ScreamingForMySupper

Mothers can really get on our nerves sometimes! My mother is the same... She herself is always on some sort of diet and it is never working, but her BMI floats somewhere between 28 and 33 and she is alright with that. Ever since I was a teenager I have been following in her footsteps. When I was 15 years old, with a BMI of 20 I really hated my body already and I found myself fat and I had ugly legs so I couldn't wear dresses... when I look back at old pictures I don't get it... I do know that in my case my mother is really just worried and she cares, but the way she says things, the words she uses... Oh I hate that so much! It hurts... I do think it is good that you have told her, because like you said, it isn't fair not to tell her. Especially because this surgery IS a big deal and it will most likely go well, but still. You don't want to leave your family out of something so big. I get that. Still you can be super proud of yourself for taking this step. And I am pretty sure that once the weight comes off she will be happy for you! :-)

At the moment I work out at the gym and some walking and cycling as well, but I want to start doing some classes again as well like zumba or pilates as that is more fun than just cardio/lifting

@@music1618 You are probably right, as we have had our best conversations ever in restaurants or while travelling. :-) I will keep that in mind!

@@BeagleLover Maybe... We have had that before my surgery and we were doing fine so I was really hoping that we could talk about this on our own, but the guy is not a talker. Ugh. Last night I have tried to open up the conversation again and he said nothing, but later on he gave me a hug and said sorry before he went to bed. Hmm. Don't know what to think of this.

Well let's just get to the point... it could be a little personal but I have to talk about this and I don't know who I can talk to... I have met my boyfriend in spring 2010 so we've been together for more than 4 years now. In the last year before my surgery I didn't feel very sexy, so we didn't do much when it came to sex. Things are different now. I am losing weight and gaining confidence every day... So first he was all jealous and he didn't want me to go out or talk to other people. Now that is under control again. I mean, I know he is in this process with me and things are changing for him as well, but it is not always for the better... We haven't had sex since my surgery, and this time it's not because I don't want to. There has been kissing and such, but he just can't perform for some reason. He says it's because I am off birth control and I am 'forcing' him to wear a condom. Yeah well it's not really the best time to get pregnant is it? Is it really that or is there something else. I really hate that he doesn't talk to me about this. I guess it is a big issue for him as well, but how can we talk about this. I mean I am finally in the right mood again and it was kind of disappointing to be honest...

We were not allowed to wear either nail polish or acrylics at the hospital. I guess if you want to be sure you should call your own hospital and check with them. I got all these flyers to get prepared and it was in there as well.

Thanks @@steph0825 and @!

Awesome!

I am fine, thanks! @@pinkhiker

The surgery can be scary and all support is welcome. I really loved being on Instagram in the days after surgery but then I didnt find this forum yet..... I did have some complications but had wonderful nurses and doctors who supported me and if you would ask me now... I would do it again! The first days may be painful but just do this for yourself, because YOU want it! It is soooo worth it.

I was in the hospital for 5 nights due to some complications, but I was the only one in my group who was in there that long!

Good luck!!

Welcome to the other side i love life on the losersbench!

That sounds good! Wish I would have done this earlier. But I am 30 now and we still have our life ahead of us! :-)