bandster_1007

i posted somewhere on here about sugar addiction because i had it bad. then i started getting restriction..now..i don't crave sweets like i did before. i think when you aren't hungry you don't care so much what you eat.

i only start "caring/worrying" about what i'm going to eat when i need a fill. (i just got restriction 2 weeks ago..and i just don't care what i eat..take it or leave it).

i financed through capitol one credit for medical loans. it is a 10% fixed for 5 years. Much lower than the local "personal loans" and even very competitive with my fixed rate credit cards. However, i have a 763 FICO, so that helped lots. i work in banking, and my bank said this was the best deal, they could not offer better (of course i had to finance $15k).

we need our own subforum...if we don't have it already. i think things get lost in just one really long thread.

(imo)

you know, i didn't think about that suesue, but i had about 3 weeks of vertigo and it was a sinus infection too (my last little cold). each person is different, but mine did make me naseous. not as bad as you are, but naseous still.

lmao...kat..funny.

i randomly pull out hairs on dh all the time. lol. he jumps too.

wow..i am still a large..i had no idea that mattered.

oh well..my $40 on sale nike's will have to do. (i was prepared to splurge, but i just couldn't do it)

yeah..as soon as i said that i went and had captain d's for lunch.

blech!

i'm getting over a cold, so i'm loosening up and as i do, i crave more junky foods. crazy, but true. my next fill is next week, so i just got to make it through this week.

indio, i agree with you completely that the weight is on our shoulders to make the right decisions.

i have found hunger control with my fill (at least so far), and for me my willpower is now 10 fold. i just think that in the beginning it is hard. for me, my doctor ok'd it, so i ate it. now, i'm not eating that junk, but i'm not hungry either.

(if i do get hungry..like yesterday, i tend to eat something i don't need)..that is why we need to plan our meals and have good choices on hand, so we don't grab the cheetos in a fit of hunger.

head hunger for me was a b**** after surgery, but lately, i just don't have it. i do a little at night, and a little during the day, but not ALL day like i was. i hope that it stays this way, because my past has proven to me that i am not as strong as you are and i do make bad choices.

the band will make me stronger, i know, and i think some of us get all of this done so fast that it takes our minds a bit to catch up. for me..i researched it online, asked a few questions, went to a seminar, and then a month later i was banded. that simple. it was almost too fast. i am just now fully realizing what i had done. i know that sounds dumb, but it is true.

If he's going to act so irresponsibly, then it is past time for him to go.

If he really cared about you and your MARRIAGE, he would have been at your doorstep, begging for another chance, with the MONEY FROM HIS SISTER IN HAND.

He hasn't done that, he's packing already. Tells you right there how much he loves and cares about you and your committment to one another.

This man was not ready for marriage, nor will he possibly ever be if he's going to let a sister dictate who he is with.

I wish you luck and happiness and good health!

Brava to you for standing up for YOURSELF! It's gonna be a rough start to 2008, but I'm going to bet this will be an amazing year for you!

i have to agree completely with faith. my dh can say some really stupid things sometimes, and i think a lot of men can, but if i dare to tell him to leave, he would collapse in the floor begging for forgiveness. that does tell you right there where he stands.

now, me being with a man who can say some stupid things sometimes (i say stupid things to him a lot also). you have to pick your battles, much like a 2 year old, but if your husband is openly choosing his sister over you, then there are deeper problems there and you should not have to subject yourself to it. perhaps he did not realize the committment involved in MARRIAGE.

i understand completely what sci girl is talking about. i did not try a cheeseburger until i was cleared for solids, but when i did, i was very surprised that i could eat a cheeseburger and fries.

let me say first of all that i have ZERO willpower. this is not an excuse, it is honesty.

i did not lose weight in the beginning and a big part of it was the lack of willpower. so if you continue to make those choices, i'm sure it will show on your scale.

however, my doctor tells us that we can have a cheeseburger if we want. he even says go for pizza, but the band keeps us from eating a lot. he also wants 10% of all of our calories to be Protein. if you eat that way majority of the time, a cheeseburger is ok. my doctor wants us to eat it with the bread and everything because we consume less calories that way (if we are restricted).

however, i must say that i was not able to make good conscious healthy choices until i had restriction. just as my doctor predicted. i am loosening back up, but i got my 2nd fill last week, and instead of a cheesburger for lunch, now i actually want to eat chicken breast. because i am not able to eat very many calories, i want them to be healthy.

when you are not hungry you have more control over what you put in your mouth.

Hello!! My name is Tabatha, and i reside in Arkansas.

i have significant other, who i refer to as dh..lol...not legal though. may as well be.

we have a 7 (or will be 1/18) year old son together. i would love to have more, but my health does not currently permit pregnancy.

i work in mortgaging. i studied psychology in college and took a very long break (still taking it). i current am 18 hours from my b.s. in psychology, but now i'm interested in business.. lol, i'll go back eventually, but i'm more interested in getting my weight under control.

my interests involve just about anything. i thirst for knowledge, and i love a good healthy debate.

this band thing has been hella hard for me thus far. i just got my 2nd fill, and i just started losing weight, so things are looking up.

Hi everyone, true true this is a nice idea! Thought I would ask a question to begin discussion.

What was everyone's biggest motivation to going through with the Band? ( other than health!)

Mine was simply wanting and needing to be different once I graduated from University.

ok...i'll stick my neck out...what was my motivation besides health..

i wanted to feel attractive before i am old.

vanity..i know...but it's true.

(by the way i am a twenty too!!!)

like i said, it depends on the doc. it's hard to get advise around here about food because each surgeon is so different. i could eat lunchmeat and cheese, etc. during my "soft" foods. i would check though, and i do not recommend that you go against your doctors orders.

i personally needed the support of dh. he has been my support system throughout this whole thing. i think if he were opposed, i would have crashed and burned emotionally.

it is joyous to have it done, and hopefully for you it will be smooth sailing afterwards. physically for me, it has been. (just started to lose weight last week). emotionally, however, that is a different story. i felt very much like someone had forced me into a drug rehab for food. hard to explain until you are there.

then again, my doctor did not require a psych eval because i was self pay.

i think you should pray and educate, as previously mentioned.

then if not, i do not think you should let your husband stop you from trying to be a healthier you. i'm sure when push comes to shove, he would understand.

i guess i'm just weird, i can eat, but i don't know that i could have ever eaten a baconater. i don't know though, i never tried. even prior to banding, i always opted for happy meals. but, i could eat another an hour later. i could never eat a 12 inch sub...but i could eat 4 or 5 pieces of pizza..yum..however, i usually only average 3.

i can't wait to start RUNNING with you guys. i'm back at work today, no fever, so i'm hoping tomorrow will be the day i start.

i can honestly say that the only one i have tried is the pizza hut p'zone..and i thought it was disgusting.

now..i wanted the double deep pizza, but my band has not allowed that.

i would clear it with your doc first to be sure. i didn't try to eat salad until i was about 3.5 weeks out.

i am with you..banded in october, and as of last week i had not lost a pound. actually gained.

got a good fill..now i'm 8 lbs down. but.. i'm starting to be able to eat again.

be patient...lets all hope it will come.

i can eat my food well (since my 2nd fill)..at least so far..but i think i must gulp my liquids, because i have pb'd liquids more than a few times...but no food. weird huh?

each doc is different, but when i was on mushy/soft foods i could eat a salad, but was not advised to eat carrots, the skin of cucumbers, the skin of tomatoes, etc.

hey, i'm not a december bandster, but i do want to encourage you to be patient. i'm an october bandster, and i have just now (literally) started losing weight. last week i weighed more than i did pre-band. i too have coworkers saying the same things. and the fact that my health has not improved does not help.

be patient, and be happy with your loss. i know it is hard, but we have to fight this demon that we all (imo) have ...self sabotage.

thank you sharon.

things have calmed down quite a bit since my original post. my brother never did really apologize, but you are right. i was doing it to help..and i don't know that i could have told him no.

as for the gas, i quit having gas about a week ago. oddly it was about the same time that i took a z pack for a chest infection.

thank you for you tips though. i've been drinking the mess out of crystal light, and before i wouldn't even think of drinking aspartame, but i do now...i don't like that i do, but i guess it is better than liquid calories.

thank you guys so much for answering. i've been really worried about it, and it is good to know that it is more than likely surgery related.

ok, so i had my sugery 10/18. since then, i have had one 4 hour period. then this month, i just didn't get one at all. i took an otc prego test and the first one was positive and the 3 after that were negative.

i used to suffer from amenhorrea, but it was when i was anorexic. i'm getting plenty of cal's now (at least i was before my fill).

has anyone else experienced this and is it normal?

i'm trying to see if it could be band related, i do have endometriosis.

yes, things are better...if i can quit getting these dumb winter colds. lol..it was 23 degrees here on friday and yesterday it was 76. ......that a big difference. darn arkansas weather.

ok. i got my second fill, and when i did he made me tight. i was already sick but getting better. then saturday, i got sick again..fever of 102, body aches, etc. it feels like the flu, but i had a shot. so i wasn't able to keep much down this weekend. liquids were to hard to swallow, i slimed them back up.

so i haven't really been eating crap. for example, yesterday i had a small piece of ham. the rest liquids that i could get in earlier in the day (at night, i feel sicker, so i think my stomach tightens up), then on saturday i had a piece of fish. that is it.

so, as of today i have lost 8 lbs. which is just from me being sick. i am definately tighter though.

how are you doing?