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I don't know how to fix it...I'm tired, too! I was never this tired before. I had my band done on 9/5, and every night since I've tossed and turned. There's no pain now, so it's not that. My friend said it could be that I'm not eating enough protein. But, I've been going to bed when my 10 yr old does! I feel so old!

Valstar, How do you get through the best friend comments? I'm going through the same w/my bf and it gets worse every day. How do you handle the comments?

I'm sorry to hear about your marriage. If you don't mind me asking, is it related to your weight loss? My BF is very supportive, but he has said once, "You're going to lose weight and leave me." I'm not sure he really believes that, but he may think that because he's overweight I'll want someone thinner. I don't think that will be the case, but what if he can't handle it? What if it's HIM that changes and wants a fat chick??

There was another post who said that they blend in more now than they did before. I think we think we're blending in, but really we're not because our size draws attention. Only it's negative attention that we get. Unfortunately. I've been "warned" by co-workers not to change. I've heard stories that women lost the weight and then left their husbands/families for a new fling, etc. There is so much pyschological warping done when you're overweight, that I'm scared I'll change if I get thin. Will I be conceited? Will I be modest about it? Will I be scrutinized by coworkers? (There are a lot of politics where I am, and I'm worried about jealousy.) Also, I'm worried about losing my best friend of 16 years. My food buddy, who is already starting to say negative things, even though she's trying to be supportive. It hurts her to see me lose weight. Ack! I'm rambling...but really I just wanted to let you know -I'm there. There a ton of things I'm scared of, and mainly because I've never been thin. BUT. I want to get into a bathing suit next summer and swim with my daughter. I want to ride the ride at Six Flags that I was kicked off from because the seat restraint wouldn't fit (HOW AWFUL THAT DAY WAS!!!). I want to be healthy and normal, and that's pushing me past the fear.

LOL! I have a 3 way, folding mirror in my bathroom, and sometimes, when one isn't shut all the way it scrunches my reflection and I look thin. It's the best moment of my morning.

I wanted to do this 4 years ago, however my ex talked me out of it, citing the same kind of horror stories. Now we've been separated for over a year and I had it done 2 weeks ago. It's the BEST thing I've ever done! I keep thinking, "Why did I wait??? I'd be at my goal weight by now." In the end, you have to do what you think is best for your health and future. I know he's probably scared and worried about you, but like the one post said, educate yourself, then him. A lot of people just don't know the details and facts. Take him to a seminar, show him websites...etc. The thing I liked the best about the LapBand is that it is reversible. If you do have trouble, it can be removed.

That doesn't sound strange at all! There were certain veggies that I had reactions to. I loved them, but I couldn't eat them and I wasn't tempted. I always said I wish I had those reactions to the bad stuff. Now I do! I do better with the restriction...left on my own I'd eat bad forever, then hate myself in the morning. This band, as I see it, is the best thing I have done for myself. I see "normal" women and instead of thinking "if only I looked like that", I think "i WILL look like that.

I don't know...I would think if you're not getting enough Protein, but I would ask the Doc to be sure. I'm trying to get my butt out of bed earlier to walk, but I've been losing that battle this week. I was doing very well pre-surgery and lost weight, and was feeling great. Now, I am sleepy! What is motivating you?

It's interesting reading these posts...I was banded on Sept 5th, and was told for the first 2 weeks have 1 ounce of fluids every 15 minutes. After the second week, it's 2 ounces of soft mushies every 30 minutes. Things like scrambled eggs and to switch every 30 minutes w/high Protein shakes, pureed fruit, etc. Then, sip on Water between. But I'm still HUNGRY! I want to bite into something and eat it, like a normal person. But I'm losing weight and that's keeping me going. My first fill in in October, and I'm just holding on to then. Does it hurt when you drink 8oz at a time?