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Carrie22803

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  1. ok, my goal is to go from a size 14 (which I am now) to a size 12 by my date in 3 weeks...mostly I will accomplish this as long as I can stick to my food regimen and not eat past 7:30 >darn those late night cravings< I am feeling very stuck and low, but that is why I am doing low carb for three weeks to bust through this plateau - it is too easy for me to get discouraged, but I am trying to stick it out


  2. Oh, sweetie, no. This is a big change in more ways than one. It is ok for him to be a little frightened and uncertain of how things will be now that you have had this procedure. People are scared of change and things they don't know or understand on a very basic level. But what's not ok is for him to make you cry or to make you feel like you have done something wrong and regret your decision. This was YOUR decision. It is YOUR body you have to deal with everyday, YOUR mental health and the things that go along with it. I'm sure he is scared that he has lost his eating partner, and you're going to be all thin and hot, and maybe he's afraid of where that will leave him. It also sounds like he's scared for your health, complications that may arise, and the big step you took. It's true, if he had found out some information beforehand, maybe he wouldn't be so emotionally unsupportive. Because right now, what he's thinking about is himself. How your surgery is affecting HIM. And while we all have the tendency to do that, that's not what he needs to be doing right now. As the person who is supposed to honor and cherish you, he needs to be your partner and offer you some support, because this is hard on you, too. This is a lifestyle change of great proportions. Maybe he resents you a little for making that change, for making him change as a byproduct, but the bottom line is you need your husband. Your friend. I think maybe you should try and talk to him calmly about what is bothering him, or why he's acting the way he is. If you don't think that will work, I always find it useful to write a letter because I can get out all my thoughts and emotions better, and they can read it and take the time to absorb the content. The truth is, you are not going to be the same person you were before surgery. It really is a whole new life. Sometimes the people we love can't make that leap to a new life with us, and it sucks. A lot of people on this site have had marital problems, separation, and even divorce after their surgery. I am sure there were already underlying factors, but that is the reality. And still, many people have wonderful and supportive spouses that may have balked a little in the beginning, but came around in the end. I'm sure your husband will come around, this is just a little new and scary for both of you. I hope things get better, let me know....but for now, hugs & kisses,


  3. well, it's supposed to be an aversive technique, you know - you eat the sweets, you get sick, you don't eat sweets anymore - kind of like changing your eating style. with the band you can still eat sweets, but smaller amounts. But it's still not good for you. Especially if you drink chocolate milkshakes or ice cream, which can go down easily, but then you will be dissappointed because you won't lose any weight.


  4. alright, you're gatting there! my doctor said it depends on if you are more of a quantity eater or a sweets-eater. Lap band for quantity, gastric for sweets, because of the 'dumping'. Like we all say, it's one thing to get banded, but your brain has to get banded, too. That's the hard part. Anyway, it seems like you're on your way, so keep it up, 10-15 pounds for the rest of your life...no problema!

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