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Sorry guys ignore my original post - a friend of mine who had her band done a couple of years ago only had to wait 3 weeks for her band but I had my consultation yesterday and it seems waiting periods have blown out to 4 months now - YIKES! Looks like I won't be getting banded till the new year..:omg:

Hi laurend - I wouldn't have had a clue what she meant...

Hi Denise- don't be upset..the fact you are having trouble seeing the results probably just means that you are losing weight evenly across your body.. try taking your measurements as well as photos !

Hi guys..just interested to know - is there anyone out there who has been banded with the AP band and is allergic to titanium? I'm not sure but I think that I might be allergic to titanium and am scared that if I get the band my body might reject it because there is titanium in the port. I spoke my doctor today about it and he said he would need to check whether it was an issue..he said he didn't think it would be because the titanium is enclosed within the port and shouldn't have any contact with the body..but I just wanted to ask if anyone else can relate?

Suzzzie..what about if you pick the restaurant for going out? Or alternatively hold a dinner at your place for you and your friends - that way you can choose what to cook and your friend won't have an excuse not to come? Maybe if you invite other people to the social gathering your friend will come because she won't want to feel left out.

Just in response to Telecia.. I personally believe dreams are made up of memories or thoughts that our subconscious forms into dreams.. any chance you had recently seen your friend..had a craving for (or eaten) toblerone..and fantasised about sex in general? (I'm sure the last part's true cos all men fantisise about sex during the day) hehe

<p>I don't have dreams of a sexual nature very often.. but I did have a bizarre dream a while ago where Albert Einstein (the character in the movie 'Young Einstein) was a psycho serial killer who killed my brother and a group of his friends with a manual crank camera that was actually a partical vaporiser....</p> <p> </p> <p>does that count?</p>

man...I love Toblerone!!

And yes I think little girls wearing knee high boots and heels is pretty disgusting - I'm a mary jane fan all the way haha

I'm ashamed to recall the sorts of clothes my mum dressed me up in as a kid growing up...some of them were downright shameful hahaha! I think short skirts on little girls are alright if they're wearing tights with 'em..but I see a lot of 10 year olds now wandering around in backless tops and wearing bras and I just think thats a bit over the top..scary when you can't tell the difference between a 12 year old and a 16 year old! I didn't develop an interest in clothes until I was about 16!!

I think its rude if you don't know the person..if its a friend or family its ok to do it in modoration if you're sensitive to how they feel about it. I correct people's grammar if they're friends or family because that sort of stuff really bugs me - the only person I don't do it so much with is my brother-in-law who is maltese because he's grown up with his family speaking all sorts of colloquialisms and sometimes the way someone speaks is just who they are.

D'oh..looks like I'm not going to be banded in Nov after all..got told today there's a waiting list until February next year! I am so bummed right now :rain:

thanks for the post fabfatgirl. I actually had my consultation today and brought up the long-term complications with banding and I've been told that the issues of complications are isolated mainly to the old Inamed and VG lap bands because the bands were less flexible and often input too tight on patients. I've been told that lap banding IS still considered to continue to be the main weight loss surgery of choice and that mini-gastric bypass is set to be obsoleted in the future. The new AP band is larger (I saw one today) which prevents the fitting frmo benig too tight..more flexible than the older style bands..and the balloon style band is designed to cushion the stomach and prevent erosion. I'm not sure how long the AP band has been in use but I've been told by my surgeon that there have been no complications with it at this point. I was advised that the European and Inamed brands were inferior and that the AP band is now the best choice for new banders.

Hi ghost - I know exactly what you're going though...my man's the same! They don't understand the meaning of 'quality time'. Believe me, its been the cause of many an arguement in my relationship! It is good to sit down with your hubby and explain that sometimes being with each other isn't enough and you would like to feel a little more physical affection day-to-day. I agree with nume - a trip away does wonders for a relationship because there are no distractions from one another. Just because you both have budget restrictions doesn't mean you can't get away for a couple of days - you can go camping, arrange a weekend trip out to the country (do you know anyone who has a holiday house you can borrow for a night or two?). When you're away from all the stresses, a couple of days feels like a lot longer and you'll both appreciate the break and have the chance to really enjoy being around one another! Another thing I like to do is give my boy a back scratch before bed - he LOVES it..but only on the proviso he gives me a massage/back scratch in return..then you're both relaxed and appreciative of each other (perfect instigator for cuddling). Believe it or not, having a shower together's also a great way to have a laugh and get in some physical affection (wash each other's hair, scrub his back etc) Unlike me, my boy's very active and he thinks nothing is sexier than a girl in trackies getting sweaty, washing the dishes or making his dinner so he's quiet happy to sit and cuddle in exchange for being freed from chores..not always how I like it to be but it makes for excellent blackmail hehe

Hi guys, just wondering if there is anyone out there from Adelaide? I have been looking into banding for 2 years and finally made the decision to go with Dr Anderson.. Had my appointment today and got myself all excited about the prospect of being banded in Nov (latest Dec) because a friend of mine who had hers done a couple of years ago only had a 3 week wait before the surgery. Today I was told that there's a waiting list until February (and that was only if I joined the waiting list now - if I waited until my approval I would have to wait until JUNE)!! I am prepared to wait until Feb if it comes to it, but I am extremely disappointed that I can't do it sooner and can't help but wonder if there are other reputable surgeons in Adelaide who have a shorter wait period - is there anyone from Adelaide who has had surgery recently and can recommend another surgeon that I can look into as a backup? Any ideas of waiting times? With Dr Anderson it takes at least 3 weeks just to get an appointment - my Wakeup appointment is on the 12th of November and then my surgical consultation with Dr Anderson is on the 14th of December.

I think it is a good thing to discuss how the surgery will affect your relationships with other people because it isn't just you going through changes..the people who are your friends and family will be impacted on the changes and subjected to the emotional rollercoaster too...just because your self confidance will increase does not mean that you would write off your friends - only someone really shallow would do that. I think your friend was out of line saying that you willl become a snob...if smeone said that to me I would have said something too! As you said though MSN does tend to cause arguements because people do speak their mind about things they wouldn't normally say in public... it is also harder to interpret the emotion in text. I think its important you and your friend sit down and nut out what happened... if this is upsetting you both so much it needs to be resolved sooner rather than later!

Good to know! I thought YouTube would be a great source of information as far as watching people blog on their weight loss after WLS..but not the case. There seem to be a lot of medical practitioners trying to advertise WLS on YouTube..particularly the Mini Gastric Bypass.. there are a lot of videos on Youtube with people saying that 'lap band surgery is no longer the preferred long term solution' and that complications continue to increase with every year that a patient has the lap band..its very disheartening!! Even though I would still prefer the lap band over a gastric bypass I just want to hear it from people who have physically experienced it because its hard to know what to believe.

Hi andielmt I'm interested in the same... I keep reading about the long-term statistics of the band being not so good so it would be handy if some of the longer-term bandsters came out of the shadows and let us know whether they've had any issues/complications!

I have my consultation tomorrow and am soooo excited! I think the waiting list in Australia is only 4 weeks on average and luckily we don't have to go through any insurance approvals because the doctor can tell me what is and isn't covered! so I am hoping to be banded in NOVEMBER, yay!

I'm 25 and have bene with my 26 year old boyfriend Anthony for 7 years. When we first met we had sex all the time..but since moving in together we rarely have sex anymore. It is probably a 3-4 month occurrence. I had a really hard time dealing with it at first..I thought to myself over and over that it was because he thought I wasn't attractive..and I STILL think that has something to do with it... but now I'm used to it and I think of us as having evolved beyond sex being a big deal. I know physical intimacy is important in any relationship but we show are affection in many other ways...cuddling..kissing..holding hands (which we never used to do at the start of the relatinoship).. These days I am just as happy to go to bed and cuddle with my partner without having sex.. It would be wonderful if he found me more attractive once I lose my weight and if sex does become interesting/exciting again then GREAT! But I am happy either way..

Hi Voondahbah.. having been on the other end (the friend supporting another who has lap band surgery) I can understand a little how others would feel. I would sincerely hope your friend was joking when she said what she said but it is always possible that she could be semi-serious about it. My own best friend of 10 years had lap band surgery about 3 years ago. When she got the surgery I was happy for her...but secretly felt jealous knowing that she was going to be dropping the weight where I couldn't. I knew it was silly to think like that but I think it was my competitive side - you always compare youself to your best friend and she was a huge motivator for me in all facets of life - work, relationships..even weight! Eventually I got over myself and once I got used to seeing her getting smaller the jealousy vanished. Change takes time to get used to..if your friends really care for you they will come around eventually... Maybe this will be an opportunity for you and your friend to join a gym together and get fit with one another?

I've found the best hunger curbers are boiled eggs and pickled gherkins. I always keep gherkins in my drawer and they're low-calorie! I have trouble eating Breakfast first thing in the morning but I find a couple of boiled eggs just as I'm about to sit down to work will keep me going right up until lunch usually!

<p>Mine is a difficult situation..My man and I have been together for 7 years...I chased him for 2 years before we got together. During that time we had a 'friends with benefits' situation which I was happy with at the time, but I had asked him to tell me if he ever found someone else or got back with his ex. He never told me, but I found out later on down the track that he had continued sleeping with his ex after they broke up (even while he and I were sleeping together). It cut me really badly but in his mind he had done nothing wrong because he said it was physical only and he had no intention of getting back with her, so it didn't (and still doesn't) constitute cheating, although he now recognises that he should have told me. He has never cheated on me since we've been together, but I still watch him like a hawk!</p> PS: He stopped sleeping with his ex when he realised that I was the one he wanted to be with - they no longer speak.

Sharyn - you look fantastic! Sorry, just had to comment - I could almost swear your DH was superimposed in the second pic - he looks exactly the same in both photos! LOL

Hi Susannah - welcome back and congratulations on your weight loss success! Sorry to hear that you have been feeling so insecure lately - hopefully the counselling will help but I think it also takes time to change our body image as we lose weight so I'm sure in time you will begin to gain back your confidance.. keep us in the loop with how things go!