these people (many of whom are on this site) who will keep me motivated and inspired. It is important to be optimistic, focussed, courageous and determined. It is these things which keep us kind as human beings because we can support others positively as they move forward as well. Yes, I have let go of some people because I choose not to indulge in negative behaviours like gossiping and bitching, seeing the world as doomed etc. To me the world is just opening up because I have chosen to come out and see it. Walking has given me the opportunity to see nature, colours and even in the city where I live I've come to appreciate the beauty of the Thames and all the wonderful London architecture and art which surrounds me. I am no longer afraid to live in world: it's still a great place and number 1 Positivity Street offers a fantastic view of it!

@@need change I am already in your life as are the many fellow-sleevers here on this website. You are NOT alone. You can receive so much support here and you have already drawn us into your life just by joining the site! This is exactly how affirmative action for ourselves works. Most importantly, live every day as joyfully as you can and Celebrate each step forward no matter how small it may seem. Please feel free to add me as a friend or PM me and welcome to Positivity Street!

@@NoMoreWeightNJ Welcome to the neighbourhood! Happy to have you here and I look forward to seeing your success story unfold.

@@The Candidate Thank you so much - the journey continues and still so much to learn. But I am really happy to be in this place right now and it's the mutual support on this website that has been a key factor to where I am currently at. Good luck with your journey of success!

@@ShrinkingPeach Thank you and I wish you every success on your journey: it's going to be fantastic!!

Trust. It works! Good luck. This the beginning of your new life!

The past two weeks I've been getting fuller quicker at mealtimes but then feel ravenous in between. I'm starting to get concerned the surgery is not working but I feel this is more to do with my response. The surgery is working as is my exercise routine: I've lost 78 pounds but then I got on the scales this morning and found I'd put on 4 pounds! It's normal at this time in the month for me as I have fibroids and fluid retention is a nightmare. However, once my period is over I can lose 8-10 pounds straight away. So why am I not taking it in my stride as I have done since I got sleeved in November? My mood over the past few weeks has dipped; I don't feel as brightly optimistic as I once did. I feel let down by the lack of support by a few people close to me and have let them go emotionally. In previous times I would have been eating over it to get over it but as I can no longer do that I have to work on my emotions in healthier and more constructive ways. I think a lot of the hunger I'm feeling is emotional and I will try yo differentiate between what is real hunger and what is imaginary hunger. Still a long way to go on this journey and a lot to learn, but very happy this forum is here and I have a good counsellor. Wishing everyone the best xx

Thank you all so much for responding when I needed help. Everything you advised resonated with me in one way or another and shifted the stall. @JamieLogical: I added almonds as a snack on exercise days @jenn1: through you I was reminded that when a door closes, a window of opportunity opens @Graciesmom04: broccoli and cauliflower are my new pasta! @BLERDgirl: through you I was reminded of the saying 'Hope springs eternal' @MrsSugarbabe: I will remember not to let the numbers define me and thank you for the inspirational website @Rogofulm: water! water! water! The mantra :-) So having just finished my salsa work out and showered, I'm now going to put on my first ever pair of skinny jeans (I've dropped 5 dress sizes since being sleeved) and going to have fun with some of my loved ones. My thanks to you all once again and have a wonderful Easter. P.S. not getting stuck on the numbers thing but since I took your advice not only have I found my Mojo again, I've lost 8 pounds!

For me I have to have squash or herbal teas in a big mug and sip on a bottle/glass of water in between. This is where mind over matter comes into its own: I aim for 5 days out of 7 of fluid perfection and try not to beat myself up for the 2 days I may fall short