Kissifur

That's why I'm stress free. I last weighed in early July at a Dr. appt and will weigh again on the 27th when I see the dietitian.

I'm not sure about the others but for me my last supper was not to "gorge" myself. I wanted to have one last normal meal before I had more than half my stomach cut out. I actually remember I had 2 slices of pizza from my favorite pizzaria.

I had this problem early after surgery but it only lasted about a month. I am now two months out and its no longer an issue. Good luck I know how hard kids can be, especially those middle schoolers.

I had this problem early after surgery but it only lasted about a month. I am now two months out and its no longer an issue. Good luck I know how hard kids can be, especially those middle schoolers.

Yes it seems like the process takes for ever and than the surgery date sneaks up on you. I have settled into my new sleeved life fairly easy.

Welcome and congratulations on taking the steps to have a healthier life.

I have found that my fear is opposite of yours. My life has been filled with one diet after another followed by long periods of eating whatever I wanted. My fear is being on a life long diet. I want to have a normal relationship with food. I want to learn how to have normal portions and not spend my life obsessing over every piece of food. it feels like going from one extreme( having no control) to another (trying to over control) I am hoping I find that happy balance of food and exercise.

I didn't realize I was having a food until it was almost over. I did have a last meal and whats funny is I can really remember what it was. Now that I'm 2 months out I don't miss any of the foods I thought I would miss and I can technically eat anything I want (except steak not allowed for a six months to a year).

My mother just asked me this question and the answer is no. I do not weigh myself so I wonder if that's the reason I don't feel like I'm losing. My surgery was on 6/05 and I weighed 225. I only weigh at Dr appt the last time I weighed was over a month ago and I was 205 and I wont weigh again until 8/27. I guess this is the price I pay for my no scale rule.

Most habits are selfish be it smoking or eating so much that you can no longer care for yourself. During my addiction to food no one could have made me change because I was an addict. I saw the way my boys would look at the thought of me going to their school. Did I have a right to place that burden on them? No but I was an addict. As much as I hate that my husband smokes it is no different because he is an addict.

I have a question. .. is it better to develop a healthy balance with food (including carbs) or to restrict? I have noticed vets who experience weigh re-gain were very obsessed in the beginning which doesn't seem like it can be maintained for eternity and never truly take the time to learn self control. I am new so I am trying to figure out which method is most effective in the long term.

Unfortunately most of the people preparing us have never been through it themselves making it almost impossible to give us a realistic idea of what to expect. For me I have been very lucky, outside of a bout with dehydration at week two this has been my easiest attempt a weight loss. I pray that it remains this way. Now I usually hate being cut open so this time was no different but much easier than my gallbladder removal (I regreted that everyday for a month)

I haven't dealt with any comments yet but I think you have already screwed her up with your success. I think you hit it on the head " envy, jealousy and spite" so short of telling her to shut up your loose clothes and rowing classes are speaking for you and she can't handle it. Keeping doing you!

Sorry to steal this but I would also love to hear the answers to these questions.

Congratulations on your loss and good for you for fighting through and getting back on track. I have been there with the mental slips and know how hard it is.

You should follow your surgeon's instructions. Mine said the same thing and I didn't think to try one until after I became dehydrated. I spoke to him about it and he said it was fine as long as I am not having any discomfort, which I never have.

Or longer!

Thank you for taking time to tell your story. I am a "newbie" so I have no advice better than what has already been given. I just wanted to say thank you and you can definitely get back on track.

My program also says no straws. However about two weeks after surgery I found that straws were the only way to get my water in. Since I'm a gulper it actually was more painful to try and "sip". My doctor said it was fine as long as it didn't cause any discomfort from air.

I had my surgery through Kaiser WLA and I wish there was a gradual increase with protein. It is way pass stressful trying to get 75-80 gms from day one. Which I gave up trying really early on. I wasn't getting that much protein before surgery so now I focus on protein as much as possible.

Sorry God didn't make me fat, I did and for me the question is no different than a child asking why is someone in a wheelchair or blind. My children have never laughted at a fat person I would never allow it but I will say as a parent children do ask questions at the wrong time and it can be off putting.

I agree with you. My children are far from rude but in reality I was much bigger than most of our immediate family. I don't think that they ever intended to hurt my feelings or anyone else's for that matter but they are only five (now) and they question everything not just why are people fat. I always make a point to explain to them that it is not polite to hurt people's feeling but I'm not sure they completely understand why the question is any different than the hundreds of others they asked that day.

I so understand what you felt and I'm sorry it happened to you. I have 5 year old twin boys and they were constantly asking me why I was fat, did I have another baby in my stomach and if I ate too much food? and not always in private. They would also ask if people in public ate to much food but always with a very concerned innocent face. They're honesty which my husband and older boys (18 and 15) know better then to show is what made me push forward with the surgery. Your day is right around the corner stay strong.

I agree that those are the most frustrating. I have to admit that I have came here several times to get validation that doing the wrong thing is okay and the kick in the butt has came from all of you through other people's questions.

Do not feel ashame for making a choice to inprove your quality of life. There are a lot of things you can't do on your own, lossing weight just so happens to be one of them.