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So I'm 1yr and 1 month post op, and I've just found out I'm 6 weeks pregnant! I'm so excited but scared at the same time. I already have a 15&13yr old, so parenthood is not new to me. However I've been trying to have another baby for 10yrs now, and boom it happens after I've lost all this weight. My dr sent me to see a gynecologist to see was I infertile, and we talked, and she reveled to me I was pregnant. I'm telling you I was in total shock!!!! This is me last Friday when I found out.

I have officially met my original goal of 142 pounds lost as of today, I started at 352 lbs and now weigh in at 210... Had my surgery last Dec 13 (On a Friday)... I know, Crazy.. But this decision saved my life and career, I am now going back to the hospital to start giving talks at new classes after first of next year. I was needing total knee replacements and have already had a spinal fusion so I was pretty desperate, Not to mention surviving a massive pulmonary embolism after the back surgery.. But I was so successful with the sleeve by following the directions verbatim, No arguing or rationlizing why I had to do what they said to do.. Once I got past the mental hurdle about 6 to 8 weeks out and the weight was falling off I became totally dedicated to success, I think also that I had to pay out of pocket 16,000 bucks helped keep me dedicated (Like an Investment).. I have had several people reach out to me for their decision whether to do this or not and I am careful about telling people yes they HAVE to do this... Everybody has to become MENTALLY PREPARED for this journey and for me it worked out great and continues to work out great. Walking 5 miles a day now and bought a great elliptical machine.. Anybody that has doubts and needs more information message me and I will try to help..
Jerry.

Shirley,
I know completely how you feel! My boyfriend of 5 years is having his sleeve surgery in 2 days and feel SO overwhelmed! I, too, was searching for a support group just like he has but for significant others. It is a HUGE lifestyle change that the whole family must be willing to commit to. Congrats to him on the weight loss so far!! I'm here if you ever want to chat or just get something off your chest that's what supportive people are for!! And, if you happen to find that support group give me a shout!!
Good luck and I wish you both all the best!

Shirley,
I know completely how you feel! My boyfriend of 5 years is having his sleeve surgery in 2 days and feel SO overwhelmed! I, too, was searching for a support group just like he has but for significant others. It is a HUGE lifestyle change that the whole family must be willing to commit to. Congrats to him on the weight loss so far!! I'm here if you ever want to chat or just get something off your chest that's what supportive people are for!! And, if you happen to find that support group give me a shout!!
Good luck and I wish you both all the best!

Congrats on your surgery!! My boyfriend is getting ready to have his sleeve done on Thursday!

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Thank you Eli for sharing. I have my surgery scheduled for November 10th. I am just like how you were. I am 21. 310. Played football and was a guard. So I always hid behind that to saying I needed to be thay size. Well college hit and I am a social person and never had any problems talking with people but I know everyone wouldn't want to stand around me becuase of my weight. Or even come up to me and I never could go out by myself. I always went out with friends who always had a great time. I have such a great support system and friends. I don't know why I kept it a secret that I was going to have surgery. I started my journey by myself. I was talking to a person who had it and how she wish she would have done it sooner. So I went through all my doctor appointments and scheduled my surgery before I told anyone. I told myself when I scheduled my surgery I would tell my friends. I started to tell them one by one. They were shocked and asked why. They said we love how you are. Do not change for us. I said I'm changing for me. To feel better about myself. But #1 my health. I'm 21 and on blood pressure medicine. Each time I go to my doctor he keeps uping my dosage. I love to travel and see the world and I don't want my health getting in my way of that. I got onto this forum becuase i started to doubt myself and my decision but it's scheduled and no going back. After reading your story I'm out of that rut and so happy about my decision. Thanks for being a inspiration!

Hi Everyone,
My name is Eli and I am 21 years old. I just wanted to share my amazing journey with everyone and hopefully help anyone that needs it. Since I was a young boy I struggled with weight loss. I put weight on and I took weight off and it didn't seem like I could ever get it right. Growing up, all of my friends were thin so they never understood what it was really like to be overweight, nobody actually understands unless they actually walk a mile in your shoes. I was miserable, depressed, and felt like there was nothing in the world that could help me. As a lineman for my high school football team I justified my extreme weight gain with the fact that I needed to be bigger to play my position and this mindset caused my weight to spiral out of control.
When I graduated high school in 2011 I weighed the most I ever did and it took a huge toll on me as I was about to go away to college and had literally no self-esteem. Jumping ahead to my sophomore year of college I had now put on even more weight and it was affecting me more then ever. My grades were slipping, it didn't seem like any girl would ever want to talk to me, and most of all it was hard to look at myself in the mirror. When I came home from school after my sophomore year I weighed about 320 pounds, which was by far the most I ever weighed. When I came home in May that year I just came to the realization of what I did to myself and I asked myself, "How did I let this happen?" Before I continue I want everyone to know that this is not a sob story and that there is a huge gleaming light at the end of that tunnel. When the conversation of weight loss surgery was brought up for the first time I honestly felt offended because I never thought that it would possibly come to that and after countless talks with family members and friends I finally agreed to schedule an appointment and the Center for Bariatric Surgery and Weight Loss in Ridgewood, New Jersey in June of 2013.
Fast forward to September of that year I had completed all of my pre-surgery requirements and a date for surgery was scheduled. My surgery happened on November 4th at New York-Presbyterian in New York City. Let me tell you that November 4th, 2013 was the first day of the rest of my life. I'll save the details of pre-surgery, hospital stay, and post-surgery for another post. On the day of surgery I weighed 316 pounds having lost a little in the months prior to my surgery date. Now, in October of 2014 I am proud to say that I weigh 196 pounds putting my total weight loss at 120 pounds. My life has changed in the most extreme way, not just with how I physically look and feel, but mentally, I am a different person. I am the happiest I've been in my entire life.
I understand that there are countless reservations people have before making probably the hardest decision of your entire life, because for me it was, but I can also proudly say that it was the best decision I have made in my entire life. I understand that you might feel that there is no way out of being overweight, but I'm here to tell you that there is. I am willing to talk to anyone who has questions and I am always available because I understand how hard it is to make this decision. PLEASE don't hesitate to ask me anything. Thank you for listening to my journey and my story and I hope this might help anyone who is on the fence or anyone who is scared or nervous. Lastly, I'd like to say how amazing the last year of my life has been and I hope everyone can share the same happiness I do.
-Eli

Thank you @@Fireweed56 I am married but don't have children yet and it has been an interesting adjustment with how my husband and I eat for sure! Yay for hearing from someone who has the same surgery date! You're the first one I have talked to for 10/30 Good luck!!!