CandySmooch

I totally believe that is why he cheated. But how completely selfish of him! I would be crushed if my boyfriend only loved me for physical appearences only. I hope he doesn't. That's terrible. I can't offer anything else that hasn't been said here. Even I don't want to end up "skinny" - skinny for me? YES! But skinny for me would be a 14-16 and I'd be hella happy if I can get there. I'm currently a 26-28 heading into a 30 before banding. That was my concern - for gaining more! I love being a plus sized lady - I just didn't want to end up SUPER PLUS sized lady. Such a sad situation - sorry I can't offer more here

Don't give up so soon!! There are ways - people are here to help. I had to self pay w/ Dr. Sanchez in Monterrey MX for $7900 - everything included except airfare. www.ready4achange.com if you care to take a gander. It was more like a vacation than surgery in a foreign country. I'm 24 y/o - went alone and it was my first surgery. There are ways for you and if its meant to be then God will find a way for you. Be patient it may take some time - start seeing a Dr. and getting it documented now even if the worst scenario is having to wait 5 years to get approval - better get on it now.

That's awesome. My boyfriend is totally not into this stuff. I'm sure he would find it a waste of time. I felt a lot better when I was doing the cards, but again I felt like it just wasn't my "thing" it didn't click for me except the angel cards clicked a little. What other things do you do? What are the Goddess cards that you have?

Oh man oh man - I am sooo freaked out. I have a good sixth sense or intuition and often try to maintain in touch with my spirtual self. I had a dream I was at my dr's office and he told me he'd half to remove my band because of erosion!!!!!!!!! I am sitting here just thinking this is something that's going to happen in a year or two........yes I know it was a dream, but it still has me worried

Yes I am a religious person. And oddly enough I didn't think about "praying" over a dream. I will have to add that to my morning regimen. Positive thinking and prayer. Can't go wrong. Thanks for the support.

WOW - I FOUND MY PEOPLE!!!! I have dabbled in tarot, spells, and healing angel cards awhile back. I haven't found my spirtual nitch yet. The best of the 3 I mentioned - I felt the healing angel cards worked best, but still didn't seem to be quite my thing. I would love to chat with you guys about other ideas and things you dabble in. This is great!

Thank you. Your right. I've been worried about saggy skin afterwards, but I've been reading the Kevin Trudeau "Natural Cures They Don't want you to know" and he was talking about the power of positve thoughts can heal. Sooo I've been starting to rub my belly everyday in the mirror and say I will have a sexy new body. I will not have excess skin. I will add something about my band working in perfect condition. I totallly believe in the power of positive thinking. Thank you for bringing me back down

I too joined the group 3 1/2 months ago and I don't know who Blossom is - although I think I'll go do some searching to find out.

that's great - wish I would have done something like this. I too didn't even take a before pic - and no excuses here - just didn't do it. Maybe because I have pics that are recent.

thanks! I ordered the boy shorts - I like how they make my butt look Even though it will be awhile before I can get into a large - It will give me something to look forward to!

I chose the band simply because bypass was not an option in my book - I DID NOT want my insides re-arranged - period. I'd rather be a fat girl than have bypass. And because the band is completely reversable if need be. I've read, heard, known and had a friend die from complications of bypass. Not an option for me period.

Huh - the link didn't work - it just took me to juno webmail - i love controversy - any other link that might work?

Well I don't know about anyone else, but my band is fickle from day to day! One day I can eat more than usual and the next its just a couple of bites! I'd like to find a steady groove because most days I think I need more fill and then I'm like oh no I couldn't take anymore - and still the scales stay the same.

THAT IS AWESOME!!!!!!!!!! I always wanted to be homecoming queen! I was pretty and popular, but still - only the skinny ones got nominated in my school. Fat girls across the globe are rejoicing with her!!!! YEAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I belong to 3 other bandster websites on yahoo - AND I rarely go check anything on those anymore because they're so boring and the topics are always the same - and there aren't too many regulars that you get to know - it seems to be for people wanting information on it more than anything else. I love this site and check it a lot to keep up on everyone's progress! I like getting personal and belonging to something here with everyone. Makes me feel like I'm not alone on this journey.

No you did not make the wrong choice!!!! You are not alone. Some of us are just slower than others. I lost a whopping 8lbs out of surgery. GAINED 4lbs BACK before my 1st fill and it's been a battle to get those 4lbs back off again - TOTAL weight loss to date - a whopping 8lbs!!!! It's not a wrong choice, hey at least I'm not gaining and I've been holding a steady loss of - hold your breath - 1-2lbs in between fills. I'm getting closer to getting good restriction though - but it is a little discouraging as I've been banded for 3 1/2 months - but at least its coming off and not going back on!!! I'll get there one day and so will you!!!!!!!!!! Look at my damn ticker - you can't even see what my starting weight was and what it is now because the numbers overlap - take a look Welcome to the fight my friend!

I totally agree with you here. JUST this morning - I was soooooo attracted to my future fiancee' because he did my laundry and hung up a towel rack for me in my private bathroom. LOL - and then I watch how he interacts with our old basset/beagle dog named Tucker - he was making baby talk saying "Tucker want a cookie? Yea, Tucker wants a cookie, good boy!" - and after seeing my laundry done and the towel rack and my trash emptied - made me want to call in sick to work for some sweet lovin! Ah well it can wait till tomorrow I just think its wonderful what different people find attractive.

I too decided to NOT tell anyone besides 2 close friends who I know don't judge me, my boyfriend and my mom & stepdad. Surprisingly the roughest person has been my boyfriend. My mom was all for it. He and I have been together a little under 2 years and he has given me mixed support. At first he didn't want me to do it because i haven't really "tried" then it was if this is going to make me happy then he's all for it. But since having the surgery I've heard the " I don't know why you couldn't have done it on you own - I would have been there helping you every step" where i flat out told him I'd done it all before and nothing worked and he'd reply with I've been with you for 2 years and have never seen you "try" to do anything on your own. in which I'd again state yea I'd given up and was bound to be what I was until I found this. Mostly he's supportive - but once in awhile it gets brought up that I haven't "tried" and it pisses me off to no end. I'm happy with not telling anyone else - if I could've gotten away with having it done and not telling my boyfriend I think I would have but that was impossible. I know one thing that he was pissed off that I didn't discuss any of this with him beforehand - I just came home one day and told him I'd like to have it done and my mom was going to use my education fund for it and asked what he thought. He wanted to be consulted before I went to my mom but my thinking was why discuss it with him if it wasn't a possible reality first. I kinda see his point - but he needs to see mine! We'll see how it goes - I don't mean to bash him because besides those few minor comments he's been really great about everything else.

haven't had any problems with rice - also my dr. was adament on not being on a diet after surgery - just everything in moderation - I still use diet things even though he said to use real butter, sour cream etc. just in moderation. he told me I wasn't having the surgery to go on a diet for the rest of my life, but to LIVE a normal life and eat healthy. I don't have anything forbidden just strictly moderation.

I had a wonderful experience with Dr. Sanchez in Monterrey, MX. Monterrey was not as intimidating as all of the tourist and bad cops of Tijuana for myself anyway. I was told Monterrey is one of the richest cities in MX thats why there aren't as many problems as other areas. Everything was lovely - I did see some poverish sections, but for the most part it was all pretty nice. Woudnl't change a thing - I had problems with American Airlines! That's who I had issues with, nothing about going to MX - although I did run into a lady at the airport and I told her what I was going to do and she told me she woulnd't let a Mexican Dr. clean her cats paws! Another lady I sat next to on a plane was a nurse and she told me I should seriously re-consider what I was doing! I'm just trying to make idle honest conversation with these strangers and their trying to tell me what to do with my life decisions! A big F-U goes out to those strangers for making me feel like I was committing a mortal sin when I was just trying to be nice by chatting with them to pass time! Nobody knows about my surgery except 2 close friends, my boyfriend and my parents. Not even my siblings know. So for anyone reading this - if your going to do it, if you don't feel comfortable constantly having to defend yourself about going to MX then I wouldn't tell anyone besides VERY close friends/family.

Cute stuff! I too need to quit smoking. My boyfriend and I quit last January except I have a really stressful job as a 911 Communications Specialist handling all kinds of horrific calls and long houred shifts that I've continued to smoke at work behind my boyfriends back. I regret doing this, but I just can't seem to quit at work I'm fine everywhere else. It breaks up the monotony and lets me have a break to take a quick smoke, it relieves my senses after a stressful call, it helps me cope with heartache and gets me though the shift. I've tried to quit completely at work, but then I feel like I'm going out of my mind!

Call me up anytime you need backup! I will take a certain amount of guff from people, but when I've had enough or something is completely off the wall - I'll shoot straight from my mouth after that and tell it like it is!

Someone needs to put out "kama sutra for fluffies" book. Any other simple positions besides missionary, on the side, and from the barking position? I'm not trying to be graphic - just wanting to know if anyone has luck with something else.

I find when pulling my hair back makes me feel sexy because I'm not trying to hide my beautiful face behind my hair and it accentuates my jaw line - small double chin and all and I like my shoulders - I have sexy shoulders.

Oooh Oooh. Just thought of an embarassing moment that happened a few months ago at the gyno. I get really nervous at the gyno, just because I'm getting all naked up on a table and spreadin my business to the world. My doctor is a lovely man and puts me at ease - but still no matter what I will always be nervous. I was sitting naked on the table with the paper all under me that they tear off after each visit, trying to adjust my paper gown to keep a little modesty when I'm starting to sweat in between my thighs and nether region about the upcoming exam. Well I could feel the paper sticking to my ass and backs of my thighs and was trying to figure out how to fix it when in walks my gyno and his nurse! He asks me to lay down and I did and tried to discreetly pull the paper away but it was stuck to me! I could feel it stuck to my thighs and inbetween my butt cheeks. He asks me to scoot down to get my feet in the stirrups and when I did I heard the paper rip away from the rest as most of it was stuck to me from the sweat! Poor man, bless his heart - he actually tried to help by pulling some of it away but it was soaked in sweat so it was only coming off in little pieces! After they left and I could get dressed I just kept pulling off tiny pieces of ripped paper stuck to me. THAT WAS SO EMBARASSING!