Averiex

So here's a question. Lately I have been emotionally eating because one of my day care children that I've been taking care of since nine months old is now ready to leave. I feel like a mother that has a child going off to college I've been so heartbroken over it that I've been doing some emotional eating. How do you cope with emotional eating and emotional difficulties and what do you do instead of eating? I just feel so sad..

My baby is leaving.. Everyone at work makes fun of me over being so sad, but since 9 months (she's now 3 years 4 months) we have had an emotional bond. I have clothed, cleaned, groomed, potty trained, and bought clothes for this little girl. She called me 'Mama' (has no mother in her life) before my actual name. She clings to me at work. I think she knows Friday is her last day.

I felt this way about a week after surgery, then all of a sudden I became wired. Turns out I had a food allergy that started to remedy while being on the all liquid diet. Chances are you are sleeping off the drugs, gas, and other toxins. Your body just went through a big change! It seems like such a small surgery but the repercussions are draining!

Ah, the additional information changes things then. My apologies. I hope everything works out! Are you considering additional WLS sooner rather than later? I saw you mention the sleeve. Does your new ins have different requirements?

I am really sorry to hear about your struggle and am glad to see you are on the road to recovery. However, this being considered a "band fail" seems hardly fair. There seems to be a lot going on that lead to the fail of it. One is that we are supposed to wait 12-18 months before conceiving to allow maximum healing and weight loss. Any red zone signs should be called in to the Dr. Immediately. And although I understand not having the insurance coverage makes things difficult, that is like being annoyed that a toothache turned into a cavity and didn't wait for insurance. There are reasons the band slipped, however I don't think it can be chalked up to "just another band fail."

I use the boost glucose control. chocolate is much better than the vanilla.

Im not hungry between meals, however I wanted the band to help with overeating. Although I am getting better at being more conscientious at what I eat, there are times I just go on a binge. So although I may not need a fill, I want one. My band is empty, therefore what is the point of it being there?

Does anyone else feel like this is just another dieting route? I am getting into the mindset of panicking the night before my "weigh in" with the surgeon. Instead of enjoying the journey and learning to have a good relationship with food, my surgeon will not fill my band (surg may 8th, no fill yet. See post:no fill) and I feel as though the worry is too much. I want to be successful but this isn't weight watchers. This is not what I expected, and if I knew ahead of time then I don't know that I would have had the surgery. Does anyone else feel this way the night before their surgeon's weigh in? Mine is once a week, every thursday.

Just be careful with anything with actual grapefruit in it because if you haven't had it in a while and you take medications you'll have serious diarrhea!

45 pounds is so great! Good luck on your fill I'm still waiting for mine but hopefully yours goes great!

Thanks everyone for responding. I have an appointment with my doctor on Thursday and if he doesn't give me a fill then I think I will definitely have quite the argument with him. I understand I need to do the work such as exercising and eating the right way but I also think that the band is a tool and if he isn't going to fill me then I'm not able to use my tool. So again thank you everyone who agreed and just reiterated what I was thinking anyway! This sad pug doesnt want to be sad anymore!

I practically begged for a filling he still said no. I just kind of thought that after the two weeks of solid that I would get one so I mean without the fill it just feels like a diet. If I feel like it's a diet what's the difference between any other diet I've been on? that was the whole reason I got the surgery to help with my binge eating and be happy with smaller portions. I don't know what to do seeing as I Already begged.

So my surgery was on May 8 and my doctor doesn't believe in giving fills unless you are struggling to lose weight even though you're following the program or your satiety doesn't last long. so I haven't had a fill yet in almost two months. although I understand why he wants me to try to lose weight on my own I feel like if that had been possible I would've done that in the beginning and had saved myself from getting the surgery in the first place. I understand that the lap band is a tool but because it isn't filled I don't feel as though I'm able to use it as a tool to the fullest extent. Maybe I'm just whining but I feel pretty discouraged about it.

5/8/14

Hi all. I was given the ok-go for solids a week ago but am experiencing pain when I eat. It is almost like too much gas is near my ribcage. I only feel good doing liquids. My band has no cc's yet, so I don't know how much irritation is going on but I am still afraid. Anyone else experience pain? Even drinking too much causes it.

It seems a bit like a double standard.. She wants you to love yourself, but on her terms.. WLS isnt just about vanity, it is also about health. She seems to have many demons she needs to work out. Personally I think she is just taking your choice and creating a problem out of it to justify not dealing with her actual problems. Keep away from her.

I feel similar. I was banded 5/8/14 and have not received a fill yet. I have gained back half the weight I lost and also feel like a failure. I too am thinking about going back to liquids for a little while to get back on track. Good luck and hopefully we get our minds in line with our hearts!

The only thing I slightly grieved, very early in the process, was giving up binge eating. Knowing I'd never have the crutch of eating my way into a food coma like I did before. Of course that was the entire purpose of the surgery, but it is still a loss and awareness that the old habit must die.

JWM this really hit home for me. I actually told a family member In a moment of frustration that I regretted the surgery due to not being able to binge eat.

-Av

This is an awesome post. It is so honest and touches on how it is not always easy, despite others thinking its the 'easy way out". I also am an overeater, compulsive even. I was so overweight I was eating just to stay awake at some points. In a way, this is magic as you said!!

So proud of you!!

-Av

My doctor said that as long as they are M&M sized or smaller it is alright to take whole. Bigger can be broken in half. You might want to double check with your surgeon though, everyone operates (ha ha) differently.

-Av

So I can be very -ahem- impulsive emotionally. I am in my 4th week post-op and although there are ups and downs I am finally on board to being serious. I had a serious talk with my mom about failing. She said I will either succeed or I will fail and learn from my mistakes, however what a shame to go through a painful surgery just to give up.

She is right!

I am on track, and even though I am not allowed these items at this time anyway, yesterday I passed on cake (omg love) and tonight before a work meeting I ate some fish and passed on the pizza everyone else was eating. Four boxes! For me, these are both huge trigger foods for me. They are comfort foods! I was satisfied with watching everyone else eat without a second thought!

Hope everyone else had some nice victories today, no matter how small!

My new comfort items are becoming roasted low carb veggies! Believe it or not, to get in more nutrients even the pureed baby food tastes good. Broccoli and carrots? Who knew!

-Av

Thank you everyone. I think i just needed someone to put things into perspective for me. I am doing much better and have even lost a pound since actually facing the truth that I was telling myself I was doing the right thing when I wasn't. Thanks!

Thank you everyone for kicking my butt. Sometimes I forget to look at the overall journey. I get stuck every few steps. Thank you all for being the guiding hands helping me to keep going.

I know; I never expected a presto moment. I'm just disheartened to have started gaining the weight back already.

I feel like a big, heavy, sad failure. I always set myself up for things to go wrong. It is sort of as though my brain does not want my heart to be happy; they cannot seem to get along. I feel guilty. Did I waste my Dr's time? His staff? My family? Myself? I had surgery May 8th, and although I know it is a tool, not a cure, I just feel lost. Sometimes I think I'm doing well. I feel thinner. But the scale says I have gained weight since starting the pureed part of the journey. I feel like I have failed and I have only just ended week 3 of my journey.

Hummus, eggs, Beans without any skin covering, fish, deli turkey chewed well if in a pinch, chicken salad, refried beans, Protein drinks.. I have had icecream too but not often.