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Ninety days ago yesterday was my surgery date and I feel as though I was just released from the hospital due to all the drama I have suffered (my story below). Things are somewhat better because I had to remove myself from the main person who continues to disturb my peace, my only daughter. Oh yes it bothers me very much but I can no longer internalize and worry about her dysfunctional, emotional rages that she places on me. My main priority is to be healed and move on with my life. No matter who and what has to go my answer is ...bye, bye, bye!!! Can anybody relate to the need to adjust some people in your life to focus on yourself?

I had an RNY and a gallbladder removal on 7/24/15 and I am REALLY struggling emotionally!!! My food is good for the most part (I do dump sometimes tho) and weight loss is good too but my main issue is severe loneliness. I have NO ONE that I can discuss anything with or anyone for that matter that understands the new changes in my life. I lost my best friend due to this surgery (my changes were too much for her) so she did not come to help me during my recovery as promised (she lives in another state). I talk to her rarely now but it is very difficult because I am still hurting deeply. I am divorced and my two adult children are not supportive either. They have never been much anyway because they are so selfish. They emotionally abused me by starting confrontations the same week I came home from the hospital. Since they have chosen to disrespect my healing process I only interact with them when necessary. I have always been a strong, private woman (the one who others reach out to) and pride myself for not being what I call "needy" but my sadness has become so severe that I now know that I need to reach out. I need interactive, consistant people who want to be friendly and share. I am looking to not only be supported but I am looking to be supportive as well. There are no good WLS support groups in my area so I am reaching out here, thanks for listening!