Hawk7775

I shouldn't have to explain why. I just wanted an answer to my question, not people telling me what I should or shouldn't do.
Thanks.

I was sleeved on 7/9/14. I just had my 6 week post-op appointment. I have already lost 20% of my excess body weight. I am thrilled. I came home and tried on some long sleeve shirts that I didn't fit in before surgery and they are way too big for me. The same thing with a suit I barely squeezed into for a meeting on 7/2/14. It was so big I can't wear it anymore. I couldn't be happier with my choice to have the sleeve!

I was sleeved on 7/9/14. I just had my 6 week post-op appointment. I have already lost 20% of my excess body weight. I am thrilled. I came home and tried on some long sleeve shirts that I didn't fit in before surgery and they are way too big for me. The same thing with a suit I barely squeezed into for a meeting on 7/2/14. It was so big I can't wear it anymore. I couldn't be happier with my choice to have the sleeve!

I was sleeved on 7/9/14. I just had my 6 week post-op appointment. I have already lost 20% of my excess body weight. I am thrilled. I came home and tried on some long sleeve shirts that I didn't fit in before surgery and they are way too big for me. The same thing with a suit I barely squeezed into for a meeting on 7/2/14. It was so big I can't wear it anymore. I couldn't be happier with my choice to have the sleeve!

Have you researched the surgeon? When I first read your post I thought that there is no way I would go through with it but then I realized that once you are in the OR the cluster ____ you are experiencing right now doesn't matter. I did everything I could to research my surgeon including calling my State's licensing board to find out where I could go to research complaints and such. I wanted to know how many he has done, whether any of them had complications, where he went to school, is he board certified, did he do a fellowship or other specialized training bariatric surgery and everything else I could. I even managed to find his wedding pictures online....lol. By the time I was done I felt very confident in his abilities. I do not think I could go through with it without that confidence.
I would want to speak to the surgeon as well. I would ask what he has going on the day before your surgery and the day of. If he has something going on that could hinder his performance I would reconsider.For example if he is coming back on a red eye flight, is already over booked with surgeries or something similar.
I am sure that scheduling mistakes happen and I see how that can be disconcerting but I guess for me the bottom line is that if he isn't going to be dead tired or distracted in the OR and you have done your homework about his background and experience, the scheduling snafu is not really a big deal.
I was second guessing my decision up until they knocked me out so I do think you're in a different spot than I am now, 1 month post surgery with no complications thus far. I am also not a believer in omens. If you did your research about this surgeon before choosing him you just need to sit down and think about whether this situation has simply amplified your nerves or if it has caused serious doubt about the surgeon's ability to do a good job. Worst case scenario you hold off on surgery until you find a new surgeon. Doing the pre-op diet twice sucks but it will give you a leg up on weight loss.

So much for posting in the guy's room to avoid this sort of response. My primary question was about how others' relationships have changed. I completely disagree with your response. At the beginning I felt she was pushing me towards surgery. She doesn't think she needs it. She agreed with me that she didn't want us to be the same size and said she was going to lose weight. I have done everything I can to help her. Cooking healthy meals, making sure she has time to get away and exercise like she said she wants to. Fair or not, frustration is what I am feeling. I do feel as though frustration is a valid response. I worry about becoming bitter. I do not want to be bitter. I did not post this topic to be lectured for how I feel. I posted it because I am sure others have had relationship issues arise after surgery and hoped for input on how they handled them. I also posted this in what is supposed to be a "safe" place for men to communicate with men about such sensitive issues. I would politely ask that it be respected.

So much for posting in the guy's room to avoid this sort of response. My primary question was about how others' relationships have changed. I completely disagree with your response. At the beginning I felt she was pushing me towards surgery. She doesn't think she needs it. She agreed with me that she didn't want us to be the same size and said she was going to lose weight. I have done everything I can to help her. Cooking healthy meals, making sure she has time to get away and exercise like she said she wants to. Fair or not, frustration is what I am feeling. I do feel as though frustration is a valid response. I worry about becoming bitter. I do not want to be bitter. I did not post this topic to be lectured for how I feel. I posted it because I am sure others have had relationship issues arise after surgery and hoped for input on how they handled them. I also posted this in what is supposed to be a "safe" place for men to communicate with men about such sensitive issues. I would politely ask that it be respected.

So much for posting in the guy's room to avoid this sort of response. My primary question was about how others' relationships have changed. I completely disagree with your response. At the beginning I felt she was pushing me towards surgery. She doesn't think she needs it. She agreed with me that she didn't want us to be the same size and said she was going to lose weight. I have done everything I can to help her. Cooking healthy meals, making sure she has time to get away and exercise like she said she wants to. Fair or not, frustration is what I am feeling. I do feel as though frustration is a valid response. I worry about becoming bitter. I do not want to be bitter. I did not post this topic to be lectured for how I feel. I posted it because I am sure others have had relationship issues arise after surgery and hoped for input on how they handled them. I also posted this in what is supposed to be a "safe" place for men to communicate with men about such sensitive issues. I would politely ask that it be respected.

So much for posting in the guy's room to avoid this sort of response. My primary question was about how others' relationships have changed. I completely disagree with your response. At the beginning I felt she was pushing me towards surgery. She doesn't think she needs it. She agreed with me that she didn't want us to be the same size and said she was going to lose weight. I have done everything I can to help her. Cooking healthy meals, making sure she has time to get away and exercise like she said she wants to. Fair or not, frustration is what I am feeling. I do feel as though frustration is a valid response. I worry about becoming bitter. I do not want to be bitter. I did not post this topic to be lectured for how I feel. I posted it because I am sure others have had relationship issues arise after surgery and hoped for input on how they handled them. I also posted this in what is supposed to be a "safe" place for men to communicate with men about such sensitive issues. I would politely ask that it be respected.

I posted something similar on a different forum and was crucified. I will spare you the lectures I got.
I too felt that something was wrong because I could eat exactly what my nut told me to be eating plus some if I wanted. Actually, I did eat a bit more because I could tolerate it and wanted it. I figured out that it is mostly mental. When you're used to eating a whole rack of ribs, bread, potato, corn and Beans, a 1/2 cup of canned tuna is mentally unsatisfying even if it is physically satisfying.
Doing some research on my own, I learned it takes months for your stomach to heal. Right now it is probable the nerve endings in your stomach have not healed enough to send "full signals" to your brain. Overeating could be dangerous right now.
You have to measure your food and eat slowly. The new stomach will stretch just like your old one did if you put too much in it regularly. I learned that the second I feel a little bit of pressure that I should stop eating. I hated it because sometimes I was not through the tiny meal I set out for myself and mentally I felt like I was not ready to stop eating. Guess what? I didn't need to eat for hours. Don't listen to the "size of the bougie" people. My surgeon told me the differences are a matter of millimeters. Follow all the rules and address the mental aspect of food and you will be fine.