BLERDgirl

A lot of programs provide their patients with binders or handbooks that detail all this info. If the program you choose does not, you can make your own with a binder from the dollar store. You can separate it by Vitamins, Protein supplements, and food/diet/recipes. Google online for bariatric handbooks to give you an idea. Mine was my bible for those first few months.

Google online for a bariatric handbook. It will give a basic overview of what foods to eat at what stages. Do you have anyone who is providing follow up? You also need to monitor your bloodwork to make sure you are meeting your Vitamin & nutrient levels. As for eating, the basic rule is Protein first, then veg, then anything else if you have room. That means eggs and bacon would have been a better choice than eggs and toast.

I would change the language a bit. Calling yourself a "bad sleever" is like calling a kid the "problem child". Eventually it becomes a bit of a self fulfilling prophecy. Some of us follow everything to the letter and others allow for and plan an occasional treat. It sound like you have some good supports from therapy you currently are seeing to the new place you are checking out. Reaching out is a good thing. The only other thing I would recommend is reaching out to the nutritionist with your program and doing some more concrete planning with your daily menus. It might be worth while to purposely plan in some treats for yourself. Hang in there, continue with your supports.

That's your body craving the sugar addiction. If you drink some there depending on how early post op you are it may be uncomfortable on your tummy. I would try something else. When it comes down to breaking addictions some time you just have to wait them up. Since you had this surgery to become healthy do you really want to cave into this?

You don't have to drink Proteins shakes. You *do* need to keep your Protein levels up. Same thing with nutrients that you get from Vitamins and supplements. I hope you are at least getting regular bloodwork done to monitor your levels so that any potential deficiency can be caught early. At this point you are playing Russian roulette with your health. Not smart. As to can not meeting your Fluid and protein goals effect your weight loss? I think you answered that question for yourself when you said you only lose about 2 lbs a month. Call your medical team, sit down with your nutritionist and come up with a better plan. You are risking your health and life by not following basic rules of bariatric surgery. I actually know someone who had a bypass and didn't follow through. She had surgery 10 years ago. She went down to a size 4. She's now back up to a 16, has no teeth at only 55 years old and has broken her ankle and foot multiple times because her bones are weakened due to not taking her supplements. The last one was this summer and took mths to heal, because of the deficiency she has. Don't let that be you.

Could it just be dirt from spinning around your finger since it's loose?

No it should just be basic questions designed to get you views on weight loss, your expectations, etc.... This shouldn't be deep therapy designed to know your past history. It's just to access your mental state surrounding this surgery.

There are plenty of liquid vitamins that one could take that aren't food grade pesticides. My guts says run from this one.

@@Tssiemer1 - I think saggy facial skin is more of a concern for women in my age range. (I'm 52). Thankfull't y I havenhad any.

It is a very common occurrence. If you do a search there are many suggestions on thing that can help. My doctor prescribes a 30 day course of the stool softener colace for all his patients. I went on day 5 and have been regular since. As you get further along and can incorporate fiber rich foods into your diet, things may get easier.

There are no guarantees. It a wide bunch of variables that are based on age & genetics. Things that help are exercise, and hydrating your skin inside and out by drinking plenty of eater and moisturizing well. However as for loose skin turning a man off, I wouldn't worry about it. Most men aren't going to care. The ones that do, aren't worth your time anyway. I was really large pre-op. I'm only halfway to where I want to be but so far it looks like my only areas of concern will be my thighs and tummy. I figure once I hit goal if things are not to my liking then I can look into plastics. My top half, including my face are so far sag. free.

How far along are you?

Get a decent bike if you can. I'm riding a huffy because I wasn't sure I would actually stick to riding. I already had this bike from years ago when I rode regularly. I figured I'd get a tune up and then see how much riding I end up doing before I invest in a good bike. I plan to upgrade before I hit the trails again.

Congrats!

My doctor's office calls me. It's an automated system that requires a yes or no response. If you don't give one or it gets your answering machine, it will call back. They also email a reminder to my direct email AND if you choose to set up the hospital patient system (MyPennMedicine), it sends a message there as well. I personally set up reminders in my phone for a week in advance and the day before. Despite all of that I recently missed an appointment because for some dumb reason I thought the appointment was on a Tuesday when it was actually on a Monday. I showed up on Tuesday and was told to reschedule. It took another month to get an appointment because the Pope came to town. I was annoyed, but really I had no one to blame but myself.

I consider myself pretty granola-y but why on earth would you need to eat that? I'm absolutely serious. What's the benefit? Maybe I'm missing something. Honestly why would you want to risk that on a new tummy?

I just use my coffee press to make it. I don't heat the Water, just sit it in the fridge over night.

Is your starting weight correct? I currently ride in the city at that weight and I am currently using my old huffy mountain bike with a Terry's Bike seat. I'm think next summer I may upgrade and hit the bike trails in the city.

It's been my experience that they typically serve as a warning that this particular thread may be more closely related to a topic that pertains to a particular sex so enter at your own will. I've only seen one occasion where someone was asked not to participate.

How many months/weeks post-op are you?

Call the doctor and get his advice. He may want you to continue the ducolax or he may prescribe a stool softener for you. If he has no suggestions then try some of the things mentioned in the various threads on this topic.

So for those late to the party; OP posted that they woke up at 8:50 for an 8:30 appointment and then was informed they would have to reschedule. This was the 2nd cancellation/reschedule because the previous appoint was canceled by OP due to mixing up dates in her calendar. Since this was the 2nd occurrence and even though OP gave a week's notice for the previous reschedule she was informed by staff that 1 more missed appointment would result in being dropped from th program. OP seem to feel this was mistreatment due to her weight. Responses have attempted to explain that this is how a medical practice is run and weight has nothing to do with it. ETA: I have been corrected via PM the following:

I was 50, turned 51 a month later

Sorry about your diagnosis. Good for you on finding a silver lining in all of this. Sending you good prayers/wishes/vibes for a speedy recovery

I waited 6 mths. Speak to your nutritionist and use discernment. Ask yourself if you can drink 4 ounces of wine and still work in your protein.