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Cut back on your workouts by two for a month. See if the extra rest days help. I was working out six days a week, but then my yoga studio closed, now I'm losing 2-3 pounds a week on average and keeping everything else the same. If it doesn't work, you can put the two days back in.

I'm digging the NSV - mountain climbing, took a fencing class, one lady is getting me into a dance class (which is terrifying to me). We shall see, I know I am LITERALLY lighter on my feet than I used to be.

Am I the only person who's made a profile of what they would like in a mate? It started as a joke, while doing profiles of what we were looking for in job candidates in some new positions we were creating. And then I thought about it, talked to my therapist who suggested the book Mapping the Terrain of the Heart (very great book BTW). So while you might think the average guys profile would be about hair and breasts, it's mostly about communication styles. How supportive, where we should work together and apart, how much time I need to myself, how much time I want to be together etc. And then I made a list of values I hold sacred, and values I am negotiable on. The value of this is: 1) I gave myself permission to be happy and hold out for a person I need 2) I have a standard that I can refer to as I get to know a person and see if this is someone I can commit to long term. I look at dating as a fun process of completing this search. And I do have a bunch of fun on this Quest. This was not an easy list, it actually took me over a year to put it together, but writing it down and not having muddled impressions was a valuable exercise.

@@Smye - I am very curious, were you always heavy? When weight changes, it can really alter relationship dynamics. For instance, my girlfriend who I met when I was 305 broke up with me at 240. Part of the reason I think she did was her first husband cheated on her in the worst way. I think she was happier when I was heavy because she felt I wasn't really attractive enough to get other women interested. And my understanding of working through deep issues like latent sexual feelings is don't make quick decisions. It takes women much longer to work through these issues than guys because they are wired to use both sides of their brains and she will be focusing on different aspects at a pace which will make your head hurt. Listen, be supportive, DO NOT offer advice or direction. Just listen until she is fully settled.

The longer answer is it depends. Some people here have strictures which really make it dificult to take big bites. I don't have that problem. I have always eaten quickly, so I measure before putting on plate. At a resturant, I put what I want on a side plate before I take a bite.

@@VSGAnn2014 it was fun (and a very outside the box 2nd date). very challenging, and i am discovering some muscles on my backside i didn't know i had. i think i will stick to yoga, but we are going to try indoor climbing next;-)

I'm using Trader Joe's Iced coffee, mix with yogurt (vanilla) and Stevia with vanilla (at Whole Foods) and ice. No frap will stand up to it. 1/3 a scoop of Protein powder and I have: Flavor 15g Protein 70 calories Caffeine buzz for workout Try to beat that one Starbucks

Fun date ideas anyone? I just had an interesting one. Groupon had a four hour "Intro to Fencing Class" at our local sword fighting club. One heck of a workout. I chose the woman carefully (she also does mud runs, so I knew she had an adventurous streak). It was fun. And I found out which one of us has the more aggressive streak. :-)

Just got back from a 4 hour fencing class, would not have tried that last year

@ - a little tough love here...if that is more important than your health, surgery probably isn't for you, this is a tool, not a magic wand and you have to be committed to make it work.

Answer to original question is it is much easier to to date 90 pounds lighter. The quality and quantity of opportunities increases dramatically. No, I don't tell anyone about the surgery unless I really know them. Occasionally I need to explain why there are pictures of me on the web where I look very different from the ones on the dating site. And I will explain I did lose 80 pounds last year as part of a change to healthier life style. My opinion is women in late 40's and 50's will be more impressed with weight loss info than younger women and no guy will want to hear this from a potential date (so ladies wait until date 3 or 4 to explain the weight loss).

i did, please contact if you have any questions, if you email, i will give you my phone number

the short answer is no

I was back doing emails while in Mexico, and full time 6 days later. Not because I had to, but because I was bored and I could. Self employed and at a desk.

Try Isopure Protein. They have clear drinks, 40g protein. I like the flavor, many don't. So don't buy many, but grab one at GNC and try.

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I am spending the same, but I now go to Whole Foods and get a quarter pound of "grass fed, organic" meats. If you are going to be able to eat 3-4 ozs of something, I want it to taste really good. So it's all quality over quantity.

I agree on the muscle mass, but my stall ended when I started adding more rest into my workout schedule. It seems counter intuitive that you actually will make more gains in strength by not working out, but it's working. Since getting rid of yoga and resting those two extra days I have been losing 3 pounds per week.

@@CowgirlJane - yep, I thought the link was on that page, here are some better numbers: https://asmbs.org/resources/studies-weigh-in-on-safety-and-effectiveness-of-newer-bariatric-and-metabolic-surgery-procedure I can't seem to find my original links today, hopefully others will be able to find the studies.

The data point I used to go with the sleeve was the Cleveland Clinic data on 4 year results. Nearly the same results without many of the side effects and difficulties with bypass. https://weightloss.clevelandclinic.org/sleevegastrectomy.aspx

@@Dub - Just remember once you go rogaine, that's it, you are committed for life

I have been stalled since April. At first I thought it was all muscle gain, which is very possible since according to my caliper body fat test showed I was losing body fat. But every two weeks I'd get on the scale and it didn't move at all. Until two weeks ago. Ever since my mountain climb I've been losing 3 pounds a week. It's almost eerie, but I'm really digging it. I'd like to be at my goal by November and now I have hope I might actually get there.

@@ezbeinggreen - Very good and insightful post. It reminds me of the experience of American nurses in Viet Nam. Since they were the only American women there, they had their choice of good looking fit young men and were constantly being hit on. When they come back to the states and they felt invisible. In short it was too much for a year and then suddenly the attention was gone. Drove many to absolute despair. @@CowgirlJane - I am enjoying getting a women's perspective on this. Thanks for starting the topic. While the new attention I am getting isn't over the top, I'm really enjoying it, but I think if women pursued like too many men do, I think it would freak me out.

@@CowgirlJane Truth, but damn well said