Bostonie

As they say "misery loves company". When you decided to get healthy, she no longer wanted your "company".
It's very clear to everyone outside of the situation, that she is a mentally unstable woman. She clearly feels that friends are disposable, and if they don't feel the same as her on every single level, she discards them. I know this is easier said than done, but walk away and try to let it go. Stop reading her blogs and move on with your life. You made an excellent choice to get healthy, and should focus on the positive things ahead. In time, when you look back, hopefully you will see her and the whole "fat acceptance" thing for what it really was. I do not believe in a "fat acceptance movement", even though I've struggled with obesity my entire life. I never accepted it, and never felt good living in my own body. Aside from appearance, it's unhealthy and dangerous to carry around all that extra weight. Your ex-friend can call it what she wants, but anyone who has to drop friendships because their feelings don't mirror her own, is a pretty sick cookie. Move on with your life and find new friends that accept you for ALL that your are.

If she was a true friend she would support you no matter what. And if she's overweight she could even go through this journey with you. She is not your friend. And you need to stay away and do what you think is best for you. If you want to get healthy go for it!

I read some of her testicles double standard ranting... And I only have one word for it. Disgusting.
How dare she act like you are hateful for taking care of yourself, cutting of, so to speak, a lot of pounds of useless weight... Oh wait she did that for you when she cut herself from your life. I would send her one and only one more correspondence... Use your name and you will sue her for defamation.
Let her go, as they say, goodbye to bad rubbish. she's on her high horse, so either she has drunk the fat acceptance koolaid, or she its so jealous she can't see straight. remember... Living well is the best revenge. Good luck

No one who was ever your true friend, would do what she has done. Real friends support each other, even if they don't agree with their choices. You will be changing, and she won't. She can hold onto her "fat acceptance" crap as a crutch, and you go and do what you need to do for yourself. Stop reading her blogs/posts! I'm sorry for the hurt she has caused you, but you have already outgrown her.

this thing about excepting fatness is a complete lie.. a fat person can never except and feel good about being fat. she isn't willing to change but except who she is wahoo for her. but you have decided to do something about it. that just is making her mad. it would be the same if your drinking buddy decided to stop drinking or druggie friend decided to stop doing drugs. years ago I did drugs and to stay clean I had to stop seeing those that still did drugs, one of them was my best friend. you are doing the healthy thing. you don't need a friend like her. if she slanders you in anyway she is breaking the law. but she is allowed her opinion and you are allowed to have yours. since she isn't the type to except yours than good riddance, she won't be helpful during your journey and you need support from true friends. good luck.

potato chips and pepsi are vegan. so is Pasta, bread, rice, french fries and all kinds of high calorie crap. i have a friend who is very obese and vegan. she eats lots and lots of crap. she cooks these huge dinners for her family with 2-3 main dishes, 2-3 side dishes and 1-3 Desserts. she claims she is healthy and happy and PCOS is the only reason she is fat. i am like, honey, you are fat cause of all the food you eat and you have PCOS cause you are fat. but she is another one into fat acceptance (which is not a bad thing in and of itself, but should not be a reason for refusing to get healthy), and says she is fine with weighing 300 pounds. its sad really.

Im sure some people in my life disagree with what I did and talk behind my back... I cant imagine them having a blog like this.
Im so sorry. I cant imagine that someone would write this about a friend. We decided to take charge and be healthier, not because of "fat hate". She is ridiculous. You are lucky to be away from her!

Oh Sweetie, you do not need her in your life. Let her live her life as she sees fit. Don't read her blogs or allow mutual friends to discuss her. You worry about you and what you need to do for you.

This is someone whose own sense of identity and self-worth is threatened by your very personal decisions to have WLS. She's toxic. Please, Celebrate your freedom from this person.

There is only one point I can agree with your ex friend about. If she truly overcame an eating disorder (and I'm so sure she didn't just replace one with another) your choice may in fact be a trigger to her.
That being said, You don't need that negativity in your life. This choice has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you. YOU made the choice that was best for you, so don't let others get you down. Find Positive friends that accept you for you and not because of what you weigh. Feel free to add me as a friend.

She has serious mental health issues. Block her on FB and elsewhere. She seems like the type who will attempt to bully/shame/stalk you since she is not getting her way. She's attempting to get a rise out of you, like a little kid. That's what bullies do. She will get tired of her little game soon enough and move onto someone else. The best response is for you to live your life with courage and grace. Be well my dear.

I seriously sitting here still like... wtf did I just read!?!?!?!?! Good for you for blocking her on FB. You don't need her drama.

That b i o t c h is just jealous that's all.. She has some serious issues and your wls has nothing to do with it. Like PP said hit the ignore button on her and move on. You don't need friends like that..

As everyone has already said she has some serous issues and it's better that you find out now then look to her for support after your surgery and she abandons you. You don't need that kind of person in your life. Her exit from your like will leave an opening for just the right person to come along and be a true friend. Good luck to you.

Im sure some people in my life disagree with what I did and talk behind my back... I cant imagine them having a blog like this.
Im so sorry. I cant imagine that someone would write this about a friend. We decided to take charge and be healthier, not because of "fat hate". She is ridiculous. You are lucky to be away from her!

Hi All,
Been lurking this thread for a while and wanted to say hi and thanks for the info shared. Sleeved on May 28th. 250 beginning, 239 DOS, 226 today!
Still on liquids/broth/yogurt until hopefully the 12th when I have my follow up. Im really living on Isopure coconut (I bought the varity packs online and tried them all) choc carnation instant bfast and lowfat cream of mushroom/broccoli Soups.< /p>
Im still super tired and nap a few times a day. I used to drink iced coffee every single morning, so missing that as well.

Hi All,
Been lurking this thread for a while and wanted to say hi and thanks for the info shared. Sleeved on May 28th. 250 beginning, 239 DOS, 226 today!
Still on liquids/broth/yogurt until hopefully the 12th when I have my follow up. Im really living on Isopure coconut (I bought the varity packs online and tried them all) choc carnation instant bfast and lowfat cream of mushroom/broccoli Soups.< /p>
Im still super tired and nap a few times a day. I used to drink iced coffee every single morning, so missing that as well.