sapphire2301

I'm booked in for surgery for the 14th, a little nervous as I'm a mum of 2 beautiful kids and have an awesome husband, but I weighed up the pros and cons (excuse the pun) of the risks of this surgery and the risk of me having a heart attack before I'm 60 and its a no-brainer.
Other than my husband, I haven't told anyone else that I'm having WLS. Work knows I'm having keyhole surgery but not what its for. Anybody else feel like they want to keep it private?

Creating a new thread because the other one has gotten really long.
So, here are my before and currents to keep the topic moving.

Current as of last week:

I feel exactly the same way - only my husband knows and work thinks I'm going in for some surgery on a cyst. I'm not ashmed of it but I don't want everyone to keep asking me about it and I don't want it to define who I am. It's just like any other medical problem you are getting fixed, some people will want to share that with friends/family, others won't. A personal choice I believe

Hi Hi Hi!!!!
I was sleeved on Wed 2-26. My hospital stay was one night and super easy. I have had no problems with liquids or keeping them down. I am not hungry. I am on Clear Liquids for now then advance to full liquid, smushies ect...
I'm not stepping on the scale till my one week dr follow up this thurs. My body has been through trauma and lots of IVs and drugs have been pumped through me. I don't want to discourage myself.
I'm having a little bit of pain and bloating in my tummy area but it is being managed by my pain meds. I return to work to tomorrow.
Just wanted to check in and wish new sleevies good wishes on your journey!!!!!
Sip, walk and peace ????

I have told no one of my surgery. Not even my husband. Everyone thinks I am having surgery because of ulcers. I have no idea what I'm going to do when my husband come to the hospital. I don't know if the doctor is going to tell him. I hope not. I hope my husband doesn't start asking questions. Do I feel bad..... Yes, of course. I'm doing this for me. I didn't want negative feedback on my decision. I didn't want opinions, questions, or concerns. I know my family will support me but they talk to much. My mom has always told me the best person to tell you secret to is yourself. So that is what I did.... Kept it to myself. Now, the ulcer wasn't a complete lie because while on this gastric sleeve journey I found out that I had ulcers but they healed with medication and diet. Don't get me wrong I feel guilty........ BUT; I have worked so hard for my family and friends. Put so much before myself and woke up one day realizing I didn't know who "I was" anymore. I was 5'4 200 lbs with bad knees and back. I spent 10 years in the military proudly before getting medically discharged. I was so consumed in my family and everyday life that I couldn't tell you what made me happy anymore. I had faked my smile for so long I couldn't even tell you what was real and what smile was fake. So I needed to do things for me. Mentally..... Spiritually ....... And physically! That is what I have done. For 3 years I have slowly got back to me and I am happy. So I made this choice for me and me alone. This was my gift to myself. Yes it was selfish not telling my husband and family and I maybe wrong, but I am proud of myself and I love me!!! My husband loves me and my family. Right now I am going through my pre op liquid diet my surgery is 1 March 2014. And nobody knows that I'm having gastric sleeve surgery but me.

I'm a week away from surgery and when I finally decided to go for it I told my husband who says he loves me "just the way I am". I'm not doing this for looks, I'm doing this for my health. I've mentioned it to my parents who seem unphased by my decision. A few coworkers know because of having to prepare for the time off. And I've told my two best friends; funny, my overweight friend was negative about it; my skinny friend is ready to take me shopping and to the beach and not have me hiding under a towel!!!
But honestly my struggle has been with the lack of support. I'm a people person and need to bounce ideas, concerns off someone; for this decision I haven't found anyone. Reading on this forum has given me the ability to keep on my journey and know that although I'm nervous this is the best decision for ME.
Thank you for sharing your stories.

Since my husband decided it is no one's business, we have not told. No one missed us 1 night in hospital. The weight has come off slowly over the past 4 months. My husband has lost 50 lbs LOL and even his 30 y/o son has not noticed. Life is good. We enjoy not having to explain our surgery and have gone on with life, focusing on our eating plan. Our life has been a dadgum diet of some sort for so many years, as our friends and neighbors know, that it is the truth to say this diet is working and we are eating less.

I am not planning to tell anyone but my 7 nursing school classmates, my instructors ( since I won't be able to lift at clinicals for a while), my husband and a few close friends. Not telling my kids because my ex would find out and I don't want any more negativity from him. That's it....

This is such a personal choice - everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do regarding telling people. Some can shout from the top of a mountain, "I had weight loss surgery!" Others, like me, keep it to themselves.
Here's my story - I told 4 people...My husband, son, parents and best friend. I chose not to tell others - I live in a small community and have seen how some "friends" talk behind others' backs. I didn't want that.
Here's the thing - I've lost 50 pounds now and my brothers and their families haven't commented on my weight loss. I have had a couple of people recently comment on my weight loss, but haven't been put in a position to explain it or even really talk about it. I got some compliments and it was left at that - no need to elaborate. I've been in situations where I have had to eat with business associates and friends and no one has commented on how little I eat. These were both things I worried about before surgery - having to explain the rapid weight loss and the amount of food I eat.
We all just need to do what's best for our individual situations.

Nmjg I couldn't agree with you more! I chose to tell my husband, his mom and my very best friend. No one else knows not even my 4 kids. I just said I was having hernia repair surgery (still have to get that after I reach my goal weight) and doc told me most of his patients who choose to keep it private just say they're eating less these days. Lol I like losing weight without drama from others!

Personally, I chose to not tell anyone except my husband and two college age kids. In my family there is so much drama. This surgery was for me, and I just did not want to deal with all the cr@p I knew would be coming at me. I still think it was the best thing.
It took people months to notice I lost weight at work. When they did notice I just laughed and said I had been dieting for months and people were just noticing now because I bought new clothes. At the first of the year I started working out with a trainer that everyone knows around here, so that has bought me some weight loss believability, too.
No one suspects WLS and i am just fine with that. I am very private and my medical issues are no ne else's business. That is just me, though. Plenty of others here are fine with being poster children for WLS. More power to them. For me, the journey is hard enough without questions and worry and accusations from other people.

I had my surgery here in NY on the 18th it was over before I even knew they started which was awesome! came home 2 days after , slight pain from the gas but not much in my stomach more in my upper shoulders walk walk walk makes you feel better. Now 2 weeks have gone by and 12lb down the only issue I'm having right now is wanting something to crunch on so ice chips or ice pops cut up are filling that need.
Don't stress the surgery it's fast and pain is little

I'm scared but more excited. I try not to think about what could go wrong because I can't control that. I just have to let it go. I do my best to focus on the good things to come following surgery. I bought my daughter tickets to a concert today for her 10th birthday and the concert isn't until October. All I could think was that by then I won't be embarrassed to barely fit in the seat!!

I think it's completely normal to have doubts. It's major surgery. I am a week away from my surgery and I'm not allowing doubt to come in anymore- I've made my decision and I'm sticking to it. I just keep praying for peace and protection- that's what will get me through. Good luck!!!!

From 285 to 180 !!! God, I thank you!!