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I think fat shaming is ridiculous regardless of who is doing it. My mother n law (when she was alive) was the queen of fat shaming. She would figure out ways to make you feel like a big fat slob. For example, she would buy my husband a birthday gift that was 2 or 3 sizes too small. She would then ask, will it fit? Hubby would respond and say, no I am not a medium I am a 2xl. She would say well them lose weight. (True story). I collect wee forest folk mice. One year for Christmas she bought me a chubby little mouse standing in his bathrobe on a scale. She proceeded to tell me it reminded her of me. Really? B#%+€! then there is a right way, For me it was my nephrologist who suggested I consider WLS. He did this very respectfully but at the same time very sternly helping me understand that if I kept on my current trend I would be looking at dialysis and ultimately a kidney transplant. There is a right way and a wrong way to deliver that message. Thankfully he delivered it the right way and I listened immediately. I remember being very angry at my PCP for not having that same conversation with me before I got to that point. I had no idea that my kidney function had been so bad for so long, when my nephrologist pulled up my chart and showed me the downward trend was chronic and had been going on for years, I really got pissed that my PCP never said a word until I was at stage 3. Not 1 word. I spoke with her about it and told her that my nephrologist was my hero for helping me see the light. My PCP then told me she really should have been the one to direct me there and felt bad but she did not know how to deliver the message appropriately. That was when I changed PCPs.

My new PCP (I moved states), she is great with one exception. She does not understand the special needs for Bariatric patients. I basically have to tell her which tests to run for me and Everytime I see her which is a lot lately due to 3 back to back surgeries, she almost freaks out because of how quickly my weight is coming off. I have to remind her Everytime that it's expected and that I am a normal BMI and not underweight. I also remind her the next time she sees me that I will have lost more. She has told me that I am one of her most complicated patients. LOL! I laugh and just say imagine me having diabetes, stage 3 kidney disease, sleep apnea, high blood pressure, high cholesterol and anemia. All those were gone when I changed over to her. LOL!

@@MsB7 Did she give you a good reason why she doesn't want you to use that Bariatric center? If not and you are comfortable there I would consider changing PCPs. So many just don't get it and almost choose not to. Now if there is a really good reason I would better understand that.

The straw that broke the camels back for me was stage 3 chronic kidney disease. It is the reason I chose to have WLS and since doing so my kidneys are functioning much better putting my CKD into remission. This is a real problem for morbidly obese patients and needs to be taken seriously. It was my nephrologist who suggested having WLS and to this day I call him my hero. Without that push I think I would still be suffering and headed down a very scary place.

@@brattsr2cute Like you I had severe Gerd and was on the max dosage of nexium 3 times per day. I also coughed uncontrollably every single day for a year and a half before I had gastric bypass. From the moment I woke up after surgery my Gerd is completely gone! I have absolutely no heartburn and can eat things that used to have me walking the floors all night long. Cucumbers, green peppers, spicy foods, pretty much anything. I take no medication at all for Gerd, it was stopped 30 days after my bypass. I am down 141lbs and about 3lbs from my ideal weight. I weight 168lbs and started at 310, 16 months ago! Bypass is the best thing I have ever done for myself for som many reasons but the biggest ones are health related. No more diabetes, Gerd, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, sleep apnea, stage 3 kidney disease and anemia. All in remission! Don't be afraid to move forward!

Yes, exhaustion is normal in those first few months while your body changes. Cold, yup! I am always cold now and I used to always be hot and sweaty. Especially my hands and feet.

Is this letter something your Bariatric team is requiring? My team only required that my PCP was aware that I was proceeding with WLS. Of course when the time came she also performed my pre op physical. From the looks of your message she should have enough information. Your insurance company might require medical records from your previous PCP showing that you have been obese for a period of time. Good luck with everything!

I hope all went well with your revision!

You may be at a point where you need to increase your intake a little. Especially if you are working out regularly. Can you give your nut a call and ask for suggestions? At about 6 months post op I had to increase to between 900 and 1100 calories a day and I am still losing.

I am so very sorry that you are in this situation. At one time in my life my exe husband was abusive and controlling. The only way out was to get away from him and remove that control. That of course sounds so darn easy but as you know it is not. I would definately speak to your therapist or a social worker to see if they can help you get into a different living situation where you have control of your finances and don't have to take this verbal abuse. I do hope there is not physical abuse as well. Stay strong!

I am so happy to hear everything went well and you are on the road to recovery! Welcome to the losers bench! Sip sip sip and walk walk walk

@@claddagh66 Good luck with your tests today! I just had a nuclear stress test last week. It's a whole lot of waiting around and the drug they give you to increase your heart rate without exercise only last a couple of minutes and then everything is back to normal. Hope all goes well so you can put this stuff behind you!

I take 1 generic multi Vitamin with D, 1 Bariatric calcium citrate sweet tart, I take 1 vitamin d3, I take 1 vitamin b1. I also take stool softeners with laxative twice a day. This is because I am currently on narcotic pain relievers. I am on hold for b12 until March because my b12 was through the roof as I was taking it too often. I take the vitamin b1 because my thiamin was low during my last labs. I am not on Iron because I had a hysterectomy, I was told had I still had my period I would have to take iron as well. Other than the b Vitamins my levels have been excellent. I never skip my vitamins, I am very careful because I know that the malabsorption of bypass can lead to problems. I already have significant issues with my bones and joints and would prefer to not make that worse.

There are so many options. I can no longer eat eggs and I really only choose fish when I go out to eat because my family doesn't like it. I eat a lot of chicken, turkey, beef and pork tenderloin. I don't eat Beans at all and I get my Protein every day.

Yay! I hope you have a safe surgery and speedy recovery! Welcome to the losers bench!

Congratulations! I hope you have a safe surgery and speedy recovery! welcome to the losers bench!

I do have problems with this. In June I passed out after standing up too fast. It was 2 weeks after cervical fusion and because of that I ended up in the emergency room. I was referred to a cardiologist and an endocrinologist and had a full work up. For me, my blood pressure runs low as does my heart rate. If I stand up too fast the room turns black and I pass out. My heart is perfectly healthy, I just run with a low heart rate and pressure. This is common following massive weight loss. I had to learn to be careful when standing or sitting from a laying position. I hope you feel better soon.

This is completely normal. Do a search on this site for stalls, there is a ton of info on it. Your body needs time to adjust and weights fluctuate. Your first week loss was very very significant. Congratulations!

Hi there! I had bypass 16 months ago. I started at a size 26/28 top and a 24 in pants. I carried a lot of weight in my upper arms so I always am a size bigger on top. I had my surgery in sept 2014. By November I was in a size 18. By February I was in a size 14 on the bottom. Now I wear a size 8 jeans and a large and sometimes medium top. I am still losing although nearly at goal. Down 141lbs with about 3.5 lbs left to go.

Welcome! Good luck on you upcoming surgery.

@@Inner Surfer Girl You have come so far! I am very glad they are treating your disease and I hope that it works for you. I am guessing that is very painful.

I just switched from skim milk to 2% so I could actually add some additional fat and calories. LOL!

@@careya123 My surgeon requires 2 doses of calcium a day to start on top of the 2 cups of milk however after my first set of labs we reduced my calcium dose to once per day. Now I am bypass and calcium is one of the nutrients that for sure is malabsorbed so that could be why. I noticed you are sleeved and likely the normal dose is fine.

See now my diet requires milk, twice per day. I don't always drink it but about every other day I drink 2 cups of milk, I make a pot of chai tea out of it. It delivers 17 grams of Protein and is more filling than any other snack. I actually feel like on the days I drink milk for my snack vs. eating some other type of snack I lose. When I snack I will typically have a Protein Bar, cheese, lunch meat and very occasionally a pudding or crackers. Milk does the body good!

Yeah! Clothes shopping is the best! I love simply trying clothes on that I could never wear! It only gets better from here!, congratulations!